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How do you people feel about prenups?

Yanya 7 July 23
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Doesnt apply to me, my feeling is don't get married...
But, that's only me... 🙂

Buddha Level 8 July 23, 2018

Right---well, then, don't LIVE with anyone, either!

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Don't get married and you won't need one.
Keep your stuff.
Marriage is wholly unnecessary.

Hear, Hear. I agree completely.

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The best idea ever. Don't even think about getting married or cohabitating without one.
Anytime there is a major purchase, you need to update it with just an addendum that states who paid, how paid, and what happens to the new purchase if there is a separation.

Why would anyone risk putting an attorney's children through college?
My parents spent over $500K on their divorce and the house and business ended up sold....gone....kaput. But, hey, the attorneys had nice houses in the end and the two "opposing" divorce attorneys got married 3 years after my parent's divorce. Don't even try and tell me the whole thing wasn't a set-up and scam.

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My father and his last wife had a prenup at her request. They both had children from a previous marriage, and both wanted to insure that they were taken cared of in case of divorce/death.

My father died of cancer. Even with the prenup this witch contested the will. She even went as far as demanding us kids signs a statement saying we were horrible children who didn't care for our father (if we signed that she would allow the will to go forward. If we didn't she was going to hold the will hostage). The judge finally had enough of her b/s and told her lawyer that unless she had a valid reason to hold up probate he was finishing it up. Because of the prenup she got nothing except she was allowed to live in the house my father owned until she died. By the way, they were both individually well off so she was not left destitute.

If well written, a prenup could be a good thing to have. I do agree, it kind of puts a damper on the relationship, however when you look at divorce rates in the US that's a small price to pay for security.

EXACTLY! I've lived with stepchildren like you've described--sweet as could be until their father died and then.......well......let's say I had to threaten a lawsuit, to protect MY house!

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Prenups are not only for the rich. And they work for both men and women. Many working women today have their own assets. Whether that be in retirement, insurances, stocks/bonds/mutual funds/annuities, homes, cars, savings, etc etc etc. Nothing wrong with protecting assets on both ends. Also, what people don't realize is that prenups are negotiable. One can negotiate monetary compensation if the marriage fails or in event of death. Whatever. Spouses with more asset power might even opt for a prenup that provides set terms for financial compensation. It isn't always a bad thing in my opinion.

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Whats mine is yours ...baby !
Cuz , I love you .

And I will love you forever, until the end of time.

@jlynn37 ...hope so ...maybe if we've collected things that are more important than the one's we love, then we have bigger problems than the things we might lose ?

Awwwww ❤️ glad you guys found each other ??

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I'm not sure I understand why people get married. It's like having a threesome with the government.

JeffB Level 6 July 23, 2018

Some governments consider you to be married if you're simply cohabiting.

That's can be true but only 7 states in the US recognize common law marriage.

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Any time there are children from earlier marriages, significant differences in earnings and/or ages, property from other relationships/investments, etc....a pre-nup only makes sense. And,
E V E R Y O N E needs a trust/will!

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I don't anticipate marrying again, but I think a prenup would be a requirement if I did.

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I'm all for em and honestly I'd prefer a pre-nup...Not because of how I feel about a person but honestly I'd like to know that regardless of how things end,there's a clear cut path to getting through it that keeps things fair for all parties involved and doesn't let emotions and feeling get in the way of things.

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I have to admit..I thought this post was originally asking how do you feel about Pinups..

Anyway on one hand they suck the romance out before you have even embarked on the journey...

However..there are occasions where I could see it as being an odious necessity..like where a lady Marries a farmer with land that has been in the family for generations..if their marriage breaks down without a prenuptial agreement...than the farm could be lost to the next generation..thats just one example...

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Required. I'm carrying a lot of debt from grad school. The money side has to be handled transparently. Not 18 anymore, ya know? I'd probably do wills and living wills at the same time.

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The more assets/net worth between the people getting married, the more one makes sense. And there's plenty of people out there that are afraid the person they are so attracted to is actually a con artist who is about to take at least half of everything they have spent their life building up.

The more the person you're in love with seems "too good to be true", the worse that feeling gets - though it could just be love.

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Unless you're both starting from scratch, a prenup is definitely a good idea.

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Necessary

Mokvon Level 8 July 23, 2018
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People change over time. The person you marry at 20 is not the person you're married to at 40. And if you grow apart, or lose trust, it shouldn't be your financial ruin.

For anyone to think that a prenup should be unnecessary, I'd like to ask, have you ever trusted a friend who did something that was a violation of trust that you ended the friendship?

As a follow up, what on earth makes you think that a husband or wife isn't capable of the same?

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I feel better about simply not getting married. If you need a prenup your leaving the door open. Don’t get married and have a more honest relationship. If it’s meant to be forever time will pass, if it’s not... then I don’t need anymore lawyers in my life.

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I doubt I'll get the chance to have one at this point of my life. If love does sneak up on me, I'd need one to protect my assets - I don't have any earned income anymore and my long term survival depends on carefully managing what I've already accumulated.

zeuser Level 9 July 23, 2018
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Half of nothing is still nothing .....she can knock herself out and get one if she wants lol

Simon1 Level 7 July 23, 2018
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Shite! If I felt I needed one I wouldn't get married in the first place!

Pete66 Level 6 July 23, 2018
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I do not know , let me ask Trump. He seems to be good at it as well as flinging his penis all over the women. He is so disgusting I cannot even imagine a woman considering him.

EMC2 Level 8 July 25, 2018
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Marriage is stupid in the first place. Love shouldn't require a contract.

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What do you mean ' you people? ' 😛

Prenups are as pointless as their attached nonsense of a marriage contract. Just slips of paper that take all the fun and spontaneity out of a relationship, and replace it with a metaphorical clock of "who's gonna die first so I can get dibs on this crap?"

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Absolutely necessary nowdays.

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Pretty much a placebo

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I feel strongly about them and strong for them. i have nothing to lose and yet, I would still insist on one. maybe I'm just jaded, idk.

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