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Carole, I'm sorry this happens. Most tRump people can't read anyway.

I'm on a couple of dating sites and apps. My profile says one-word messages will be ignored. I get several messages every day, and all of them are "Hi!".

Hang in there. There are men who read and are even Sapiosexual. You'll find them.

I know exactly what you are saying. I have had all of the things you mention happen to me when I was on a dating site. Men seem to be very visual so if you look good and are on a dating site then that is all that matters to them in many instances. Oh well. Not much I can do to change the situation except that I am honest if someone contacts me and I can see that the differences are way too great, I just say thanks but no thanks.

Tasty rant.

I would like to state like every other man, I'm not like other guys. Now that it is out of the way, I think too many people view it as fishing, you can take time to cast one line or you can cast as many as possible and it only takes one to respond for them to believe they can win the individual over with charm and if not break out the old dick pic. It is just laziness and not really being interested in what the individual wants but to fulfill their own gratifications.

Well, you motivated me to look up "Sapiosexual." Ha Ha! I'm always a little behind the curve with pop culture references.

Hasn't the Trump administration demonstrated how much Republican's don't care about facts?

Sooo, is that a “Maybe”? ?

Men where given two heads but only enough blood to operate one at a time and they usually use the head without a brain. That being said, yes, I think some guys just try to get in enough to have sex or send a dick pic.

You do amazing work. I hope that you find the person that you're looking for.

Well said.

If you're anything like me, it's wearisome to beat one's head against the proverbial wall of apathy and indifference when it comes the failure to dialogue in an intelligent and thoughtful way.

That kind of person, especially among us men, is few and far between.

Regardless, I hear you loud and clear. I'll make a concerted effort not to be that guy.

Great rant! Hang in there; there’s bound to be sincere guys around here somewhere. Right? Right?! The carpet bombing or spam messaging approach seems to be popular.

My theory is (and a few guys on here have somewhat confirmed this theory), that most men don't know what sapiosexual is, are not interested in looking it up, and assume you are into kink.

Preach it! Happens to me all the time too

If it's any consolation, perhaps you could reframe it from time to time as being respected by all the people who read your profile and didn't message you because of It? Lol

That being said, solid points. Sorry there are dense assholes in every corner. And if you're a sapiosexual, keep it up with there well-written posts and you're bound to find one falling right into your path. (Honestly not trying to elude to that being me)

Read your profile! You are clear and make no bones about who you are and what you want. My profile has almost nothing in it. Just my fears about Trump. I have 2 tiny pics of me and some artwork that I love. Other than that nothing! Not what I do, nothing about my kids and grands, books etc. I guess it really does not matter either way. If you lived in the east coast we would definitely be friends! Men are visual, they go by that first. At least that is what I have been told.

Men!

They must be related to women...

I hope you start messaging men whose profile you have read and find them interesting. Let us please know if the same story continues!

My favorite is the believer who messaged me. I told him I don't date believers - it's a no win situation for both of us. He just blew right past me and said, "but I can take care of your fragile heart." Now, here's the thing: If anyone reads my bio and gets the idea that I'm fragile, I'm thinking they're illiterate or stupid or delusional. And secondly - here's a concept - "No means no."

Hang in there. Not all men are like what you've encountered. I always read profiles of people who I meet here or who respond to something I post. If I have a conversation with someone its helps to know where they're coming from..

Good rant and you're not alone as it goes both ways. I haven't experienced it here on agnostic but other dating sites I've had women I'm not compatible with and even a few men try to chat or email because they're "interested". Even after a no or blocking them, some come back. I've heard that in the age of Trump that this has become more of an issue also. Conservatives can't find dates and don't want to date within their ranks, people think they can re-mold you to what they want, or they don't care because it's a numbers game....

Don't give up, keep trying and don't let them get you down.

P.s. Post some more of your "work pics", they're cool. The land of the lost one brings back memories of watching the show and thinking it was cool! The devilish horned one looks familiar but can't place it, thought it was the goblin from maximum overdrive when I first saw it.

Strong women are captivating. Maybe they have nothing in common with you, yet ….
Disclaimer: I skimmed through this post too. But I still think you are neat.

Now I had to read your bio..... check

Sorry about what you're going through Carole. Hope you stick around.

I read your profile. Interesting.
Good luck and have a nice day!

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