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Now that people point out at me and calling on my my privilege, Let me expand it here. It hits me hard on the bones when people,both men and women claim that men do have "male privilege. This is something I am trying to understand as a man. And please be thoughtful when replying me,try as much as you can to explain it to me. Am I privileged as a male?

I am not privileged and I have never been so. I think the only privilege you want to point out here is when my mum dumped me at my granny at the age of 6 months and at the age of 9, my granny and his son kicked me out claiming I am not their biological son.

Yes, that's the privilege I had,growing up on streets fighting all injustices that I wasn't part of in the first place. Struggling to find my own existence is the only privilege that many of you claim I own. Struggling to find food,clothes and education. Medical attention, loosing all my nails in my toes due to jiggers that ate all my toes--for no one was there to care about me. Picking eaten-off sugar-cane pieces left by unknown strangers in Bulanga district--formely Iganga--something that affected my dental system todate. Working in Warehouses of Mityana trading stores when I was not yet a man,carrying heavy cement and sugar bags on my back that weighed more than myself-something that affected my scapular and spinal code unbalancing? Is that what you call a privilege I enjoy daily? Facing tribalism and sectarianism when I tried to seek scholarships from the criminal regimes in Uganda? And couldn't get one since I was from a wrong tribe? So because of this male privilege,I had to ran out of my country to seek liberty and freedom in US, a country that grants male privilege to every man that lands on it's airport only to be told I shouldn't work in US for 180 days and I should enjoy any medical assistance or food from social services but at the same time--met people who claimed--and indeed told in my face how federal Government is spending all that would be their support to people like me. As as someone who fought my ground to find where I lay my jaw at night, I didn't see how my male privilege helped me in this scenario.

What do I get as a result of such privilege? Free education? Free College? Free restaurant passes? Free medical bills? Be as honest as you can, and help me know how my privilege helped me on streets for five years, how my male privilege pushed me through all the difficulties I have faced as a growing man? Show me how I get justice anywhere simply because I am a male? What is it that women go through that I haven't gone through personally? I can go on and on and on,but let me stop here or I will be misunderstood.

Humanlove 7 Feb 6
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How common is rape in Uganda?

Clearly you grew up without most forms of privilege, but all things being equal, would the same situation you were born and raised in have been better or worse, had you been born female? What would those tribes and criminals have done with a young woman in your position?

If you've never had or feared a man sticking his penis inside you, not caring whether you want it or not, then there's at least one of your answers.

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The question you should ask yourself is "all other things being equal, would I rather be (female, black, brown, gay, etc)?"

I've definitely experienced white privilege in my life. I've gotten away with things a POC would never attempt. I've also been treated as less in the presence of a man (e.g., I couldn't get a salesperson to acknowledge me until I came back with a man. Even though I was the one buying.).

Sorry Phoebe.

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"Having privilege" does not equal "being privileged.". Its a tiny semantic discrepancy,
but it carries a huge difference in meaning. "Having privilege" does not mean your life is easy, you've never suffered, you're undeserving, or your problems don't matter--it means there's one specific thing you don't have to worry about that someone else does.

All the horrible, inexcusable tragedies you endured will never change the fact that you are less likely to be lied to about what kind of repairs your car needs and how much it will cost. That is an example of "male privilege." It's not your fault, and you don't have to feel guilty or apologize for it. You don't have to become a social justice warrior and crusade against it (unless you want to--that would be cool). The only thing we'd like for you to do is not deny that it exists.

I have "white privilege", which (among other things) means I'm very unlikely to be shot to death by police here in America--not all Americans are so lucky. I don't feel bad about having this privilege; I didn't ask for it. I feel awful about the ones who are getting shot, but I don't feel guilty or responsible--I'm not the one doing the shooting.

I'm not a bad person because I have this privilege. And I'm not not disadvantaged in other ways, either: I'm unemployed, I have no health insurance, no car. My life is not easy. I'm not "privileged" in the sense of white picket fences, trust funds, or BMWs--but that doesn't mean I don't "have privilege.". One has nothing to do with the other.

My being poor does not mean that I do not have the "privilege" of being taken seriously and not ignored or treated rudely because I'm white, clean-cut, and don't have an accent. My having suffered with debilitating chronic pain for over a decade has no effect on the "privilege" I get from being thin--which means people are more likely to see me as competent and less likely to see me as lazy or sloppy.

These things are specific, and relative. Almost anything can confer some degree of "privilege". It's also very context-dependent. The same thing might confer privilege in one context and disadvantage in another--femaleness, for example: privileging in child custody cases, disadtageous when working as a firefighter.

Having privilege doesn't mean you don't struggle. It means someone else has something to worry about that you dont.

Deny it all you want. Isn't going to change what is. Just makes you sound out of touch.

Yup, this

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When 'mercans speak of male privilege, they are talking 'bout straight, white, christian males. That's all that counts. (IMHO)

So none White male don't have make previlege?

@0752532706 Interpret it any way you want my friend.

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I will make it easier for you:

Since privileged can't be measured it doesnt exist.

@icolan ok,understood.

@icolan if women cost me 30% less to employ I would only hire women. Seeing as that is not only false, unethical and illegal I don't only hire women. More men get involved with politics, business and high risk ventures than women. Women tend to choose lower paying jobs, ask for fewer raises and take more time off. Those are facts based on all the data, not just a cherry picked few pieces.

@icolan if you read the rest of the results they explain exactly what I did.

@icolan you are measuring effects not the cause. That is like me asking you about temperature and you telling me about sweaters and bathing suits.

If it exists it can be measured. So tell me what are the units of privilege?

With that said your examples are inaccurate and ii suspect you knew that and wrote it anyway.

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