I'm open to meeting men but I get private msgs from all types of people, some from those "here for community ". I don't think men are as intelligent as women in this regard. What can you do?

One learns something every day. I didn't realise that there is a 'Here for Community' button. This site is laid out as a dating site and often it is hard to answer the questions outside of that context.

This is a confusing app. I am more interested in sharing beliefs (nonbeliefs rather) and talking openly with people about living a non beleiving life. Most of the people i experience in life are religiously centered and it makes it difficult to feel comfortable. Having said that, men on the internet will use any medium they can to try and get an edge in with a woman. That's just a sad fact.

The sad thing is, almost anywhere you go online, there are people who won't leave female-identified people alone. They think we're all essentially commodified objects, around for their entertainment, and will welcome their advances because we're supposed to feel "flattered" by their attention. This group is no different from any other and there are plenty of people here (mostly male-identified people) who behave that way.

If I see someone has indicated that they're here for community, I take it to mean exactly that. I'm certainly not going to second guess them nor disrespect their reasons for socializing as they wish. I have vacillated a wee bit between "looking" and "community," myself, as I adjust to being single after the traumatic break up of a 17 year marriage. The last thing I want to do is bring old baggage on a new journey.

although I put down here for Community only,if I should so happen to meet someone that would be fine. I am single. I just don't put myself too far out there. To be honest, I've given up on any and all dating sites.

I think its simply - they just don't read the profile, don't understand it, don't think you are serious, or want to try anyway. No big mystery here.

I joined out of curosity, sure it seemed like a dating site at first. Then you start reading some of the posts, I was truly amazed. I've been looking for a place that I fit in. It really is an awesome site. I've never felt more at home with people I've never met. It's really nice to find open minded people. Who Knew ?

It's interesting. I am looking for all of the above. I am on dating sites too, which can be a hot mess. So finding this site can be encouraging to people who are looking to date people with deeper like-minded connections, as opposed to just shallow photo swiping. That said, I think it can be an interesting little hybrid opportunity between online and traditional ways of meeting people. If you just look for friends who share similar thinking and ideologies, it could create more relationships and groups in the real world and then if any romantic relationships get found out of that, it could be nice, a little more like the old school real world of dating.

You are right to be disturbed. Still, there are a lot of people who are on this site for sharing thoughts , intellectual stimulation, and interesting conversation. When I look at a person's profile, I am looking for more information as to whether or not this is a person I would be interested in conserving with over time.

This kind of behaviour is baffling to me, it smacks of duplicity. I don't understand it, literally. Sorry you are experiencing that.

Matter of perspective.

As a guy living in the middle of nowhere, this website is primarily a tool to enjoy the input from rational (not theists) people and troll the occasional theist that leaves his slime trail on these pages.

No offense, but you are beautiful, especially for the animal rescue, but I believe that often people see only what they want to see. They convince themselves that they are the exception, that somehow it does not apply to them. After all it is then, right? We all build stories of our life in our mind where we are the heroes and if we go about things right we will get what we desire, often neglecting the very real people involved. Especially when it is online interactions.

I dunno. Some dudes like to cast a wide net. If he can't take no for an answer, that's on him.

It should not be a big deal at all. I think we are here to talk, otherwise I don't see any other. Dating? Even when living in the same city is hard with busy life and hectic schedule. My point is, you talk to whoever for as long as it suits you. The minute the conversation goes off the road then you are in control and its your choice to stop talking. We all are adults but I understand there will be always the troll or weirdo pushing the envelope. Those you block and there is no need to feel bad about it. Again, I think its important for you and everyone who see not so pleasant reactions from conversations that you are the one in control. Of course there are basic common sense rules that go without saying like never never never release personal details or information like phone number and address if that person has not fully earned trust. Long story short, keep talking and don't penalize everyone because of few bad apples. Take care ?

I think I'm the majority here who do take someones community status seriously, it's a shame about the few. It's easier for a man without the harassment the women seem to have to endure. I don't really believe there's much potential in dating sites anyway, the anonymity gives the crazies a chance to shine. I've said I'm open to meeting women as you just never know but I'm not too serious about that side of things, especially with most of you hotties being half a planet away!! Community only is probably more accurate, but it feels like an uneccessary restriction. If I was a woman in the same circumstances I imagine I'd quite quickly be ditching the dating option too! But yeah anyone I get to know and meet while I'm visiting the provinces (sorry, couldn't resist ? ), let's just be friends and have a scream with no amorous undertones. If real chemistry took over I'd have some expensive life changing decisions to just do but thats no way to plan a holiday! I guess I should be updating my placeholder profile info rather than typing here I've got a bit carried away and hijacked your topic sorry!

I honestly had no idea this was a dating site when I signed up. I heard about it on our local atheist FB page and I thought I would check it out. I don’t think about it that much as a dating site but have enjoyed the community. Of course, if I happened to meet a great guy.. that would be fine too.

I do read the profiles but wait for a woman to contact me and not vice versa. I like my partners or playmates be open to me and not pressured by me.

I assume most people take them seriously... Or I hope they do at least... One bad apple and all that... And ironically. The original phrase was that one bad apple DOES spoil the bunch, despite what the popular song may claim. Lol

Sometimes we forget how hard it can be when one is attractive when there are so few of you remaining. That is a problem that I would like to experience. I hope your post gives you some relief. Peace.

Life is an adventure, it's not a guided tour. Maybe start a dedicated chat room? There's no way to filter the world that I know of. It is what it is. You put up with people and people put up with you. That's how it works.

Sounds to me like you have a good attitude about everything. Keep it up!

There are people who don’t understand what this site is for.... just block or ignore. I have found a lot of people who just want community... keep looking. I am open to both so, it is a bit different for me.

Do whatcha gotta, block who you have to. And have fun YOUR way !

I am about to change to "here for community" myself, as i seem to have fallen in love with a friend right here under my feet. Others put that because they are married or otherwise involved....