I got a divorce at age 30. Late birthday present for myself. I could have cleaned out our bank account and kept everything, but that's not who I am. I had over $34K in my Roth IRA as backup. (He couldn't touch that even with a judge's order.) I had it before we got married.
Thinking back at age 30, it was rough. I survived, though!
I'm glad you survived. Cheers
Thirty was thirty years ago. Anxiety hadn't kicked in, at least not high gear. I was still playing and coaching soccer so the extra weight hadnt come and added back pain (plus I had yet to spend 20 some summers doing masonry - school break). Had the money....kids young. Knee pain, yep, soccer.
Sounds like a wonderful time. Kudos to you
I’d put off having kids till my 30’s in order to finish building a house for them. It worked, the kids are alright
Smart move my friend.
Did not expected this much response but I am glad guys are venting out. It is healthy.
What you have done is shown a view that I had not even considered...at the age of 30, I had very different "should haves"...I can't even imagine how defeated I would have felt if I saw that in my 30's...it is sort of gloomy
@thinktwice what some people do not realize is that times have changed and that too very drastically but I am glad that you spent your 30s very nicely.
Yeah right, tell us another one, PLEASE.
I just got back from a deployment and separated from my ex-wife a week before my 30th. She'd closed our bank account, and left me with a car to live in, a car she hadn't made a payment on the entire time I had been gone.
I didn't have the $100 or even an account.
Affirmative on the knee pain, I'd just spent spring and summer wandering the desert with 125 pounds of crap.
I had enough anxiety to make up for the $100.
I only had one major bout with back pain. It came out of nowhere, immobilized me for 3 days, and disappeared. I never had anything even remotely close to that before and nothing more than occasional stiffness since.
I am really sorry man, did not intend to open any old wounds. I hope you're doing much better now.
@BrokenMarrow Yes, in the long run, it led to less anxiety and more money. My kids survived the divorce and are well adjusted adults. Sometimes, you really are better off to start over.
No apologies necessary. That was 20 years ago. I'm far better off for it now.
I am 81 and I have never had knee pain, very little anxiety (one can not go through life with out it), always had money in my account and had back surgery but still have occasional back issues but not enough to mention or complain about. Life is good.
I am really happy for you sir.