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Hi, everyone. Not really sure what to say here. I'm new, and I'm really nervous. I'm not good at communicating and have trouble approaching people in real life and online. So I won't always be the first to start a conversation. I know that's not ideal, so if anyone has any tips on how to approach people--specifically, approaching women I might be interested in--I'd appreciate it.

Thanks, and sorry if this isn't really the best way to ask this. I'm new, so if I mess up, just let me know and I'll fix it. Thanks again.

TMEwriter89 3 Feb 1
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Hmm, what is the right way to ask anything? Just be yourself, if you don't already have one, develop a sense of humor, especially one directed inward, and remember that all strangers are just friends you haven't made yet. Dig in, have fun, and good on ya fer bein' here.

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Welcome! You might like the introverts group.

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Hi James! I think the best way to talk to women is the same way you'd talk to anyone else--introduce yourself, talk about common interests (there must be something about her profile that you related to, right?) & have a sense of humor. It's nice to use the messenger feature here because you can take your time to write, & to read over what the other person says as often as you need to. I personally find the chats awkward, difficult & unsatisfying, but that may just be me being an old fuddy-duddy. But anyway, you might want to wait a little while before trying that, until you kind of know some of the people who are chatting at the time.

Carin Level 8 Feb 1, 2019
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Welcome to the asylum. Enjoy your stay.

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Nice to meet you James, we're all a bit bonkers so everybody fits in somewhere 🙂

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Howdy and welcome here.

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Just relax. Remember your anonymous for all intensive purposes. It you rock somebodies boat, just disengage and no longer respond. Most people on here are understanding.

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Hello and welcome. I too am not good at communicating or conveying my interest in an attractive woman; so, I probably won't be the one to give you the best advice. I have, however, just started a conversation by just saying, "Hello. Could you tell me a little more about yourself." Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. Good luck.

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Welcome aboard. You'll soon get the hang of it.

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Stop saying "basically' all the time ( bio ) ? ?. Welcome, you may get ribbed from time to time but don't take it personally. We are lovely really. We'll toughen you up ( though emotional is good too, n passionate, n ... well, you get the idea ?)

@PalacinkyPDX 2nd n 3rd? "Hi, everyone." should stay, surely? ?

@PalacinkyPDX oh yes of course, silly me.
Basically you're right ?

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Welcome! I don’t know if there’s a best way to introduce yourself but your intro seems fine to me. Joining some groups on this site is a good way to start, especially if they have active chat rooms. Find some that interest you and you’ll have something in common to chat about

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I used to suffer from social anxiety disorder, pretty much what you just described, and I was on medication until my stroke, do not recommend that as a cure, but it took care of it. But because I lived my life with this I never really learned how to speak with people, especially women. But as time goes by I'm learning to become more comfortable with approaching women as well as everyone else. Understand, for me at least, I'm always nervous approaching women but I think everyone to some degree is but don't let that stop you and as what to say some from of hello always works for me.

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Talk about what do you know and teach us. Ask about you don't know. And about woman, just talk normally, if there is interest you will eventually know.

Yes, women like to be treated "normally!" Something a lot of guys don't seem to get...

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Welcome!

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Hey, you have made your first post and off to a good start. Keep it up and welcome.

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