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If you and your girlfriend/boyfriend didn't live together, would you expect at LEAST a text message everyday ? Edit.
Maybe "expect" wasn't the word I wanted. And people seem to have to have a time table established. ....
So "..you've been dating for over a year....wouldn't it seem fitting to text/exchange some affection on those days you can't see each other..?"...

David3001 5 July 30
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I think both people must be honest since the beginning and lay out expectations. Do I expect a text from you everyday? Or are we going to have a more lay off approach to this and communicate whenever we can without any expectations?

Personally, I like to plan long term with a nuanced open mind. So I would set no expectations in a short term relationship and I would set expectations in a long term relationship.

Great question.

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I am a daily communicator. Early on in dating, it is not expected, but in a relationship, it is very important to me. Call, text, face-to-face...just some communication.

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Hell yeah!

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Yes..that would be expected and perfectly reasonable,for either a call, or a text to ask how your day is going..or how it went etc

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It kind of depends on the relationship. If it’s new then no, but if you’ve been seeing each other for a while then maybe.

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Hell no. Even when living with someone there are going to be busy days with opposite schedules where you might not see each other awake. Quality is more important than quantity.

If you personally need that level of attention from your partner then communicate it in a meaningful manner, but don't play it off as an expected standard if it hasn't been discussed.

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Nope. Life is busy, many of us are doing many things. If there's an expectation, it sets the tone for an obligation. If rather send our recieve a message, or whatever else, when freely given out of sincerity.

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Yes 100%. But since I'm an introvert, before the days of texting (and because I hate phones) my answer would be that I could go months without communication.

Hihi Level 6 July 31, 2018

This was based on a two year long distance relationship 30 years ago...

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I can't imagine anyone who would care enough to check up on me daily.
That would be weird.

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Yes I would. I'm very insecure.

Carin Level 8 July 31, 2018

Knowing that it would make you feel better if I did, then I would but personally I wouldn't expected anyone to have to.

@RoadGlider You are a truly caring person if you would do something like that.

@Carin it is true that I am.

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Depends on how much I like them

hopefully we like someone we call boyfriend or girlfriend? maybe even like them lots n lots n lots 🙂

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Nope.

JacarC Level 8 July 31, 2018
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No. Her thoughts and Prayers will be enough comfort.

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no i doubt it once a week seems fine as a cutoff but just doing something because you can makes it pretty pointless

weeman Level 7 July 31, 2018
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It's nice, but certainly not expected. A barrage of texts every day can be annoying in any kind of relationship is annoying. One a day lets each other they are being thought of. Missing a day or two means they are human and sometimes simply can't or just need time for themselves.

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That’s gonna differ with every relationship.
Generally, I would say no.
Expecting it denotes insecurity and/or a lack of trust in your partner.
That’s my view

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It would be nice but to expect it would mean it wasn't a healthy relationship

Simon1 Level 7 July 31, 2018
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It we lived together then yes, It would be nice and considerate. No if we are not. The relationship is just buildng and everything is not in place to have such expectations. Texting is sort of a double sword. Its nice to know they care but expectations are controlling.

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I would like to talk everyday, of course. There is very important connection for me and I would like to spend more time with my lover in different ways.

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no I would expect a great phone call are you with the person or not

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No. It's what makes both people feel comfortable. If it doesn't happen one day I would expect the person who expects that to say I want to hear from you everyday.

lerlo Level 8 July 31, 2018
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I'd be worried or think something's wrong. Also it depends on how long you've been together.

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