At 70, I just had run ins with two 65 yo women, who were incredibly immature and biased and critical of the most absurd things. I know a 50 yo who thinks I am great on many levels, but has an ageist, almost racist attitude about our 20 year difference. I am fitter than she;have much more formal and informal education than she, but she has no interest in me as a man. I am acquainted with a 23 yo athiest woman with whom I have the most amazing connection, and even her mother was taken with our connection and thought we would be together if we were similar in age. In short, I believe age is just a number where psychological/emotional/cultural/educational compatibility is concerned. Age can matter for health reasons. As a Jack Lalanne Clone, even at the age of 70 ,very few men or women match my fitness. This is probably my biggest problem. The women who could be companions for me are much younger and almost none are interested even though I can beat them in a race up Mt Washington or in a pushup or burpee contest. Any 60 year olds with a pulse want to take a chance. Not just another pretty face, too.

My response is incredulity and a high degree of suspicion. I try not to let my overall cynicism on the subject of men in their 30's getting with women in their 50's interfere too much with my sloppy crush on Emmanuel Macron. But in real life I am most comfortable considering someone within 5 years of my age over or under. I don't want to be someone's sexy mom or someone's nurse. I aspire to be someone's equal and go through what's left of our lives together.

Some say age is just a number, but reality has shown me that age also often reflects a level of emotional and physical development. This view is not meant to seem a negative, but it is a reality which i needed to learn once upon a time.

Since my late 20s, i have had relationships with younger women. and as i got older, the age differences widened, not on purpose, but due to circumstances and my passions.

I have always lead a very active lifestyle, which attracted me to people who shared and wanted to share those passions with me. I loved and still love biking, hiking, white-water river rafting, with a list which goes on and on. The women my own age who were attracted to me seemed to be focused on things which had little or no interest to me; things like security, stability, and developing family.

By my 50s however, i realized that most of the younger women ultimately wanted to have families and children. Something which i never had time for, or the inclination to participate in. I also began to observe how i had served as a stepping stone for the younger partners in my life. In fact, i had served as a transitional change agent and a learning opportunity to all of them, every one of whom moved on after we separated to live the life of their dreams, whatever that meant. Since i have continued to stay in touch with many of my friends and partners since my 30s, I have also been privileged to hear and see what life has been like for them since we parted.

People in their 20s, as i was at that age, are still exploring, developing, evolving, and changing which is something i learned the hard way, and sometimes painfully. But i made my beds, so to speak, so i had to lie in them.

No regrets and reams of wonderful memories which will never disappear. Until i reach the dementia stage at least. LLOL

Actually, i bumped into an ex-partner just a few months ago. Karen and i had lived together about 30 years ago and i hadn't had any contact with her since the mid 1980s. She was now a grandmother, was still a beautiful person, and according to her, still also had fond memories about the great times and adventures we had shared. At the time, she was about 20 years younger than i had been. The unexpected meeting gave me a wonderfully warm glow in my heart.

What's interesting is my own evolution. These days, since my mid-60s in fact, I have found myself more attracted to interesting women who have extensive and eclectic experiences. They're much more fun and interesting, with or without the sexual options. And as i'm moving into my 70s, they're often older than i am.

I like older men because (generally) time = experience = knowledge; wisdom if you're lucky.

I'm not interested in younger men. Not sorry.

I had a relationship with a woman 17 years younger and it worked fine but if she hadn't pushed it , it wouldn't have happened. There's a bit of a disconnect with history, songs, movies etc but these days those things can be caught up on. If the younger person chooses it, you should go with it. It's flattering and as long as they are old enough to know the pitfalls, it's no different than any other relationship if you two connect. Just my two cents.

I'm 88. If I was ever approached by anyone under 60, she would likely be a hooker.

