Is it harder for women to get a date or for men?
It depends! It depends on your location, your age, your wants from another, your personality and on and on. For me it is difficult especially since I sort of have outgrown "dates" (except the eating kind). For now finding a friend outside of my community is very difficult. For my late partner, she would have guys lined up around the block, but, boy would she be picky (she could afford to do so). Individual personality has a lot to do with this question.
Interesting that a lot of people are convinced the other sex has it easier. I don't think either side has an advantage. As for me, I go through periods where I get dates, I get annoyed and run out of the proverbial rats' asses to give, then I go back to just doing my thing and end up with more date offers and I figure a.) I like myself too much to let someone else bolster their ego by highlighting all of my physical and personality flaws. 2.) I need to accept that the freedom to be weird comes with its tradeoffs. Maybe being alone when it comes to relationships is one of them.
I'm not sure it's a gender issue. I see a lot of people of any gender identity who seem to get dates easily, and I see others who can't seem to land a date no matter what they do. I think it comes down to personality traits more than gender roles. Appearance plays a role, certainly, but that doesn't seem to be the most important factor.
I think it is harder for men. My female BFF gets messaged all the time, not that she's interested in most of the men who message her...
Many people have crappy profiles. It's not written well, has spelling and grammatical mistakes, etc. I wouldn't date anyone who couldn't write a decent profile. The pictures are also important. Have a friend take some, compose them well, have a decent background. I assume people put their most flattering pictures on a profile and the best one first.
It seems all a woman has to do is say yes.
What disappoints me is the quality of women looking for a date. Around here most women want you to ride a harley (I'm a Ducati man myself or BMW), have a well paying job and a really nice car, so she can ride your harley, spend your money and drive your really nice car. They bring nothing to the table other than arm candy or sex.
Sometimes I want to live in a cave and be a hermit rather than wasting my time wading through their ilk trying to find a diamond in a world of trash.
This is just my observation, but if you are willing to do the job, even if you're not fully qualified, people will hire you.
I think people get the number of dates they actually (subconsciously) want.
Due to my male nature, I put out rejection vibes constantly, so men who successfully date me make friends with me first, then after we're good hiking and dancing partners, gradually bring romance into it. Also, they don't take rejection personally.
I think it is more difficult for women. I could be wrong. That has been my experience. But it depends on where you are. When I took a trip to Egypt, I got lots of offers for dates. Being middle aged and plump - makes no difference, the dudes love American women (they also love Green Cards.)
I don't know what the answer is. I was on a couple dating sites for 2 or 3 months, had a few message exchanges, a couple phone conversations; but, even though those seemed, to me at least, to have gone reasonably well, nothing came of them. Many, most really, of the women who initiated contact with me were fairly obviously not good matches; it was like they didn't even read my profile. And several were older, most christian.
This is a really good question. I've been on a few dating sites and managed a couple of dates and one led to a six month fling that was most enjoyable but most women, not on here I hasten to add, have a list of prerequisites as long as your arm that nobody can possibly meet....unless you're good looking and over a certain height!
I'm also not entirely sure if I'm available or not. And I don't mean I'm daft or shacked up with someone but I like to think I'm open to having a relationship but am I, I don't ask, I don't look, I like my privacy and my marriage ended after getting a good kick in (both metophorically and actually) so maybe I'm not as available as I think, I may just give off a vibe....I don;t honestly know.
I'm also assuming that women generally don't think I look like a gargoyle but then one can and does fancy the oddest people so who knows lol