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Im going to go out with a guy I met online who says he's a primal dom. I had to google it. Anyone with any experience to share?

Lauraleigh39 6 Aug 2
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I think that means he likes to dress up in a gorilla costume, tie girls up, pretend they're Faye Wray, and slobber all over them.

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Well i met him and he looks nothing like his photos so im not interested lol so I guess Ill never find out if I would like it 😛. Irony.

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Well I just checked your profile to see if my memory was incorrect. It was not. I know I don't know you, but why a well-educated, attractive, intelligent, interesting woman would want to subject themselves to that type of humiliation is beyond me. To each their own. You Googled those personality traits so you know what you're getting into.

Omg please you hsve no idea what u are talking about.

@Lauraleigh39 You mean you are actually a misinformed, unattractive, boring woman of inferior intellect? Sorry my mistake. Or did you mean that I did not know that a primal dom likes to have sex like an animal in a domineering manner?

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No, but if I recall your profile correctly you don't seem like someone who wants every aspect of your life to be subject to the whims of some narcissist. I can't believe you're even going out with him! Maybe my memory of your profile is failing me.

Its not about narcissism

@Lauraleigh39 Domination does not relate to narcissism? Have you run into any submissive narcissists lately?

@mooredolezal im so past this conversation. Primal dom is a term for a sexual kink not an entire life philosophy and involves consent. Theres way more out there than run of the mill sex.

@Lauraleigh39 you are clearly not past this conversation or you would not continue to reply. BTW I never wrote that it was a life philosophy nor that it was non-consensual. What I wrote was people who practice domination in the bedroom have narcissistic personality traits. You can agree or disagree, I could care less.

@mooredolezal im replying bc its my damn post and your closemindedness is annoying. If you couldnt care less then scroll on. How would you even know have you any real experience with it??

@Lauraleigh39 it seems as though you enjoy annoying yourself. I'm not close minded. I'm just correcting your mistakes. When somebody writes I wrote something I didn't, I correct them. As for not caring less, what I meant was whether you agree with me or not it is not going to evoke an emotional response. I did not mean I was disinterested in your views. Poor wording on my part. Why would you tell me to scroll on and then keep responding? You do not want me to read your replies? Your last question is vague. It reads as though you believe no knowledge on any given subject can be had without experiencing it. Of course that would be ridiculous, so if you want to clarify your question I will answer it. I can tell you one thing, Closer by Nine Inch Nails is one of my favorite songs. If you do not understand this reference YouTube it. It can be our song.😁 PS Why do you keep on complaining about my replies when 99% of the people on this thread agree with me? If you want to go out with me just ask, no need for an argumentative pretense. I think you're hot.

@mooredolezal im sorry that you misread my zero fucks given ability to respond for sexual interest. I simply disagree with you that a sexual kink predicts an entire personna. Im personally turned on by the idea of primal dom occasionally in a mate and don't think that means theyll abuse me or neglect me.

@Lauraleigh39 Please translate "zero fucks given ability to respond for sexual interest". I seriously tried to figure it out. If it means that you think I misread you hitting on me, you are the one doing the misreading. I was trying to lighten up the conversation with a joke. I know sometimes it is difficult to recognize sarcasm in text. If you knew me you would have known I was kidding. That's why I don't like to text particularly, given an option to do otherwise. Don't get me wrong you are attractive as I said in my first reply on this thread, but we are 500 miles away from each other at least, so we are obviously not going to be going anywhere together. As far as our disagreement, that's what I wrote a couple of days ago. There is nothing the matter if that is the way you feel. I have no problem with consenting adults doing whatever they want in the bedroom. Like some people are into pain, not me, but I have no problem with it. It's none of my business. Now what I don't understand, after all this discussion, is why you are not going out with the guy? PS What is really funny is now that you have me thinking about it I'm getting turned on LOL I've only been seeing my lover for a couple weeks, I'm going to ask her if she is into that. I've never been with anyone interested in anything more than mild spanking in the front.

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Give it a try - won't kill you (assuming the guy is not a psychopathic murderer) and it may be your thing ... if you don't enjoy it you can walk away - good luck

Exactly

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If he starts w/the whole "Alpha Dom" 🐂💩, just cut ties, block him & join fetlife to find real, authentic people in your area.

@sweetcharlotte no. If there is an interest in a fetish lifestyle, fetlife.com is free, you can utilize it to educate yourself on the different aspects of kink & tou can connect t with local folks, in vanilla settings called "munches" (meetings held in public places like coffee shops/restaurants) to get to know folks in a no pressure, vanilla, "normal" setting.

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If you're into the dom/sub thing, knock yourself out. Oh wait... he'll do that for you. Not my thing and I'm far from being a prude. Definitely wouldn't trust a stranger to that extent.

Deb57 Level 8 Aug 2, 2019
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I think perhpas you want to go slow with this one and see what he means and make sure you are ok with it.🙂

Yeah i already shared some of the more negative views on here and he seemed offended and said thats ridiculous. The convo ended. Im such a player....

@Lauraleigh39 well if he was easily offended then better he moves on. I mean that is a bit much so he should have been less offended.

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Use your own judgment, and if he seems okay, then good luck to you. My caveat would be to wonder if he advertised himself as this first thing, or if he took some time getting to know you before the subject came up (so to speak).

