Whenever you egaged in an angry altercation with someone else, haven't you invariably thought that the other person was absolutely wrong, and you were absolutely right? Why do we think so?
Yes, because in those situations Im only ever angry enough to argue against racism, mysogyny, fascism, bald faced lies and personal attacks or bullying. You know, the values of the Republican party. If theres a possibility of either or both of us being right, I don't get angry and would seldom if ever argue.
The last time i was really angry in an altercation with someone was about ten years ago. Two boys in a Toyota Camry threw an Orange out of the window.while driving past me and my daughter, grand daughter and son in law. It hit my grand daughter in the shoulder and almost knocked her down. I hollered at the boys saying " pardon me guys but that's not very nice!" Or something along those lines. They howled hysterically with laughter. They were caught at the next light. I ran to catch them while my daughter called the police. When I reached them at the light, none of my arguments about proper behavior seemed to make any difference to them. So I grabbed the one in the passengers seat and dragged him out till the cops got there. I feel I was 100% right.
I used to. I began noticing when other people would use dirty tactics to make their point. Then I started seeing that I was using those same dirty tactics. I learned to start asking hard questions anytime I found myself being dodgy. I feel I'm much more balanced now but I still have my moments.
I think nearly all people believe they are right about what they believe, think, and feel. When we discover we are mistaken, we often change our beliefs to the revised or newly discovered paradigm which we have become to think is correct. When emotions become high, our defenses also kick in and we sometimes have difficulty behaving rationally much less a thinking rationally.
My sister keeps trying to pull me into these types of discussions going as far as telling me that I'm calling her a liar for not going along with her version of reality. I just tell her that we have different opinions and refuse to be sucked in. If she continues I remove myself from the situation.
Right now we haven't spoken for almost two months because of her demanding I do something because she is always right. She's not always right; she just want to be in control of EVERYTHING including my life.
That ain't going to happen.
Everyone seems to have quit self reflecting on anything and questioning their own beliefs. People just get on the internet and find an exho chamber now days instead of being forced to have real social life's where they are challenged on issues and have to really think about stuff. Confirmation bias with constant yes men in the echo chambers has dumbed downed about 95% of the population if u ask me. The 95% is just my own guesstimation tho.