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I know the subject of age difference has come up a few times here. However, I'm curious. What would be your response when a much younger person tells you he/she is interested in getting to know you or having a relationship with you? Much younger, can be 15 or more years younger or half your age, or whatever you would consider to be much younger than you.

When that happens to me, my first thoughts would be that I would be messing up his life if we were to have a relationship. He has so much more life potential and future left ahead of him than a middle aged woman like me. He should be with his own kind and have fun and enjoy being young. I don't look my age so on many occasions younger people think I'm actually their age. And I would think, "I'm old enough to be your mother!!!". I mean, I do enjoy people of all ages (as long as they are of legal age) but these thoughts are always at the back of my mind.

graceylou 8 Aug 5
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there are so many factors to consider in this question. I think that, for you as a lady,you would have less negative feedback to deal with from those around you, than I would as a man if I dated someone fifteen years my junior. But, aside from the social implications,as long as the other person is mature, and the relationship is healthy, I don't see any issues. But each of those are huge questions all on their own, andhard to gague while being the one involved.

I know - not any real help here - but its a question that really only those involved can answer.

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As long as it's not too much of an age difference I'm open to it. It's mental and emotional age that matters to me for the most part.

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I would say something along the lines of: "I appreciate your interest, however, I do not think it will be something that will work out in the long-term. I just don't think we really do have much in common."

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I have an admirer who is a good 24-25 years younger than I am, and I would pursue her in a second if she were single (there's always a catch, isn't there?). I draw the line when the age difference can be expressed in double her age or more. What in the world would we talk about, after she got done laughing at my old body? You're right, it's generally not the best idea. But you never know until you try, right?

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I was 32...she was 20 (twelve years difference) She pursued me until I married her. However, many people would guess may age as less than hers. At a wedding one time, a guest (mature female), was astonished that we were man and wife...she said I did not look old enough to be married, guessed my age as "14". We had three children together in the ten years we were together. The divorce had nothing to do with our age difference...she just wanted to return the promiscuity, drunkenness, and drug use of her high school days (which I knew nothing of before I married her). She found normal marriage to be boring.

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Chance would be a fine thing. I will let you know if it ever happens

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I've had one marriage and several relationships with men who were younger than myself.
I've had several relationships with older men.
Age really can be an issue, if it's allowed to be.
It doesn't have to be, but there will always be those, outside the relationship,
who will feel compelled to 'contribute' their two-cents about it.

People are always going to talk, make snide comments, have negative attitudes,
tell rude jokes.

You (and your partner) can either let it bother you, or not.

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Well for me that should happen when pigs fly so if it ever comes up I'll let you know

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It's not the number of years, it's the ratio between ages.

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Been there done that. I look younger than my age-have always dated younger. I am friends with my last bf who was 25 years younger. I have found love here with Dan who is close to my age. Do what feels right to you. Timing is everything.

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I'd be open to meeting a much younger man, but I've dated a few and it wasn't the greatest experience. Now a significantly older man would concern me. I realize life has no guarantees, but the odds are not great for a long term relationship.

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better to over think than under at least you are then somewhat prepared for future issues its trite but do what makes you happy if an age difference isnt a problem for either then fck it

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The last time I was involved with someone much younger, it just didn't work. He was at a point where he wanted to start a family, and I was too old, physically, to birth more children. I also think it's unfair to children to have them too late in life. You set the stage for your partner and children to lose wife or mother early in life.

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Sure younger women are quite appealing but if I'm old enough to be their father I just can't see anything meaningful resulting. I yearn for a meaningful relationship!

0

Run for the hills. She's obviously a gold-digger.
And.. linda would undoubtedly set Zorak the Wonder Dog on her.

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I like older men because (generally) time = experience = knowledge; wisdom if you're lucky.

I'm not interested in younger men. Not sorry.

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I've only ever dated women younger than me. For one, I have a TON of energy. I don't require coffee, caffeine, energy drinks, or much sleep. And I've noticed that most of them have difficulty on occasion. Secondly, I always get guessed quite a bit younger. I usually hear between 26 - 30, but in the last 2 months I've heard 18 and 20! ?
My last serious girlfriend I met when I was 35 (I'm 38 now, 39 in a few months). She was 19. We dated for 2 1/2 years, and it's probably been the best and healthiest relationship I ever had. As long as she is of legal age and we can connect on that level, I'm good.

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I've always dated people who were older than me. My goals and my maturity level just matches those folks better than people who are within a year or two of my age. Although, I'd be open to dating younger people or people much older than me, if everything clicked and I happened to be single.

Mea Level 7 Aug 5, 2018
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At this stage, anyone over 40 and I am 61. But they need to demonstrate a good level of maturity, stability and an easy temperament. In other words, not likely to happen anyway.

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My last partner was 22 years younger than me and age caused few problems, we even had a son born when I was 51 but when pressure came from brexit, She's French, it started to be made out to be one, same as anything and everything I may have ever done wrong. In itself it was no problem except when excuses to leave were needed. She wanted to go back to France but not as a toker. So she stopped then left me behind. Sick part is, France looks like it will legalise.

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I don't mind "getting to know" anyone, regardless of age. However, someone more than 5 years younger, or 5-8 years older won't "get to know" what's in my undies. Been there, done that, won't do it again.

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I've been on both sides. All good.

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I have dated much younger than me and older than me, the one that was much younger actually acted more mature than the older one! Age is just a number! Depends on the person!

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That will never enters my mind, I am grateful to the older ladies who taught me how to love and the young ones that I have love and all the others in between, I never forget them, love has no age, as long as you are willing to love and sometimes say goodbye, even when it hurts, love and be loved transcend age and sexsuality.

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Age doesn't mean much to me. I am lucky if they don't run away screaming or laughing maniacly.

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