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Do you want to get married? (No, that’s not a proposal. 😝) And why or why not?

Phylbean 4 Mar 12
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I don't see that ever happening again. I made such a bad choice when I married, and I don't trust my judgement when it comes to romantic partners.

Besides that, there is no room for another person in this house, and the only way I am leaving this place is feet first.

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Probably not. I won't say never, but I'm too independent to want that level of being tied together. I was with my ex for 8 years and that split was hard enough with just cohabitation. I can't even imagine adding courts lol.

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Tried it 2x, wasted over half my life. Why anyone over childbearing age would want another person,however delightful, underfoot 24/7 escapes me

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Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
I learn from my mistakes, or at least try to.

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No-twice was enough. Lived in sin for 10 years-Marriage is when you're still raising children. Was 42 when I had second child.

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Okay so this is my very first post and I really have no idea if I'm doing this right but trial and error is a good way to learn.
Yes I would like to get married. I am a Transwoman and I was in a relationship for 25 years but as a
Gay man. I didn't start my transition till 2011. So I didn't get to experience a lot of things that women get to. One of those is to get married in a beautiful white wedding gown. It probably sounds silly to some of you but for me it was something I always dreamed of since I was a little kid. There were so many things I missed out on.
I am a mature woman now and probably getting married is something that jes ain't gonna happen. If it came down to where it was imperative I fulfill this dream then I'd be open to role playing it in a fantasy.
Now that I'm thinking of it that might be a more realistic option.
Hopefully this made sense.

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I've married three times. At my age, I truly can't see myself doing it again.

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I married at 53 after a life threatening illness in order to prevent my nazi family members from inheriting my estate. I otherwise never entertained the idea of marriage as I am childless by choice. Had I opted for spawning, marriage would have to be a prerequisite as children need the law for protection & a father is a necessity for imprinting.

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I don't need to be told who I can be with for lots of money to a stranger who doesnt really give a shit. why buy the most expensive and most unused bit of clothing ie a wedding dress too. ive found a wedding is much like a funeral without the corps

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It doesn't matter to me that much. I lean on the side of not getting married. If or when things go wrong, it causes too many problems. Why can't we just be in a relationship and/or live with each other? Isn't being with someone and only them committment enough? It's not like a piece of paper causes people not to cheat. It does cause people not to separate though. If it's good, there's no need to separate. If it's not good, then it's easy to get out of a bad situation. Why would I want to be with someone who isn't happy being with me? It would be miserable for both of us. I'm not talking about bad meaning minor arguments. I'm talking about a build up of things or also more extreme issues. So you leave and you don't have to go to a lawyer and spend money and then depending on the circumstances have half your shit taken away from you or having to negotiate for things. You don't need a piece of paper to stay in a bad relationship.....that's what kids are for lol. People also seem to change after marriage. Maybe they feel that it's harder for the person to leave them in a marriage. Not being in a marriage probably keeps people on their toes. It might also stop people from getting abused. A lot of abusers let that side out when they know they have that person in a place where they are less likely to leave. The church has brainwashed people with marriage. To each their own though.

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Yes I want to get married someday.

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I was married once and have a daughter and a son. I have been a single man for 50 years and have lived alone for the past 45 years. Knowing who I am, I do not feel that I am good marriage material and has very little to do with women and how I feel about them. I love women and prefer them to men for the most part.

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No. I am old and set in my ways. Plus I learned my lesson from one marriage already.

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Not for or against it. Never been married, so I wouldn't know. Would only consider it though if it was with the right person at the right time.

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I can't say no, for I have learned through my own experiences to never say never again. It ways heavily on my mind that the Universe will put me back in North Dakota at some point in the future.

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Not again. Like, EVER.
Been there, done that, burned the t-shirts.
Marriage is an antiquated social construct, and really nothing more than a legal contract.
I have no use for either.

I completely agree but with 2 possible exceptions. If we’ve been together for a long time and either inheritance or health insurance were an issue

Signing the marriage cert creates a contract with the state and has NOTHING to do with the relationship between the husband and wife. If anyone actually read their state laws and saw what they were signing, NO ONE would ever sign it. I certainly never will again.

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