This question has been around before and my comment still is, where does one find such friends??????

It's fine. They don't last very long most of the time,but that's OK. They were both good friends so when circumstances changed that part of it ended but we were still friends. People aren't always in a space where they need or want a serious relationship.

It's fine. They don't last very long most of the time,but that's OK. They were both good friends so when circumstances changed that part of it ended but we were still friends. People aren't always in a space where they need or want a serious relationship.

Thank you all that have commented so far it's very helpful information which is why I even posted about it to learn from everyone on here about what each person believe or feels in regards to friends with benefits type relationship would love to hear more food for thought on this topic if others that haven't commented on it yet want to share their input. Please and thank you.

Well that's how my ex and I were for years. He didn't want OT hang out endless I was single because I'm not a cheater but even when I was he would wait till after we hooked up to tell me about his current gf. And this went on for years and after I had my first daughter, not his we actually got together and had a child together but turns out he never changed. Hints why he is my ex and I am a single mom of two.

I have a couple of friends with benefits, one is an ex who scored a house from me many years ago, she is happy as things are now, we would never live together again, or even in the same state, another ex turns up every 10 years or so, = same time next decade? Neither are interested in finding someone. Another friend makes contact when she is between relationships, she is going though a divorce at present. I am faithful when in an exclusive relationship, and if someone special came along I would end these other relationships. But until that happens means I have company when i go on holidays, weekends away, even just someone to cook for occasionally.

I like my own space and I would like a partner mostly who is my friend who I can trust. I wouldn't mind a long-term fwb where we live apart but are still true to each other and do the good stuff as well as sex and be faithful and long-term.

There's no better sex than with someone you know well enough to trust and let go and be able to get anything your fantasy/kink meter/body/brain desires. Like @gatovicolo said, FWB is shallow.

If you make a decision not to get married to the person you're sleeping with, then in practical terms it's what you have. A friend with a benefit. That's probably still true once you're married, if you consider your spouse a friend (and that's NOT a given).

Exclusivity was not necessarily implied by the question; that's a whole other matter, so:

To answer with my own opinion what I think you mean by the question...friends with benefits are preferred initially. You don't become exclusive until it's what both of you want out of the arrangement.

I'm past that-Life is short-Easier when you're younger?

I think it’s fine. If that’s what you want, that is. It’s a little shallow though.

If it's what participating parties want - why not ?

I've considered it from time to time - even sometimes thought I might be better suited to that. Never quite found the right "friend" though.

If it’s what you both agree to then I think it’s fine. I was in one for over a year after my separation and I knew the deal going in, but for me personally it was very hard not to develop feelings for the other person. I ended things when that issue started making things not as fun any longer. No strings attached was what I needed at the time but I wouldn’t do it again.

I am 80 years old and have been a single man for 40 years. Just about all (if not all) of my relationships have existed as "friends with benefits" and that is why I have remained single for 40 years. It has always been my choice and I have had no issues doing it my way. Everyone was/is a winner (IMHO).

Never had it work for me or anyone else I know. Someone always tends to feel more for the other person eventually and then you lose your friend

Great on paper. In practice, not so much. I'll never do it again, and not because I'm the one who catches feelings.

Hmm. Usually someone gets hurt cause sometime emotions develope. Have a friend currently playing with Fire.

Someone always ends up getting hurt.