It is not your call to worry about "messing up his life" unless he wants you to adopt him! It IS up to you to decide if you would feel uncomfortable around him, which will screw up both of you. If you are starting off thinking like his Mom, fergedabowdit.

I would enjoy the ride as long as possible! ? Older men do it all the time!

15 years may be a bit of a stretch. Perhaps 10. I need for her to be able to relate to my age group and be young at heart enough not to care. ?

I think you’re hot. But then again, I know where you’re coming from. I have a female friend who is 12 years younger than me who has feelings for me. And I would honestly be honored to be with her but I see her the same way you talked about. I wouldn’t be with her because she’s young and beautiful and has a light inside of her that someone like me would just darken.

So I can sympathize with what you mean. But age is only a number (within reason of course). A person can be much older mentally wise than what their body physically is. Find someone who is right for you for more than just physicality.

I'm 16 years older than my current gf, which is by far the biggest gap I've ever had in a relationship. We're completely in love with each other. Not worried at all about messing up her life; we're both poly.

Meh. I don't think about it much. I just assume gals under 30 are not interested so they may have to give a little extra push to have me figure it out
Worry about your happiness and let them do the same.

It seems like you know what you want, you don’t have the fetish for the young thing enough to act on it. I’d say find someone in your age group and make it happen ?

there are so many factors to consider in this question. I think that, for you as a lady,you would have less negative feedback to deal with from those around you, than I would as a man if I dated someone fifteen years my junior. But, aside from the social implications,as long as the other person is mature, and the relationship is healthy, I don't see any issues. But each of those are huge questions all on their own, andhard to gague while being the one involved.

I know - not any real help here - but its a question that really only those involved can answer.

I would say something along the lines of: "I appreciate your interest, however, I do not think it will be something that will work out in the long-term. I just don't think we really do have much in common."

I have an admirer who is a good 24-25 years younger than I am, and I would pursue her in a second if she were single (there's always a catch, isn't there?). I draw the line when the age difference can be expressed in double her age or more. What in the world would we talk about, after she got done laughing at my old body? You're right, it's generally not the best idea. But you never know until you try, right?

I was 32...she was 20 (twelve years difference) She pursued me until I married her. However, many people would guess may age as less than hers. At a wedding one time, a guest (mature female), was astonished that we were man and wife...she said I did not look old enough to be married, guessed my age as "14". We had three children together in the ten years we were together. The divorce had nothing to do with our age difference...she just wanted to return the promiscuity, drunkenness, and drug use of her high school days (which I knew nothing of before I married her). She found normal marriage to be boring.

Chance would be a fine thing. I will let you know if it ever happens

I've had one marriage and several relationships with men who were younger than myself.
I've had several relationships with older men.
Age really can be an issue, if it's allowed to be.
It doesn't have to be, but there will always be those, outside the relationship,
who will feel compelled to 'contribute' their two-cents about it.

People are always going to talk, make snide comments, have negative attitudes,
tell rude jokes.

You (and your partner) can either let it bother you, or not.

Well for me that should happen when pigs fly so if it ever comes up I'll let you know

It's not the number of years, it's the ratio between ages.

Been there done that. I look younger than my age-have always dated younger. I am friends with my last bf who was 25 years younger. I have found love here with Dan who is close to my age. Do what feels right to you. Timing is everything.

I'd be open to meeting a much younger man, but I've dated a few and it wasn't the greatest experience. Now a significantly older man would concern me. I realize life has no guarantees, but the odds are not great for a long term relationship.

better to over think than under at least you are then somewhat prepared for future issues its trite but do what makes you happy if an age difference isnt a problem for either then fck it

The last time I was involved with someone much younger, it just didn't work. He was at a point where he wanted to start a family, and I was too old, physically, to birth more children. I also think it's unfair to children to have them too late in life. You set the stage for your partner and children to lose wife or mother early in life.

Sure younger women are quite appealing but if I'm old enough to be their father I just can't see anything meaningful resulting. I yearn for a meaningful relationship!

Run for the hills. She's obviously a gold-digger.
And.. linda would undoubtedly set Zorak the Wonder Dog on her.

As long as it's not too much of an age difference I'm open to it. It's mental and emotional age that matters to me for the most part.

I've only ever dated women younger than me. For one, I have a TON of energy. I don't require coffee, caffeine, energy drinks, or much sleep. And I've noticed that most of them have difficulty on occasion. Secondly, I always get guessed quite a bit younger. I usually hear between 26 - 30, but in the last 2 months I've heard 18 and 20! ?
My last serious girlfriend I met when I was 35 (I'm 38 now, 39 in a few months). She was 19. We dated for 2 1/2 years, and it's probably been the best and healthiest relationship I ever had. As long as she is of legal age and we can connect on that level, I'm good.

I've always dated people who were older than me. My goals and my maturity level just matches those folks better than people who are within a year or two of my age. Although, I'd be open to dating younger people or people much older than me, if everything clicked and I happened to be single.

At this stage, anyone over 40 and I am 61. But they need to demonstrate a good level of maturity, stability and an easy temperament. In other words, not likely to happen anyway.