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#1. How many are on this site looking for a companion? Similar to other online dating sites?
#2. How many are financially able or interested in packing up their life and starting over in some far off location for the right partner?

The probability is quite low - but it is a place to share our condition with others in the same position - Ha! Reality sucks. The dating pool shrinks considerably with age and physical condition... There is a reason many single women retire to the beach or sun belt... it takes effort to put up with winter weather - but sitting in a darkened home with AC running for 6 months or more is not much different???

I met my Ex-wife on Match.com and she moved back to California to be closer to her daughter and grandkids. Family can be a powerful factor. My last partner moved to Colorado and I stayed here... I have a home that I love and a mortgage and a job that make it very hard to start over... I am resigned to meeting local women - but living in Sarah Palin's backyard it is hard to find much in common... honesty is my only real virtue?

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  1. Yes, I’m looking for a partner, lover, life companion. I don’t know if I’ll find her, but I’ll keep trying.
  2. Possibly, but not right now. Once I retire, who knows
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I don’t look for it but I’m open to it. It’s happened twice. By and large, I only date local but I live in a major city so it’s easier to find bc the pool is larger.

I envy your dating pool. It's not only larger, but it's probably way more hip and progressive in it's culture and lifestyle of most singles there compared to Des Moines Iowa. Someone like you or me probably has way more compatible people to choose from there whether it's on here or a paid site like Match.

It's not that Des Moines is really that boring or backward, it's that non-believing hipsters, at least in my age group, are a very small, marginal group because for so long DM WAS really backward and boring. So most of the hipsters and non-believers there are fairly young, new transplants. The ones like that my age are pretty much all taken and the rest of my age group that are not hipsters or non-believers are legion, namely all the folks who grew up on the farm or at least in a rural part of Iowa before moving to the big city and are still clinging, as Obama would put it, to their traditional family values, family-oriented social life, Christian religion, and love of country music. All of which I reject, as do most of the other members of this site.

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I came here looking for women to date and quickly learned that is useless for my age group and area. As someone else said, the pickings of compatible women in my area on here is even thinner than on Match, where I've been for two years and will stay with besides here. There are a good number of compatible women on here, but they all live hundreds or more miles away.

Yes, I am financially able to date LD or relocate but I won't do it for reasons I have spelled out ad nauseum on here. Emotional drain and risk. Needing my local friends too much. Already moved too much in this decade. Too emotionally tired from losing both parents and my late wife's dementia followed by her death. I will stay here to live or die, even tho with age, like you say FJ, the dating pool shrinks to a puddle in my area esp. with age and my being so far out of the mainstream culture and lifestyle here.

And the bitch of it is, that few women on Agnostic would move to Iowa anyway to be with me, between the weather and the backward culture of even the Des Moines area, where I live, compared to where they already live, and I don't blame them. Every woman from here that I have got to know that would be compatible to date has told me they would never move to Iowa.

As to your last paragraph, I too feel too old to start over or move and family life is everything to the vast majority of women on Match here in Iowa, so very few will want a non-family-oriented Agnostic hipster like me without children. Also the vast majority of women on Match my age all have kids and almost all of them, as well as almost all of the women who don't have kids, want only family men with kids. Very different dating pool than what I'm told they're like on the coasts or on here.

@LimitedLight You mean the ads for Agnostic on FB? I dunno, but that explains why the site growth seems to have really slowed compared to back then a couple years ago when I joined. Maybe the admin. didn't have the $ to continue the ads or didn't feel like it. But it's obvious to me that, since then, depending on word of mouth is not going to cut it as far as the site appreciably growing much in the future. In my local area, it hasn't grown at all in the last two years. Maybe the FB ads were an experiment by the admin. to see if the site had dating potential and when the results were not encouraging enough to justify further investment towards making this a real dating site, he gave up and quit advertising. I can only speculate....

@LimitedLight Thanks, I do feel that if this site had the numbers spread evenly across the US and UK enough to provide real dating options on a par with Match and such, I think that it could not only draw a lot of ad money for the site owner, but that many members here, including me, would be willing to put up with the ads and even a small membership fee per month, AS LONG AS the forums remained available and the community remained large and interesting. The rubs are two things, would the increased ad spending pay off later in the ad revenue and the membership fees AND would those income sources be enough to fund the inevitable amount of paid staff time that would be needed to police the forums? And that last one is probably the main challenge for the admin.. How do you police a site with forums and on the one hand, nurture community and fellowship of non-believers and also moderate with suspensions and bannings of members who are paying a fee to be here? That is above my intellect and pay grade, probably why, to my knowledge, none of the paid conventional dating sites have forums for the site members. Did somebody say once that POF does have one?

@LimitedLight I've been on Match the last two years, definitely no forums. Match does seem to provide the most profile info of any site, except a little less than they use to.

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There are no fit men near my age- who live near me- who are passionate hikers like me on Agnostic.com.

I have better luck on Fitness Singles.

As a passionate hiker, I want to live near the mountains. Plus my daughter lives in the Seattle area.

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#1 I joined this site it was because of an ad of Facebook. The ad called this a dating site for Atheists and Agnostics. I have found that to be true. However, the population of Atheists & Agnostics in my area is even thinner than the population of eligible mates on the traditional dating sites.

#2 I am financially able to relocate, but not willing to do it on a whim.

I don't have any family keeping me here, but I've lived here all my life and I know who to call and where to go for practically everything.

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I live in Southern California why would I want to move elsewhere?... Next year my income should go up enough for me to pay off my home and make some improvements to it so I can sell it for enough to relocate closer to the beach. Or if I make up my mind to stay here I can be debt free in about 5 years.

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How much someone likes the Safety Dance is important too. Hahaha

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I am a very very high probability on both.

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  1. I am looking for a special someone.
  2. I am financially able to move but absolutely won’t. My life is here.

I have zero expectations of meeting someone on this site. The numbers are low, and even lower is the number of people remotely close to my age that I’m attracted to. So I’m also on regular dating sites. More luck there.

@LimitedLight LOL. Not hideous at all!
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@LimitedLight Aww. 😞

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