Maybe hes doing the full disclosure tactic... i do it too lol. Ive had several disappear after one phone call lol

@Lauraleigh39 I know that feeling. I've been lucky at last to find someone who not only encouraged my disclosure but embraced my nature, and I hers.

I would rather you had used " So to spank " rather than " So to speak". I adore a good pun.

@ForTheBirds I think I adore you (in a strictly friendly manner of course).

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"Anal sex is the ultimate in submission," Bill said. "My fetish is anal sex."

Yikes! Run for the hills!

Never!!!

@maturin1919 Ew

you should have said "mine too" & strapped on a 9" dildo.

@callmedubious

Hilarious!

Ok. Try this on !

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You might want to prolong the "getting to know you" phrase before going to his place...just for safety!

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Again you guys are pretty negative as a group. So far i already know this is a sexual preference involving consent and trust respect and doesn't mean someone is abusive or a psychopath just like tattoos.

I currently have no problem with primal passion in bed especially as opposed to the opposite especially if im enjoying it. Hes probably upfront about it bc some people wouldnt be into it and others would. My only issue is im not submissive at least not totally.

From what ive read primal doms don't use bondage just their own body which sounds hot imo

I've never heard the phrase, but have used "our primal nature"...that would be sexual relationships as typical of many large mammals...
This would define our sexual life. Our emotional life, as rich and loving as any may be...

and regarding group negativity, our primal cousins the large mammals very rarely(if ever) rape and beat their mates...each accommodate the other...

Wow, how nasty & judgemental, after ASKING what we thought...you & he should be a fabulous match.....

What does primal dom have to do with rape and beating? Maybe i like being bitten or held down occasionally? Its not black and white here

@AnneWimsey sorry i just say what i really am thinking. On average here people seem somewhat negative and prudish even about tattoos

@AnneWimsey ...looking for "nasty & judgmental" here...not finding it...sorry you're offended...

@Lauraleigh39 I have quite a few tattoos and have not experienced any such thing as negativity about them....maybe you just expect negativity & so that's what you see/hear/read?
And being safe, and offering ideas on how to be safe is Not negativity, it is common sense!

Im sorry maybe im just going through a phase. Maybe i just need to get laid. Idk but im curious and im into him

@seattlepanda your very first thread post accused us of being "negative as a group"...what do You call a remark like that?

All i can say is to me calling someone who identifies as primal dom an abuser, rapist, and references to them murdering me is/are all pretty negative

Im sorry i got defensive you are right.

I have always found that the word "consent" is always, always abused. I would tread carefully if he already has said that he is a primal dom. It's like he is boasting and why oh why would someone do that before they even met you. Be safe and not only physically.

@Lauraleigh39 no, they are people with common sense. Do you not see, if he puts it out there before you ever meet, no matter what happens police & prosecutors will Not be interested..."she asked for it" is alive & well.

@AnneWimsey wow you are so sure im going to be raped and beaten...i just think thats a misconception. Has anyone here actually had any experience with bdsm enough to know??

@Lauraleigh39 I enjoy BDSM porn now & then, but a guy who puts stuff on his profile may very well be setting you up for something where you have no recourse.....
Plus, do you enjoy being bitten and scratched?? Do you know how many nasties are under nails & teeth?

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Don't go near unless you are into bondage

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If you had to google it, I am going to suggest that this might not be the date for you...I am surprised that he would even consider telling you this since you are not in the lifestyle...makes me suspect that he really isn't what he says he is...

It was on his profile lol

@Lauraleigh39 At least he is honest...usually, there has to be a level of trust between two people in order to have this type of relationship...terms and contracts have to be set and stop words agreed to in advance...it can be quite upsetting if a partner has no idea and engages in sexual activity immediately..just take your time...it might be for you...but I would think by now you would know that...or maybe you do...😉

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well, if he can't even SPELL dumb then I wouldn't mess with him.

you are joking, right? 😉

@thinktwice did you know "gullible" isn't in the dictionary?

@JeffMesser very funny...

@thinktwice see ... nice clean fun and you didnt need lube or a safe word.

@JeffMesser indeed...a play on words and engaging on a cerebral level is much more fun...

@thinktwice I sense a scintilla of sarcasm.

@JeffMesser not at all..

@thinktwice really? wow, my sensors must be way off because they're picking it up still!

@JeffMesser Let's clear this up right now, then...I was confused by your original comment and thought you misread "dom"...then when you posted the next comment, I realized you were indeed joking...and perhaps giving a sarcastic remark regarding the poster...then your next post re: safe word, clued me in that you knew exactly what a dom was...it is then that I came to the conclusion that you are clever and witty...more cerebral and nuanced that many...so...NO sarcasm meant...a compliment

@thinktwice I am merely engaging in playful banter. I am not in the least bit angered or disturbed. namaste

@JeffMesser exactly! That was my take and my response as well..just take the damn compliment, lol...Peace

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If getting beat up tickles your fancy, then by all means give it a try. Just let a friend know where you are going and take a picture of him when you meet in a public place and send it immediately. It may take a couple of months for the cops to find you in a suburban basement. You can meditate between the rapes and beatings. When I was on a dating site a guy not into my generally snotty attitude told me what I needed was to be submissive. He would show me a thing or two. I replied that if he tried any of that shit on me, he would wake up looking at the ceiling in the ER. Men passing as normal are dangerous enough. This guy has crossed a line.

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