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I had an interesting conversation today. So, someone I care about told me I just needed to accept that I was blessed and god was helping me with something. I politely said "Yes mam." and the conversation was over. Does belief in god just make you naturally condescending. She knows I am atheist. She knows I am very well versed in her religion. I can't imagine how offended she would be if I said that there is no god and things don't happen for a reason. Why do I have to be the adult? 😃

Trussell2069 6 Oct 29
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When I get something ridiculous like that, something unprovable, I come back with something just as ridiculous . . . . if they want to play in the playground of fantasy, they have only just given me permission to up the ante . . . . So I would say something like, "Well, since I am god, I certainly have already blessed myself, and am helping myself." What it does is throw them off of their footing, they expect you to play in their sandbox, or oppose them, but then when you do so in a way that totally distracts from their initial comment, they do not know how to respond. On top of all that, it is what they consider to be . . . . blasphemy!

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My best friend told me several years ago that I was just mad at God and I'd "get over it." My sister told me recently that I just hadn't heard the message "the right way."

I am 40 years old. I had a Catholic upbringing including 12 years of Catholic education, and a good 15 years beyond that of spiritual exploration before coming to the conclusion that either there is no god, or if there is, it's a sadistic, capricious god. My opinion was formed based on both my own personal experiences, as well as the things I saw as a social worker and therapist. My position is probably more well-examined than theirs. And I don't think either of them realized how offensively condescending they were.

Wow - almost my exact experience with my disenfranchisement of Catholicism at 15, and then - my Sister. I finally wrote her a long letter, in order to stop the "sales pitch" at every opportunity. Damn.

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For some , it's a go to . When you have nothing to say and have no intention of helping in any useful way , you comment about what God is going to do . Good luck with that .

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Your response preserves your integrity and her delusion. I
‘s say you found common ground. The consistency of thought, word, and deed speaks to the quality if your own faith.

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A nice and subtle variation on the awesome power of "Yes Dear"

I no longer believe in "subtlety" with believers.

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Doesn't matter what you believe. She has hers and she expressed it. No need to take offense. It hurts no one to do as you did and be civil. I get this from my religious friends. I take it as their way of showing they care. If they didn't they wouldn't say anything. People today seem to be looking to be offended.

I completely disagree.
It does, in fact, "hurt" people to allow this kind of disrespect.
It also emboldens the believers to further try to influence public policy.
It hurts a great deal.

NO, what she is doing is saying if you do not repent you will go to Hell, you need to be saved and I am going to do it.
This means she not only believes in eternal punishment for finite offenses, but believes genuinely that @Trussell2069 DESERVES to burn for all eternity for expressing his atheism
I find that incredibly evil, almost as evil as worshiping a being you believe would do that to ANYONE, especial for nothing more than not believing in a creature that refuses to prove it's own existence.
I never bring the subject up but when and if people insist on trying preaching on me I warn them once that they do not want to discuss this with me, if they still insist they get both barrels of my disgust.

@KKGator
Meh, can’t hurt me

@darthfaja Mabe not, but back in the day these same people were burning heretics at the stake, and many would again given the chance, and I think you would agree, that sort of behaviour tends to sting a bit

@LenHazell53
There were a lot of things that occurred back then that have zero relevance to today. You all act so fragile. We are misfits in the world. Accept it and move on.

@darthfaja A naive attitude to take when such things are still happening in Theocracies and overly religious counties today, such as any country with Shia law and Uganda where government sanctioned mass murder of homosexuals by Christians is so common it does not even make their news and a in a world where even the most progressive country such as the USA permits the selling and preaching to children of a "Holy" book that advocates for slavery, incest, pedophillia, and the murder of children, homosexuals, foreigners, non believers and women.

@LenHazell53
I’m hardly naive but I’m also not an alarmist either.

@darthfaja Love your avatar by the way, big Hammer film fan here too 🙂

@LenHazell53
Haha thank you 🧛🏻♂️

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We all react to this type of stuff in a way that is comfortable for us. Depending on the day, I'll either let it go, or not. There is NO right or wrong way to react. "Rise above it" is bullshit advice, but if that is what works for you, then do it.

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Part of being an adult is having to put up with foolish comments.

Live with it. 🤐

No.

@KKGator

OK. ☺️

@moosepucky
Why?
I had my education interfered with when my mother stormed into my primary school and in front of the class bawled out my teacher for doing her job and telling us human beings are animals, when according to her we are the subject of the divine image and to say otherwise is blasphemy.
WHY should my teacher have had to live with that, why should I have had to put up with that and the 14 years plus of Bible mandated SHIT she tried to indoctrinate in to me?

No Sir, we do not have to put up with lies, childish delusions, fear based nonsense and fools, when we can speak out against it and invalidate it with facts.
If you are willing to live with that for the sake of a quiet life KNOWING it is foolishness, you sir are a coward.

@LenHazell53

Evangelical anti-god, to me, is worse than the worst atrocities committed in the name of god

We are "supposed" to know better but you prove me wrong.

@moosepucky Tolerance of the intolerable or the intolerant is putting your own head under the heel of the oppressor and inviting them to stamp you silent without complaint.

@LenHazell53

I have no desire or "calling" to convert or un convert anyone.

What someone chooses to believe is their personal choice.

