Along with my many rules such as "Thou shalt have a car" , "Thou shalt have a steady source of income" ,and "Though shalt not have a criminal background including aggravated assault", I have mentioned that I am a liberal agnostic and that is not up for negotiation. We can talk about something else if you do not feel likewise. I am sure that I get a fraction of messages due to sounding uptight, but it's a timesaver.

I specifically put in my profiles "no religious people or Republicans" and I still get them.

I've had that problem except it's with guys and sex. I finally get so tired of them turning everything I say to something sexual that I will tell them that there is more to life than sex.

There is more to life than religion. If they don't agree just tell them you don't believe you are compatible and end the conversation.

I can totally relate! I wish there were more of us, period - a majority of people on this rock who value logic and reason would be a dream. Oh, and kudos to you for having the patience to talk at length with bible thumpers. Your effort to find a connection is admirable

When I had a dating profile up I specified up front that I was not religious but it was okay if they were. As long as nobody tries to convert the other. However, if the bible was on their "Best books read list" or they did as you stated and God, lord, Lawd or Jesus was every other word... I'd move on to the next, just the same as if they had a picture posted wearing a MAGA hat. I don't care how beautiful you are... If you are wearing a MAGA hat... You're just plain ugly!

I can understand someone believing in god.... They were probably raised that way and told what to believe. But being a Trump supporter is being willfully stupid!

Sorry to derail your thread...

I already quit online dating, the way it makes me feel with women on that is that I have to tick the boxes so I would get a chance. People tend to look for the "perfect" match, sometimes getting unrealistic expectations about people. At the moment I'm feeling pretty much comfortable with being on my own. I don't even try to look for a relationship now. Why worry about that? Of course I don't want to discourage people of taking a chance in dating, everybody's different with different attitude towards things. Whatever feels /seems /thinks right at the moment just do it, no problems.

It's a very, very annoyed time with politics too. I met a nice gentleman in this site but it was my mistake for not asking about his politics views while we were texting. So I discovered that he admired the Orange Republican and that was the END.

I always stated I'm atheist in my profile and still got the god squad type, and a sprinkling of "oh your life must be so empty without jesus" brainwash type. But it was the repubs that made me give up on it. Now I flirt at the gym.

It's a time saver.

I'd rather have a woman come out and say her relationship with Jesus is the most important thing in her life right from the start.

That way I know not to waste any more time with her.

I had this happen to me several years ago. It was when I was done with organized religion, but still believed a God existed so I was more tolerant of the bullshit.

The conversation was going well and decided I'd meet him in person. I did ask why he wasn't on Christian Mingle and he replied that he didn't like the women there (red flag).

I brought up the topic of homeless people ( it was a "practice what you preach" test). He replied "God helps those who help themselves. Bums are disgusting and should get a job."

I told him I'd no longer meet him and that I understood why he didn't like the women on Christian Mingle. They were probably just like him.

Best of luck to you. I have had no luck in the quest.

Welcome to the asylum. Enjoy your stay.

Good luck in your search.

On the flip side, I have come across men who will change their religious status to non-religious in order to meet me, and then change it back when I say no. Those I did meet, were still confounded when they start making God references, and when I'm puzzled, they exclaim, you mean you don't believe in God at all? I guess to some, the term non-religious simply means religion-lite. Those that actually were "non-religious" turned out to be new age nuts, which is same as religious to me, so I'm happy to remain single.

Maybe you should start your conversation by asking if they are religious. If they say yes then hangup.

These people need a sense of community and their club allows them to instantly bow their heads and start talking to themselves. Rather than feel silly they think they have the higher ground and great morality while you have nothing because you do not know the invisible man.

In cases of believer conflict you can find many times that a preacher or minister type has come into a situation to help bust up a couple and everyone thinks this was god's will. Pursue love and relationships with believers at your own peril.

i absolutely believe y'all about your experiences in this regard but i just have never had them. i never dated much but when i did, be it a blind date, a date found in the back of a newspaper (before the internet, folks) or online, religion never came up. i went on one date with a libertarian whose politics horrified me, a guy who showed up drunk and proceeded to drink, and a really nice one with whom i hit it off so well we actually got to the kissing part and THAT killed it, since he couldn't keep his hands from my throat. (no thanks!) and then there was the guy who told me he was married AFTER we'd been intimate, and the guy who at least was up front about that. "my wife and i have an open relationship." "that's nice. i don't." nobody ever mentioned religion. now i have been settled for almost two decades with a guy who vaguely believes in a personal god but doesn't push it, and whose belief doesn't make him science-stupid. we're jewish, so there's no jesus stuff -- that would sure be a dealbreaker! the topic doesn't come up much. i like rituals, parties, good food, so we're celebrating rosh hashana tonight, when we get home from the opera.

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Fanatics, fanatics by the bus loads.

When I met women online, before there was any real life meeting, I made my position on religion, spirituality, and pseudoscience as clear as possible. I mean if I like someone, I like them; however I'm not going to believe in nonsense or pretend to in order to impress anyone.

I have found that if you mention your lack of belief in your dating profile and/or your desire to not meet anyone religious that it usually, saves a lot of time.

use filters and describe yourself clearly as a nonbeliever

Yeah it's pretty awful trying to avoid the thesist

Early on, I was talking with one on the phone and just joking about our various characteristics. Height, age, education. I mentioned that if I could, I would have made her a little taller. She went on a tirade about how she is perfect because God made her. I don't think she thought I was perfect, and I suppose she believes God made everyone.

I had a contact from a guy that had Baptists in his religious preference box. I immediately told him that I was not religious and we probably would not be a good match. He immediately told me that he just put Baptist there because he thought that's what most women in the area were. Of course he voted for Trump as well. There are a lot of dishonest people in this world and they accept dishonesty in other people that they see using it for self benefit.

Me too hard time

Yeah that's why I look here saves heartache and great collection of women I can relate to and possibly have a relationship and the quality here is superb hard to find elsewhere