My daughter,12, asked if she could go to church with a friend who invited her tomorrow. My daughter is athiest. She said her friends is fun and nice. I said yes. But I am uncomfortable with her hanging out with people that believe in " magic."
You should celebrate this event! This is when your daughter starts learning that everyone is not raised the same way as she is! Regardless of her beliefs (or yours pressed into her) she needs to have exposure to it. Are you afraid she may come home believing in god?
I remember going to Sunday school as a kid not much younger than your daughter. My parents were both Unitarian. When I complained about the classes and stuff they did and said... My folks both said... "Fine! You don't have to go anymore!"
WTF? It was THAT easy? They explained they wanted me to be exposed to everything and then let me make the decisions... With regard to my beliefs. I remember struggling with what to believe in my mid-teens. Most everyone I knew believed in god. The older I got, the more I doubted the existence. When I started reading about ancient Roman history... I then realized how christianity started.
You shouldn't tell your daughter what to think and you shouldn't be uncomfortable. It is best that she know the differences now so she can more easily deal with her own future possible uncomfortable situations when they arise.
The best way to ensure that your daughter is able to make up her own mind about what she believes is to allow her to experience many things,which may be confronting to you. Make sure she knows what you believe in ( or not) and why, then talk to her about what she sees and hears with her friend.
You can tell your daughter what and why you believe what you believe in. She has to make her own choices. If you forbid something you add a tabo quality to it that makes it more desirable. You can not force people to believe anything. You daughter will make up her own mind. If her thought process is not challenged at one point or another, she will really not know what her true beliefs are.
It’s important that we let them decide for themselves. My 12 year old considers himself an atheist and my 15 year old more agnostic. They go to church all the time with friends and with my ex. It doesn’t bother me a bit.
They have fun with their friends and that’s what they get out of it, nothing from the message.
In a sense we all do - can you repair or build all of the gadgets you use? Then it's magic. Religion is just a way of explaining the world that most of us no longer see in those terms. I'm pretty sure an atheist child is well immunized. Depending on where you live, your child will need skills and familiarity to cope with the magic-believers if she's going to hold a job etc.
I have twin daughters, they were invited by their best friend to go to church, when they were around 12 y.o. They came home laughing and shaking their heads, I ask them what was up, they said that they couldn't believe that people actually believe those lies.
Let her learn and grow as a human. Sitting through a church service is boring at worst, and shel6l learn some western civ. Stuff at best. Knowing the basics of how religion works is important. Id also recommend some opportunity to see other parts of your community like a mosque, a hewbrew temple, etc...
Most of the Women I Enjoyed Sex with... were/are Believers of Magic. They are not going away. I attended church and church functions while being atheist... your daughter is not going to catch fire if in the shadow of a church. You must Understand that Friendship is Stronger than god and religion. She must learn that too... the early age... the better Human being she will be. A Tolerant, Caring, Experienced Child... with Friends.
This happened to my daughter too. The little christian girl courted her as a friend , invited her to parties and stuff, then when she couldnt convert my daughter to her fundamentalist faith, dropped my girl like garbage. She was hurt, and at 10 its hard to be used like that.
I understand your fear. My ex-wife, who is also an atheist took our son to church for a number of years, had him baptized. As he got older, he began to realize the folly of church and religion. He turned away from the concept of religion at about the age of 12. Exposing children is a way for the child to find his / her own path.
it sucks but there is really nothing you can do. My daughter is referred to as ‘the Satan worshipper’ in her school, constantly bullied, and mocked because of her belief
Several kids have been suspended due to making fun of her.
Her response is to wear more pentagrams
Twelve is pretty young, and your daughter is at an impressionable age. I’m sure that her friends’ parents will be there, too.
If I were in your particular situation, I would not deny her from going, but would instead ask her if she wouldn’t mind if I’d accompanied her. In this way, you can both discuss and question the entire church experience afterward.
If her friend and her parents are evangelical, that may be uncomfortable for you; but, if you're really knowledgeable about the fallacies of their faith and are prepared to defend your atheism with cohesive arguments, in the end they may be more regretful that you for having tried to ply your daughter with their religious fantasies.
My daughter is 17. I do not allow her (she does NOT want to either) to shoot up heroin, cut herself, or walk thru church doors. All are the same level of self hatred! Why would I want her near people that thrive on hating their neighbors bc a book, bush, man in the sky "speaks to them." F that nonsense.