I have a massage fairly regularly - to keep my left shoulder moving - my little thai lady does a nice line in unexpected muscle deknotting and intense pain the only happy ending is when the hour is done and I have full movement again.

Here's my honest answer.

If there's no sex at home, it's not "cheating." It's an orgasm and he's literally investing in his health and longevity.

Please send the location to those of us who are interested. Lol.

In todays "men are gross" news...

If you are in a happy relationship why would you do that? And yes it is cheating.

It depends on the deal you have with your significant other. Does she get to do the same?

Whatever turns your crank. Pun intended . . .

Only if in a celebrate state partner abstaining from sex and not mutually agreed upon

The reason i posted this was because a gentleman who has been married for a really long time, tells me his wife has given up on sex, so he goes to get massages, and either gets them for free or pays for them, i really don't know, but he feels its not cheating since his wife who he loves very much , but says sex causes her pain, feels no remorse or guilt over this.

I go for a massage every month to a licensed massage therapist. They are never sexual in nature.. even if my therapist is male.
I fail to see how one would “get off” if you received a legitimate massage, paid or not.
I see these seedy spas get busted all the time for illegal practices. Let’s be clear...they wouldn’t know how to give a correct massage, these woman are quite often victims of trafficking and if you choose to patronize these places, a massage definitely isn’t your goal.

I guess it wouldn't be cheating if your significant other was the one who was working at the massage parlor. But that would open up a whole new set of questions, right?

I went for a massage, they would only accept cash, I was offered a shower. I did not have cash. Upon leaving I was followed by a cop car.
I did not go back. Yes its cheating to answer your question.
Also exploitation of the women who were working that industry