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This is a crossover post about politics, religion and dating.

Could you be in a serious relationship with someone who is on the other side of the fence religiously or politically? I personally couldn't, because I truly believe that our political and religious views are a reflection of our deepest core values. How can you share your life and your thoughts with someone who doesn't share those?

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TheoryNumber3 8 June 27
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Saw your picture with "Trump". If that happens again do me a favor and pick some mushrooms.😏

To whom is this response directed? Because I can't make sense of it

@TheoryNumber3 I'm sorry this must have been sent to you in error.

@mooredolezal No problem. I wasn't mortally wounded by it 🙂 But I'm glad it wasn't actually for me.

@TheoryNumber3 apparently someone had posted a picture that somehow eluded to Trump's mushroom shaped penis. I wish I could remember!

@mooredolezal Thanks. Now I'll be thinking of Trump's mushroom penis. There goes my dinner . I'll get you for that 😵😵😵

@TheoryNumber3 Sorry😥.BTW I just noticed your age. You are amazing! Wish you were not so far away...If you ever make it to Columbus let me know, I would be honored to take you to dinner.

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I tried it. He said I might be going to hell since I didn’t believe in God. We didn’t talk religion much. Politics came up more. He was mostly apathetic but obviously leaned conservative. It bothered me a lot. I won’t do it again.

Zackly the kind of thing I've experienced. Usually it's politics but occasionally religion.

He said that even though you did not believe and God you only MIGHT not be going to hell? LMAO sounds like politics was not the only thing he was apathetic about.

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I personally would find it extremely difficult to live with someone who spent their life on their knees praying.
Every relationship needs an intellectual meeting of minds, maybe not always agreeing, but always able to discuss.- my experience of religious ladies is that their minds are closed tight and I can not share a life withut debate

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I don't think someone with polar opposite political ideas would be a good match for me(I may likely had said different 5 years ago).
Religion-wise I am ambivalent. Long a she is tolerant and accepting of my views, that's good enough for me.

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I can't.

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I think religion and politics are associated with some pretty strong core beliefs and values...and more and more, I think brains must be wired differently because it is becoming more and more difficult for me to even understand how some people can even think what they do...

You can deal with how someone puts the toilet paper on the roll but not if they think a father and daughter deserved to die for trying to get to the USA...

I could not have any meaningful relationship with a man or woman who did not have aligned values....I also don't care about those who have no interest at all...it means, to me, that they are just not engaged in what I think is important...

Everyone handles it differently...for me...I can't and won't...

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No. Last woman I dated (briefly) didn't "get involved in political discussions". Also didn't seem to care where her dog pooped - as long as she didn't have to pick it up.

That didn't last long...

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I want every voter to vote for me because I stand for what is beneficial for everyone and our mutual interests....clean air pure water natural food true healthcare and safe science
...If a woman votes for me to be her lifelong lover AND believes nutty or harmful phenomena....I am not going to condition my love on scrubbing those ideas out of her brain.....so far my lovers have either died on me or chose to love someone else thus I divorced them ....I hope she who chooses me for love is an honest Feminist Atheist up front instead of hiding hostile religious ideas or polluter oil war crime profiteering bankster zionism approvals

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My political and religious views, if indeed I have any, certainly don’t define me any more than being a supporter of Southampton Football Club or not eating meat. I have had friends who support Portsmouth and eat meat. I have friends who are Buddhist, Christian, Wika and Moslem.

If that is where one’s core lies one probably need to delve a bit deeper!

Excuse me, but your football analogy is ridiculous. Your religious and political views do define you. This is what you believe! I am a vegetarian, but I have friends who are carnivores. I am an agnostic, and I have friends who are of varying religions and nationalities, but I don't have to watch them eat a bloody steak every night or whip out a prayer rug every day. I am talking about a deep committed relationship with a partner who does not share your deepest beliefs.

@TheoryNumber3 You obviously don’t understand the tribal nature of sporting affiliation, and I can assure you my religious and political affiliations do not define who I am.

You are not likely to form a relationship with someone who doesn’t conform to your ideal but you set that bar, not the other person.

@Geoffrey51 isn't that the whole point of my post?

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If you let nonsense like religious and political prejudice impinge upon any relationship you may as well move to a remote Scottish island with your cat where you need have little contact with anyone.

We are all different and it is shallow to consider that anyone is the sum total of their beliefs.

We all disagree with everyone about something. Better to be adult about it and share what you have in common than what divides you!

I cannot agree with you. I will concur that you can't agree on everything, but I said I'm talking about core values here. I don't want a partner who's constantly worrying about my soul... or who thinks women who have an abortion should be put to death... or that political refugees are criminals... or who thinks children should be beaten if they misbehave. How could you possible have a loving relationship with a person who thinks such cruel inhuman thoughts.

@TheoryNumber3 It’s not likely to be attracted to a person with those values anyway I should have thought. It just seems that here we are writing off relationships because of ideological difference before any depth can be explored.

@Geoffrey51 Sometimes you don't find out about that stuff til you're well into it. That's why I'd rather know up front.

@TheoryNumber3 that is very true as well!

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I couldn’t cause I like talking about those issues. Not good at holding my tongue just to get along or get laid.

Exactly. You want to be able to discuss those sorts of things with your partner, right?

@TheoryNumber3 Yeppers, that is the best!!

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Yeah without common ground not much left to share

bobwjr Level 10 June 27, 2019
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By not talking about religion or politics.

That's pretty hard to do with someone who's a significant person in your life unless you don't care to discuss your concerns with your partner.

How do you do that? Especially politics these days.

@banton

Bill and I agreed to disagree. We did not talk about politics or religion.

Sometimes he said he prayed about something. (eye roll)

@LiterateHiker I was really not disagreeing with you and certainly meant no ill regard. Just wondered how anybody could accomplish that. But you did it...so amazingly it’s possible.

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I have friends who don't share all my beliefs or lack of them, but I couldn't be in a close long-term relationship with anyone who didn't share my core principles.

Same for me.

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I agree with you, I couldn't. Could I be friends with someone like that, maybe. I have in the past, but only if we avoided discussing those issues, and still, the length of the friendship was limited.

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Not politically right now, probably not religiously either.

MsAl Level 8 June 27, 2019
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