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So there is a condolence card in the break room for one of my coworkers who’s dad just died. It has a bible verse on the front and may God give you peace stuff inside. I don’t really want to put my name on it. Would you?

LisaL81 7 Aug 22
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Sure, this is not about me, but them. l lose nothing by signing, and if it gives them the slightest bit of comfort, that is what is important. That is me. You have to do what you feel is best.

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I would go with the option of giving them another card. The card is the important thing, right? If they get more cards, they tend to feel like there is more attention given to their grief compared to one card with lots of signatures. So if they get the attention, they will feel like more support is offered and thus they can feel more assured in their grief, in that they will get support from more people if needed. Then again, I'm not really a people person, nor do I believe I really understand these rituals for condolences.

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Yes. Sign it. I just say things like "My thoughts are with you and let me know what I can do."
I let others pray for them, etc.

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Condolences are not a statement of your belief

bobwjr Level 10 Aug 22, 2019
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Yes I definitely would .If you like your coworker why the heck would you not want to attempt to make them feel better at a time like this .Let people believe in their fairytales .I believe in shoving my non belief aside to make another person feel better .

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I would write a short note on the card with your name. “My deepest condolences in this time of grief”.

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I’d absolutely sign my name to it. It doesn’t mean you agree with the religious statements, just that you are showing support during their time of grief. And I find it’s best to comfort people in the way that works for them; it’s about their comfort, not ours.

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You could buy a card of your own choosing .

7

yes don't even think of saying no

9

Absolutely. As an atheist, I have no faith in a deity, but would not choose another's time of grief to promote that viewpoint. Such a tactic is notoriously used by the J.W.s

9

Ya, well, I would! That's not the time to take a stand or make a "political" statement,
so to speak. "Just do it"!

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Give them another condolence card of your choosing. Something that actually states how YOU feel.

8

Yes...you won’t turn into a pumpkin or anything...just put your name to it like everyone else, it’s not about you , it’s about showing that you are with your coworkers in an expression of condolence.

AGREE!

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I keep a few condolence cards at work. I would not sign the god one, but I would give the person a card.

Ya, that's ok, too!

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Is he religious / believer ? If yes , I would . It doesn't matter . It's about his darkest moment , he lost a parent . Is not about me or god right now . Who cares . Definitely not the coworker . Losing a parent is hard 🙁 Losing gods and devils is easy . Not real .

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I would simply because it means nothing to me but I'd probably be rolling my eyes while signing it.

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I would as a formality. I would not make a fuss about it at work. He or she is just another individual who happens to believe in Jesus. If you can talk to him or her, you can surely sign the note.

There are a lot of other places to do it (like here 🙂

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i would, but i would write something personal and not mention god.

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Nope.

I also hope you don't allow anyone to guilt you into it, either.
The whole "what does it hurt?" line of "reasoning" is precisely
how we've gotten to the point where the believers scream discrimination if they're told to keep their delusions to themselves.

I don't mind pissing people off. You know, since most of them don't
seem to mind pissing me off. Turnabout is fair play.

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