"You raise your voice when you should reinforce your argument." - Samuel Johnson
I think the same can be said of personal insults, but sometimes it's difficult not to fall below par!
name calling gets a bum rap. most arguments settle nothing anyway ... no one's mind is changed and they eventually lead to name calling. So I skip the middle process and go straight to the names. It saves me time and mental energy that I could be using on weed smoking and contemplating the universe.
I never raise my voice, or insult some one to win an argument or a discussion.
I'd rather be calm and present the facts as well as I think, and i am open to hear what they might have to say. every now and then their points may change my mind, maybe I might change theirs. I'm always open minded. An I generally like to have discussions with people that do the same
If some one starts with the insults to me, I'll just walk away, or if some one tries to troll me in a post, I simply won't respond. I just refuse to give them the satisfaction.
This will be an unpopular opinion but I think insults are often a very useful tactic in an argument. Let me explain as it depends on your ultimate goal.
If your ultimate goal is to win an argument changing the mind of someone, who are you looking to "win" over? Is it the party you're arguing with or is it an audience listening to both of you? In both cases properly positioned insults can be hugely beneficial.
In the case of trying to win over an audience, it's easy to see that insulting your opponent (as long as it is insightful or humorous) your audience will appreciate it as they are not the subject of the insult. It degrades the view of your opponent and the viewing party will begin to side with you as the mentality to be drawn to the strong.
When attempting to win over an opponent, this is much more risky however a well timed light insult can throw off their argument and push them off balance. It's useful sometimes as if you imagine an argument as a battle, properly balancing offense and defense is a necessity. This happens in poker considered putting someone "on tilt" and is a strategic maneuver. Calling a high bet with a bad set of cards and getting lucky, then later showing your hand to your opponent is a sign of disrespect and purposefully upsetting. Later that opponent is more likely to bet and call out of anger than skill, and therefore lose more money in the game. Like I said it is risky but if done properly, you can definitely rope the person back in and then win the debate. Sometimes people may consider the end result worth the less honorable tactics.
I think I handle arguments and insults differentially than most.
Arguments is an angry discussion, that is not efficient for finding middle grounds, and lacks being friendly. I calm them down or move on.
I can not be insulted because.I am either learning or confirming something I can adjust . Or if it is BS, just ignore it.