I take care of my mom who has some dementia. She is a FOX news fan but I’ve switched her to MSNBC without telling her, she thinks things just all of a sudden got really bad for Trump, is that wrong?
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You’re doing everything possible to keep your mom happy and yourself sane. It’s a wonderful thing that she has you. All you can do is take cues from her and it appears you’re doing that already.
Green_eyes
Level 8
Mar 3, 2019
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Not sure how far along into dementia your mom is but if it upsets her switch back. If Not, for your own sanity leave in MSNBC. My mom had alzeheimers and I knew things were bad when she started reading the National Enquire - this was a woman who read the New Yorker every week! I am sorry you are going through this. Hard as hell!
GreatNani
Level 8
Mar 3, 2019
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No, it is not wrong. You should do what makes you feel comfortable (since she, unfortunately, is not able to always make rational decisions.) It is hard enough to take care of someone with dementia. I can't imagine being "forced" to watch a show that I didn't agree with. You are doing fine.
DevraisA1
Level 7
Mar 3, 2019
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I don't think you are trying to be mean to her, but my late wife had dementia and you do want them to be as comfortable as possible and surrounding them with as much of the familiar as possible is part of that. They get confused enough as it is and when they get to the late stage I will also advise you to restrain yourself from correcting her when she gets disoriented and imagines things are different than they are, like names of people or whether someone she knew is dead or not. Correcting them will only upset them more and whatever you say in correcting will quickly be forgotten. Good luck and make sure you get help with the caregiving.
There comes a point in dementia care that the truth no longer matters and the best way to deal with it is to go with whatever the patient believes as to who is who and what is happening around them, etc. You know what is the truth, but it no longer matters if they do or not. It doesn't mean you're lying to them. What matters is letting them know that they and their concerns are being taken care of.
TomMcGiverin
Level 8
Mar 2, 2019
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I agree… What channel it is on doesn’t cause stress just, changes the conversation. If I wanted to cause my mother stress I would put on Madonna videos 
Nope, as long as it doesn't upset her. Otherwise back to fox.
BeeHappy
Level 9
Mar 2, 2019
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Actually she hates Trump but likes Fox News because my dad had it locked on, she hasn't really got a political opinion. I still put Fox back on also, it’s not a stress... it’s not like Fox is good news. She still plays the piano and I play her old movies and put the opera on at dinner. She’s a retired Opera singer.. politics was my dads thing and she went along. I’ll take my iPad in the TV room and sit with her but I can only watch FOX for a few minuets before I’m yelling at the TV
@ArdentAtheist it sounds like you are taking excellent care of her. Kudos for that. Being a caretaker can be a very difficult thing. I haven't had a tv for a few years now but I can imagine if I did, I'd be yelling at FOX news too. Lol ? You're a good son AA. ❤
That depends. Is it causing her distress? Or is she likely to just watch it as more, if different, programming?
You might want to consider watching "The Brainwashing of my Dad", not that it totally applies in this case.
Zster
Level 8
Mar 2, 2019
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your moms time is limited, keep her happy, keep it on fox.
gater
Level 7
Mar 2, 2019
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You are right about keep her happy. FOX doesn’t make her happy. She points at and calls it stupid, she does that less when I change it. FOX is just habit my dad left behind... Anything that looks like it’s making her unhappy is out of here.
NO! you're just educating the stupid! (sorry that i just called your mom stupid)
coralisthree
Level 8
Mar 2, 2019
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@coralisthree - You should be - sorry that is - dementia doesn't mean that the person is stupid.
@SLBushway i didn't mean to imply the dementia part, i meant the watching fox news part
@coralisthree it’s fine, no offense taken.
once is okay. back and forth each week is cruel
CallMeDave
Level 8
Mar 2, 2019
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I'm laughing at this idea, not that I condone it?
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