The one thing I'm certain of is this is so different for everyone, and even for each relationship. I've twice been in a long term relationship with somebody 10 years younger. The first one was great and we're still best of friends today. The one after that was a disaster. Overall I'd say for me a 10 years difference either way works, if it works for the other party. Much more than that and I think I'd maybe feel uncomfortable. But you never know. I have friends who've been together about 15 years with a 22 year age gap.

I've always thought you were very attractive. Wish I was younger.

I'm 43 and I have found I just can't relate with most people more than about ten years younger than me. It feels like they're from another planet. I get tired of the blank stares over not just little things like 'the fuck is a rotary phone,' but also things like handling money, relating with family, etc. I don't fault them for having different experiences, but it really feels like we're both trying to cram a square peg into a round hole.

On the flip side, I can't really relate with folks who are older than me, because they always seem to want to treat me like I'm a stupid kid. Yeah, I look younger than my age, but that doesn't excuse the 'I'll tell you when you're older' attitude.

I’m not overly humble, but if an attractive much younger woman contacts me (as has occurred a few times on dating sites), chances are it’s a scam.

I prefer men my own age or close to it. I also look young for my age. I've been pursued by men old enough to be my father, but more often by men young enough to be my son. I think the super young ones are sometimes looking for a sugar mama. Not interested in that. I have a son I could spoil, but want him to make it on his own.

The lopsided age thing can be fun in the short term, but from my experiences, the intentions were not always honorable. If you've got something real, then enjoy it. If you feel something's not quite right, and you are hesitating, then you might be right. Every case is different.

I just feel like my priorities, where I am in life, and cultural reference points are in different places with someone significantly older/younger.

I think the important thing is just finding a person that is on the same wavelength as you are in life. If they happen to be much younger, or much older then so be it. I have a co worker that is 33, and his wife is 59 I believe, but despite all her current health issues, I don't suspect any foulness in their relationship.

Good Grief. We sure do conjure up enough barriers in our minds, don't we? And guess what - what's going on inside my head and your heads IS NOT REAL.

Ageism to me is bigotry writ large. Now I'm sure I'll get a barrage of, "Well, this is what happened to me..." - and you know what? It doesn't matter what happened to somebody else.

Age is just a number. Race is scientifically irrelevant. If a person is brave enough to express interest in you, why should you do anything but be smart, listen and learn about that person. Prejudging them is so, well, religious.

I'd faint if any woman said she was interested.

My response is that I don’t feel that we could possibly want the same things. We are at such different places in our lives that it just doesn’t seem like it’s a feasible relationship. I also seem to attract younger guys more so than ones my own age. Sometimes I wonder if that means that I am immature...

Age doesn't mean much to me. I am lucky if they don't run away screaming or laughing maniacly.

That will never enters my mind, I am grateful to the older ladies who taught me how to love and the young ones that I have love and all the others in between, I never forget them, love has no age, as long as you are willing to love and sometimes say goodbye, even when it hurts, love and be loved transcend age and sexsuality.

I have dated much younger than me and older than me, the one that was much younger actually acted more mature than the older one! Age is just a number! Depends on the person!

First, you look a lot younger than your actual age! But, I digress. Personally, I prefer people in by age range +/7 years.

I've been on both sides. All good.

I don't mind "getting to know" anyone, regardless of age. However, someone more than 5 years younger, or 5-8 years older won't "get to know" what's in my undies. Been there, done that, won't do it again.

My last partner was 22 years younger than me and age caused few problems, we even had a son born when I was 51 but when pressure came from brexit, She's French, it started to be made out to be one, same as anything and everything I may have ever done wrong. In itself it was no problem except when excuses to leave were needed. She wanted to go back to France but not as a toker. So she stopped then left me behind. Sick part is, France looks like it will legalise.

I couldn’t do it putting aside the legality of such a relationship any woman that is around 5 years younger than me is too young for me. I need her to be around my age: anything else feels wrong.

At this stage, anyone over 40 and I am 61. But they need to demonstrate a good level of maturity, stability and an easy temperament. In other words, not likely to happen anyway.