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I don't know what I expected when I joined this site other than a place were I don't have to deal with religious people and maybe find a date. So far I haven't found anyone so I joined pof. I'm just getting bombarded with crazies and no real dates. Any suggestions on how I can get a date? I know it seems silly bit I'm ready to date again and not getting any younger. Also tired of the crazies

confidentrealm 7 Oct 30
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I have a profile on POF and OkCupid but I am going to delete them since I rarely log on and most of what I get is scammers or men who clearly did not read my profile before contacting me

My schedule of getting up at 3am and in bed by 8pm makes having a life of any kind near impossible but I did join a few meet-ups. So far most events are outside my bedtime zone lol

I've been single for about 7 years now and a part of me really likes the freedom but I must admit that a companion is missed from time to time. I often think that what I really need is friends rather than a significant other.

I second the suggestion that you join meetup.

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Maybe volunteering,donate your time to expose your interests to other people,may spark someone to ask about you?

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Online dating is such a crapshoot. Perhaps if you want to meet people you could try Meetup? Most areas have some sort of singles meet-and-greet. Or you could join groups with people who have similar interests. Whatever you do, just keep putting yourself out there and live your best life regardless of who shows up. That's all any of us can do.

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I got lucky and met someone here. First online date for me. It worked out. Finding someone close is a shot in the dark. Many people here live in less than open and inviting locations. As people say below, just live for the moment, follow your interests, and enjoy life's ride. I was contemplating being a Buddhist monk when the, what I envisioned, impossible happened. Good luck.

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You get what you pay for. PlentyOfFish is pretty much scraping the bottom of the barrel and this site doesn't have enough members to have much critical mass other than for long-distance relationships. Nor is it exclusively a dating site; many of us aren't here for that to begin with.

Despite its Christian roots, for a heterosexual at least I had the best luck in my dating days with eHarmony. But that is information that's at least 12 years old. Basically, spend a few dollars on the paid sites that have some filters and standards.

I have to say though that I met my wife ultimately on a now-defunct site that wasn't even devoted to dating, but was restricted to people over 40 and had a forum involving an interest we held in common. In general, you're going to do best meeting people who enjoy the same things you do. That means putting yourself out there repeatedly in possibly multiple venues both on and off line.

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Don't give up. It took me 10 years to find the perfect person, and then it was by accident in a non-dating online chat room. Chase your interests, your mate will appear eventually.

Orbit Level 7 Oct 30, 2018
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In 4 years of online dating I met 3 people face to face. You don't want my advice

Sheesh... I thought I was doing bad meeting only 4 women in person from one year of online dating.... How did you last 4 years?

@TomMcGiverin too lazy to cancel. Plus I forgot passwords. And misplaced hope.

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I don’t utilize any online sites, I meet gentlemen doing conventional things. I get asked for my number at my sons football game, grocery store, at the gym. I’m having fun at the moment but completely open to the possibility of a relationship.

You're well above average-looking, so it's not surprising you get approached a lot by men in public. Your experience there wouldn't apply to an average-looking male, especially since women are less aggressive than men about approaching others for dating.

@TomMcGiverin thank for the compliment and I can definitely appreciate what you’re saying. I’m a bit of an introvert and would never approach a gentleman( flirt from a distance is my play)

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I call POF "Plenty of Flakes." As a hiker, I joined Fitness Singles.

Met a lot of men, but nothing worked out. Dumped men for different reasons: disrespect, sexual incompatibility, constant lateness, poor communication skills, mean streak, etc.

Seems like I'm dealing with leftovers. Many men are divorced for a darn good reason.

Most over seen seem to have gotten lost on the way out of the gym when they discovered swallowed of mirrors to look at themselves in..

I think it all goes both ways. Many women are divorced for good reasons, maybe not usually for the same ones that men are. Looking back on my own family and my parent's marriage, my guess about a common reason is the woman being overly-critical of the man, whether there is good reason for it or not. I also believe that in adult relationships it is rare that one person is 100% responsible for the failure of a relationship.

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You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet the prince and sometimes you just run out of time.

That's how I feel. Running out of time

@confidentrealm No you are not, at least you are still hoping and dreaming. Myself I am happy to be single after two marriages and several relationship. The most happy I have ever been is when I am single, that doesn't mean that it would not be great to meet someone, but that is not something that is a must.

...or you get warts.

@jondspen Don't despair there are remedies for warts.

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