That's sad. Is he stressed out & depressed, or showing signs of moving on? Good on you for trying to save the relationship, 6yrs means a lot.

We have to be careful here. If my memory serves me well, you're currently pregnant. That changes the dynamic, like it or not. For some in one way, not the same for everyone. On top of that, psychologically woman and men are completely different (Obviously we do NOT know all details), one scenario could be that you are thinking A and he is just thinking B, simple as that. Other possibility is that men are wired differently and they get bored and tired of the other person from a pure physical stand point, in other words, they may not feel any desire at all but that does NOT mean they don't love their partner anymore. It's just another joke of life and the biggest problem is, the man don't even know/understand/accept it as a problem therefore they can discuss or even bring it to the table. The woman keeps pressing the issue and the man keeps getting frustrated out of not knowing how to handle it and they drift apart more and more slowly and stead. You can pull a string only so much. You can be the adult and try an experiment, as much as your logic will tell you "hell, why me??.. screw him !!!"..but if you can overcome those feelings for a couple of day where you give him space and surprise him with nice gestures like "oh you want to watch this TV show then I'll watch it with you" or any little thing you can think of where you can make him feel comfortable. Here is the best part, if he reacts favorably then I would say you both have a big chance to ride the storm if any of you gives the first step towards caving in somehow. If that doesn't help then the problem is something else. I know you will wonder why am I telling you all this like is your job to carry the burden right now and not him...well that's exactly my point, someone is going to have to do this and I guarantee you, we as man are so stubborn with this things that it won't be him taking any step. Once we get in that loop, it takes the other partner's help to get out of there, again if it is a salvageable situation which I think there is a big chance that it is. If you think I am just full of it then I am very much aware I am taking my chances because I have no doubt you will let me know. That would be ok. Anyhow, I understand you are in a tough spot, I hope this helps.

That's a tough one. It seems like you'd know each other well enough to have a sense of what is going on. I'd recommend counselling. A neutral ear is a good thing.

I tried for ten years and it was all lost time that I can never get back.

You cannot make someone listen if they don't want to. Time to move on.

How to discuss the problem of communication with someone that doesn’t listen. I don’t know. That’s quite a riddle. Good luck. I hope you the best.

Im probably more inclined to try and try and try, maybe for even too long so Im not sure if my advice is best. Im not super great at communication. Its extremely difficult for me to share feelings esp. I do best when I have some warning so I can prepare myself and think things through.

Have you tried that? Maybe at a time when things are relatively calm sort of schedule a time to talk? Let him know you value his input and you are really feeling out of the loop so you would like to take time out to discuss what’s going on and where you are headed and then set a specific time.

Unfortunately, I think you should make a clean break. When things are done, they're done..

Does the timing coincide with anything, like this site, for instance?

Sounds like it's time to call it quits.

I would be willing to call it quits. I would guess his actions indicate that he has found someone else and not willing to tell you.

I don't know that I have anything to add to what other commenters have already said advice-wise. Sorry to hear you're going through that.

I hope you're able to figure out the best decision for you both, in the near future.

I'm sorry to have to say this but he has already left mentally, he is just waiting to leave physically ; maybe hoping you will force the issue.

I guess it might be over but one consideration: Very frequently when people say someone else is not "listening" to them or has stopped communicating with them it simply means the other person disagrees with them. That might be reason to re-examine the relationship or reason to move on...

I would never abandone those green eyes! ??
And I will be happy if I got just a little smile in your face.

You would love my collection if arrowheads and stone tools i have found scouring the riverbanks and such

Sorry for what you have been going through. Has something been going on with him at work or his family where it could affect his behavior?

If he is unwilling to communicate, you might need to do some detective work. Talk to his friends, family, or coworkers. Find out if something is going on that he might be embarrassed (or ashamed) to talk about with you.

You might want to consider a trial separation to see if things can be worked out; if he wants to work things out. If not, the relationship could be over. Sorry.

my approach to strained relationships has always been to call it quits rather sooner than later. in the case of my longest relationship (8 years) i actually gave it 2 more quite frustrating years after it had started to get uneasy - & in the end we managed to stay friends. someone else might stay, no matter what, "working through it together" & secretly gnashing their teeth; my experience & trust in myself is that the love within will be there anyway, & people exist like so many stars - why wreck the rest of my life in unhappiness...?

Are you kidding? He's obviously already left the relationship.

Time to cut your losses, tell him "things aren't working out" and ask him to leave, then block and delete him from all social media, tell people who ask about him that "things didn't work out," and if he resists, put his stuff on the lawn and change the locks.

As a member of the enemy (men) I shall claim you a hero for putting up with this. Get some , claim some , go to bed. That’s a way to live.

As a member of the enemy (men) I shall claim you a hero for putting up with this. Get some , claim some , go to bed. That’s a way to live.

How does he feel about being a father? Does he want to help raise his child?