So there is a condolence card in the break room for one of my coworkers who’s dad just died. It has a bible verse on the front and may God give you peace stuff inside. I don’t really want to put my name on it. Would you?
sign it.. you're offering condolences, not indicating agreement with what is written.
With unmistakable hint of religious denial. Like ...all things pass and I remember the good times.
You could give them a card of your own. That would be special coming just from you.
Sure. You signing it or initialing it won't hurt you.
No because these types of cards are often sent by well meaning fools to people who may not even share their beliefs. I would go directly to my coworker and let them know if they need anything even just to talk I am available. Religious condolence cards are just another form of Snots and Bears...
If you have to ask this question it is pitiful .
Being self centered and thinking of yourself instead of the other individual
Its not the co-worker's fault its a christian type card. If it were someone I really wanted to offer a moment of comfort to, I would just write something short and sweet, to the point, on the back of the card, with any type of secular condolence I was comfortable with. I've always considered honest secular condolences far more meaningful than any christian one.
Of course I would sign it .My first thought in this matter would be to feel empathy for the individual not about my self .
The co-worker may not be religious.
I had this kind of situation before and I signed it. Do it if only you feel comfortable, Bible words are just words and maybe you should focus on your co-worker emotional pain.
Write your own little note next to your name. Show vompassion for your colleague's loss is more important.
meant compassion
I would. It's not about your beliefs, it's about the gesture of solidarity.
The card may have been chosen according to the beliefs of the purchaser. The bereaved co-worker may not be Christian.
@Carin, I can see where you come from. Still I value more the gesture of good will than anything else. If we disagree I don't take it as a big deal.
Well, while I understand and agree with the popular opinion of "this is not the time", I have a question before I can answer...
Is the person who lost their father religious?
If so, I would sign the card - it's about supporting them, not my personal beliefs (or non-beliefs).
OR
Is the person who lost their father not very religious and the person who picked up the card more religious (and pushing their beliefs)? If this is the case, I would no sign it, and would instead, pick up a card myself to show support.
Of course, if I don't know either of the people involved, I may not even bother to sign the card at all.