What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would even consider a long term relationship with them.
@creative51 Sex has become completely irrelevant to my life.
That's actually something I'm really grateful for, too.
I've made FAR too many poor choices because of it, and there wasn't enough "good" sex to have made those poor choices worth it.
@creative51 Please do not feel "bad" for me. I'm REALLY okay with my choices. I'm actually a very happy and content person.
I've eliminated most of the bullshit from my life. Sex carries with it entirely too much bullshit to deal with.
Once I quit pursuing it, my life calmed down considerably. I really enjoy
the peace and quiet. Life is good.
Smart, kind, not a Trumper ( which goes along with smart and kind I suppose), no addictions ( been there and done that, can't do it again) curious about the world and willing to learn new things, good sense of humor, able to indulge my passion for hours in a museum by either keeping themselves busy or tagging along with good grace
I really don’t have a list, but Trump is the lesson here. If they display any of his nasty traits we are done.
That they don't have a list of "must haves".
@demifeministgal he's a golden retriever/poodle, designer mutt. Fantastic dog, highly recommend if smart, high energy dogs are your thing.
@1of5 oh wow he looks so much like Kirby (soft coated wheaten terrier) in the pic you have up right now... I thought he was a labradoodle cuz those look very similar to wheatens
@demifeministgal Wheaton is a breed I'd like to get someday, have to wait till we move east first, though. how old is Kirby?
He's been mistaken for a Wheaton and an albino sheepdog before (when he was younger he was almost pure white and extremely fluffy if I let his hippy hair grow).
@1of5 Kirby is 5 years old... and he started off as a little brown and black furball and grew into a creamy white adult... that is common for wheaten terriers so it's like having two doggies from puppyhood to adulthood <3
@demifeministgal sounds adorable.
Think I'm through raising from puppies, though, unless one comes up for rescue - which someone will probably snap up before I find out about it.
Personally, I wouldn't put any physical / appearance based criteria as I strongly am of the opinion that no one chose their looks / appearance and can only do little about it.
#1. Free or low start up cost.
#2. High mileage per fuel ratio.
#3. Traverse diverse terrain.
#4. Large carrying and storage capacity.
Just one; that her standards are low enough that I already meet them.
High Emotional Intelligence
Five really is not enough. Somebody could be all of those things, but they also have to be honest, have integrity, like to travel, love nature, be a hard worker, be reliable, be respectful, have quiet confidence, be anti-chauvinist, have good manners, be thoughtful, playful, and on and on. Oh, and board games. I think my days of being with one who "doesn't want to play" are over.
There’s no 4 or 5.
Loyal, honest, funny, smart, & GREAT in bed!
*Intelligent (not just very in depth knowledge of one subject)
*Strong willed (not stubborn but confident).
*Rational (Not a believer, not spitlritual, no homeopathy, healing crystals, Himalayan salt lamps, acupuncture, astrology, or pseudoscientific bullshit.)
*Honest (This is the big no-compromise issue.)
I like your definition of rational, but I wonder if all of those would fall under a person with good critical thinking skills.
The person must be:
i am not to pick
Integrity & honesty
Freedom from religion
Like to travel
Wise with money
They accept me for who I am. (That is the biggie)
Sense of humor.
Liberal both politically and socially.
@LetzGetReal Thanks for pointing it out. I am seldom doing this that I am not watching something at the same time, so I tend to type some things i see later and ask myself why I did not catch it.
1 - Polydactylity - extra fingers make extra special caresses.
2 - Tourettes - nothing like random ticks and swearing to spice things up in the bedroom.
3 - Alopecia - I like ladies the way nature intended - completely hairless from head to toe
4 - Hypermobile joints. The risk of dislocating hips makes every shag a danger shag.
5 - Teeth filed into points. Just for the esthetics.
Intelligent but modest
Thoughtful/empathic - the ability to see people and situations beyond oneself
Chemistry - compatibility with me in my quirks and sensibilities including sense of humor, outlook on life, whatever
@creative51 No. If it's male, it'll be neutered. Sex isn't an option.