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Whenever you egaged in an angry altercation with someone else, haven't you invariably thought that the other person was absolutely wrong, and you were absolutely right? Why do we think so?

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Yes, because in those situations Im only ever angry enough to argue against racism, mysogyny, fascism, bald faced lies and personal attacks or bullying. You know, the values of the Republican party. If theres a possibility of either or both of us being right, I don't get angry and would seldom if ever argue.

Wurlitzer Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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Exactly right.

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Usually, but sometimes with my husband I know I’m wrong but I don’t want to give in.

FreethoughtKaty Level 5 Oct 13, 2018
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The last time i was really angry in an altercation with someone was about ten years ago. Two boys in a Toyota Camry threw an Orange out of the window.while driving past me and my daughter, grand daughter and son in law. It hit my grand daughter in the shoulder and almost knocked her down. I hollered at the boys saying " pardon me guys but that's not very nice!" Or something along those lines. They howled hysterically with laughter. They were caught at the next light. I ran to catch them while my daughter called the police. When I reached them at the light, none of my arguments about proper behavior seemed to make any difference to them. So I grabbed the one in the passengers seat and dragged him out till the cops got there. I feel I was 100% right.

Stevil Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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Because I AM right. Duh. smile007.gif

Donotbelieve Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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no, that is backwards. you don't think you're right because you're engaged in an angry altercation. you're engaged in an angry altercation because you think you're right.

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genessa Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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If it's not about right/wrong then the conversation moves along

IamNobody Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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If you recognize the person as "the other" it's easier to fight with them -- easier to put up a wall than to build a bridge to work through misunderstandings.

bleurowz Level 8 Oct 14, 2018
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If you recognized that the other person was at least in part right, you would change your mind, at least in part, and would then see your new slightly adjusted position as right, therefore it is not possible to believe anything else.

Fernapple Level 7 Oct 13, 2018
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Not "invariably", because i enjoy a good Discussion but get angry if the other person starts throwing around disrespect instead of staying on topic.
I have been wrong a few times, like for example got married twice.....

AnneWimsey Level 8 Oct 11, 2018
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I used to. I began noticing when other people would use dirty tactics to make their point. Then I started seeing that I was using those same dirty tactics. I learned to start asking hard questions anytime I found myself being dodgy. I feel I'm much more balanced now but I still have my moments.

Meili Level 6 Oct 10, 2018
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Because if we didn't have absolute confidence that we were right, we wouldn't get into such a heated debate in the first place.

It doesn't mean we couldn't be wrong though!

Uncorrugated Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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Because if the subject weren't "absolutely wrong", then I wouldn't be "egaged [sic] in an angry altercation" with them.

hrichardson8 Level 5 Oct 10, 2018
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I think nearly all people believe they are right about what they believe, think, and feel. When we discover we are mistaken, we often change our beliefs to the revised or newly discovered paradigm which we have become to think is correct. When emotions become high, our defenses also kick in and we sometimes have difficulty behaving rationally much less a thinking rationally.

RussRAB Level 5 Oct 15, 2018
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naturally, otherwise why fight?

Suzanna Level 5 Oct 14, 2018
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I find that many times when people (including me) act in anger it is when they realize on some level that they are wrong.

MsAl Level 7 Oct 11, 2018
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Not 100%. Having to tolerate someone's ignorance can be frustrating to the point of anger.

@Veteran229 That's why I said many times, not always. People get nastiest when backed into a corner. Being humiliated is infuriating.

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Because, I check my facts, double check them, and don't argue If I'm not certain that I am right.

JimG Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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My sister keeps trying to pull me into these types of discussions going as far as telling me that I'm calling her a liar for not going along with her version of reality. I just tell her that we have different opinions and refuse to be sucked in. If she continues I remove myself from the situation.

Right now we haven't spoken for almost two months because of her demanding I do something because she is always right. She's not always right; she just want to be in control of EVERYTHING including my life.

That ain't going to happen.

kiramea Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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I rarely get involved in altercations, as I am usually easy-going. It is only when I feel that the other person has infringed on my rights, treated my very unfairly, or is treating other poorly that I get angry. that

wordywalt Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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Not certain I can agree with this. I try very much own my part in most situations and don't mind apologizing when wrong. I think that because I do this I am rarely wrong, though.

Deanervin Level 6 Oct 10, 2018
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Self serving bias

DoctoralZombie Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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I am quick to admit when I am wrong and I constantly monitor myself to be sure. So if I am involved in an altercation, then I am in the right and they are in the wrong, or at least not in the complete right.

KDrake Level 5 Oct 10, 2018
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I used to fall into this trap more when i was younger. Now I try to be more careful.

Unless i know for sure. If so, all bets are off lol.

Mb_Man Level 5 Oct 10, 2018
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jeez the amount of times ive had to apologise once the red mist clears but thats the point you are not thinking clearly in an argument youre in fight or flight mode

weeman Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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Everyone seems to have quit self reflecting on anything and questioning their own beliefs. People just get on the internet and find an exho chamber now days instead of being forced to have real social life's where they are challenged on issues and have to really think about stuff. Confirmation bias with constant yes men in the echo chambers has dumbed downed about 95% of the population if u ask me. The 95% is just my own guesstimation tho.

jorj Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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Of course anyone and everyone can be wrong it is just how the individual brain works and functions.
If I am right I will strive to keep it right, If I am wrong I will strive to make it right.

jlynn37 Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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