Saw the post - How important is sex in a relationship
Taking the other stance
How inportant is a close personal relationship with a sex partner
Sex can be anything from a moment of shared pleasure between two people who want nothing more from each other to an expression of love between two people who have been exclusively together for a long period of time.
So long as both parties are honest with themselves and each other regarding what they want from the relationship, it’s a personal choice which shouldn’t be mandated by any government or religious organization beyond punishment for the use of coercion or harrassment to gain sexual Congress with another.
In a general sense, relationship is not a prerequisite for sex. However, for certain individuals, it very much IS. If the question was directed toward me, personally, a close relationship is needed before I consider getting physical. Conversely, physical attraction is needed up front for me to feel romantic toward someone.
I have to at least like the person I am having sex with...as a sapiosexual, it is hard to enjoy sex without at an intellectual connection.
I am going to choose very important because without a close personal relationship, sex would not be happening...it does not mean that I am committed except when I am with my partner.
I personally can't have sex without becoming attached. So, it may start out in a casual way, but if it continues for any length of time, and I want it to continue, I begin to become attached. I suppose this is due to brain chemistry, which increases greatly during times of intimacy. Once this happens, I believe my brain is changed in some way, either by forging new connections, or by becoming addicted to the chemicals. I don't know. I am undergoing such a relationship at the moment; it is dangerous for my well being, due to certain circumstances, and I don't know how to stop it. :'( Christians might say "turn it over to God", but an agnostic like me has to live with this attachment in every cell in my brain, and it's very tough.
Depends on my objective at whatever phase of life I'm in ...
I do so like a woman who keeps her options open