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So there is a condolence card in the break room for one of my coworkers who’s dad just died. It has a bible verse on the front and may God give you peace stuff inside. I don’t really want to put my name on it. Would you?

LisaL81 7 Aug 22
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It depends. If you know the co-worker is religious and would appreciate the religious sentiment - then yes.

Otherwise a separate card of your own. Perhaps also offered in the break room.

5

I'd either sign it or get a card of my own to give the cowerker.

I agree with either signing the card, or get your own card for them.

3

No, you can buy your own card. Or just write a letter--that's considered more proper anyway.

Carin Level 8 Aug 22, 2019
5

yes. it's not about you it's about them.

4

sign it.. you're offering condolences, not indicating agreement with what is written.

1

With unmistakable hint of religious denial. Like ...all things pass and I remember the good times.

4

You could give them a card of your own. That would be special coming just from you.

4

Sure. You signing it or initialing it won't hurt you.

2

No because these types of cards are often sent by well meaning fools to people who may not even share their beliefs. I would go directly to my coworker and let them know if they need anything even just to talk I am available. Religious condolence cards are just another form of Snots and Bears...

6

If you have to ask this question it is pitiful .

Being self centered and thinking of yourself instead of the other individual

9

Yes ,I tend to think about other people’s feelings before my own .

2

I wouldn't. If I'm close enough to them, I'd be there for them instead.

5

Its not the co-worker's fault its a christian type card. If it were someone I really wanted to offer a moment of comfort to, I would just write something short and sweet, to the point, on the back of the card, with any type of secular condolence I was comfortable with. I've always considered honest secular condolences far more meaningful than any christian one.

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I certainly would .My first action would be to attempt to help the person emotionally.The last thing i would do is to serve my own self interest This is highly insensitive in my view .

granny Level 6 Aug 22, 2019
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Of course I would sign it .My first thought in this matter would be to feel empathy for the individual not about my self .

The co-worker may not be religious.

4

I had this kind of situation before and I signed it. Do it if only you feel comfortable, Bible words are just words and maybe you should focus on your co-worker emotional pain.

4

Of course I would, condolences are for the grieving, just put some nice words that are not religious like may he rest in peace or something like that.

6

Write your own little note next to your name. Show vompassion for your colleague's loss is more important.

meant compassion

6

I would. It's not about your beliefs, it's about the gesture of solidarity.

The card may have been chosen according to the beliefs of the purchaser. The bereaved co-worker may not be Christian.

@Carin, I can see where you come from. Still I value more the gesture of good will than anything else. If we disagree I don't take it as a big deal.

7

I don’t see a problem with putting your name on it. Why raise a stink over nothing? What could it possibly hurt. It’s just being courteous and I’m sure you won’t go to hell for doing it.

6

The card isn't about you. Either offer your condolences to the grieving or don't. Seems like a weird way to make a stand though

6

Well, while I understand and agree with the popular opinion of "this is not the time", I have a question before I can answer...

Is the person who lost their father religious?
If so, I would sign the card - it's about supporting them, not my personal beliefs (or non-beliefs).
OR
Is the person who lost their father not very religious and the person who picked up the card more religious (and pushing their beliefs)? If this is the case, I would no sign it, and would instead, pick up a card myself to show support.

Of course, if I don't know either of the people involved, I may not even bother to sign the card at all.

5

Yeah, I would hold my nose and do it. There are times in life when it’s not about me.

skado Level 9 Aug 22, 2019
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Yes, I would to give that person some peace. Just don't put your name anywhere near the bible verse.

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