I have the same feelings about political choice and sexual preference. I would not call out anyone on any of their personal choices, regardless of what they have chosen.

@moosepucky So you would be okay with some Christian ass telling you your children deserve to burn in Hell forever? You are okay with extremism, nationalism, racial purity, ethnic cleansing?
All just personal choices?

By the way sexuality and gender are NOT a personal choices or preferences.

@LenHazell53 I have not experienced what you are saying.

Maybe because I am not publicly outspoken about my religious, political, or sexual preferences.

@moosepucky does not alter the fact that it happens and that such people really believe in such immoral cruelty.
If you ask a Christian if they believe that they will have one of too reponses
A) Yes in which case you then know they are an immoral monster who you should have no place for in your life
B) They say "Well I don't personally believe that but it is the will of god" in which case you know they are a hypocrite happy to worship a monster and turn a blind eye to the suffering they believe will fall on BILLIONS of people at the hands of said monster they too are an immoral monster who you should have no place for in your life

Or are you the sort of person who is willing to have an utterly cruel theo-nazi as a friend or neighbor so long as you don't know it?
I would rather know if a monster is in a position to interact with my grandchildren and make sure that they don't.

@LenHazell53:

#1) Why would I ask a Christian (Muslim, Jew, Buddhist, or any dedicated religious person) ANYTHING about their beliefs much less try to convert them to my personal beliefs? I am NOT an anti-religious fanatic. My purpose in time is to NOT create friction, especially over something as irrelevant as religion. My purpose is to enjoy the little time we have in this cognitive state known as life, not to argue about something that I have no control over.

#2) Would you prefer a pedophile as a neighbor or a religious family to interact with your grandchildren?

So far I have tried to keep our interaction on a non personal, theoretical, level. You, for some reason, want to draw me into a personal debate/argument about something that has little to no interest for me.

In our short interaction I have come to believe that you have some very personal issues that you need to work through. This is best done at a professional level, not on an internet forum which seems to only exasperate your issues.

That's about all I can say, other than good luck.

@moosepucky If you read my previous posts you would know I don't thrust my lack of beliefs on anyone,(I would have thought someone of your obvious intelligence would have known Atheism is NOT a belief) but if they attempt to thrust their's on me, I will warn them that they really don't want to do that, but if they insist I will engage with them on a factual basis and usually end up seriously damaging their faith.
Point 2 is a false dichotomy, because being a pedophile/paedophile is nothing to do with your faith or lack there off it is a mental condition that as we all know is particularly prevalent in members of the clergy of all denominations, perverts do not tend to proselyte and finally if the "christian family" are of a missionary bent you are basically saying is it not better to have your children mental raped than physically raped . Well NO neither is acceptable and both can cause long term trauma.

I do not expect you to reply to this since you seem to have lost interest in the conversation and have instead resorted politely insulting me.
But for the sake of anyone following the interaction I have had my final say.

So good luck to you too

@LenHazell53 maybe over time we can engage in substantive conversation.

I believe you have a lot to say and we all have a great deal to learn along our trip through this unusual and unexplored wilderness called life.

Best to you and I look forward to jousting on a more relivent topic sometime in the future.

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I would have used, yeah right believe what you want.

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Christian privilege is definitely a thing. Along with their belief in their magic man in the sky, they also believe they have the right, as well as the duty, to bring others out of the "darkness." It is rude as hell.

Deb57 Level 8 Oct 29, 2019

agree. I am offended by their nonsense, why should I have to put up with being offended ? their religious BS is the same as calling me a racist name... keep it to yourself

@Leetx Well, I wouldn't go that far. I definitely don't equate having someone impose their religion upon me as the same as calling anybody a racist name. Intention figures into that equation, for one thing. I also don't consider myself, or anyone, as having the right to not be offended. I just get very amused when god botherers take any level of push back to their sales pitch as effrontery.

@Deb57 your point of "intention" is a good point.. It does not make me feel less offended to know that they didn't "intend" to insult me...but, they do. they do seem offended with any push back on their delusion...and, to be honest... I don't really know if I intend to insult them when I push back. I just want them to stop talking nonsense to me... it makes my head hurt

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Two types of people in the world: those who rely on faith, and those who acknowledge evidence. It is extremely difficult for either to change.

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Everyone knows I'm an atheist so they don't bother me. I wear shirts like "Godless Heathen" and "Apostate".
It's ironic how many times I run into someone with a "Not Today Satan" shirt on. lol

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When i think about religion and the damage its done to society, and as i read about people like myself who have deprogramed themselves out of religion, i try to do all things in my life toward the overall goal of spreading the "good news" of logic and reason. I have personally gone through the struggle you currently have where you want to react negatively, and if you could do so in a way that doesn't do damage to way Agnostic atheists are seen. Unfortunately its too easy to do or say something against what you believe and it can position you, a logical free thinking person in way that causes the needle to not move. By being more humble than a Christian, it leads them to see you much more positively, and then, when a person starts to question and the resulting negative reactions from their own religion will lead them into the open arms and logical minds of abandoning religion. I carry a bit of guilt for the children i converted when i was a youth Pastor, but i carry more over the loss of christian friends who are starting to question god now when i am not in contact because we had an argument while i was a militant Athiest. Just my 2c 🙂

One can disagree respectfully and debate the existence of god(s) without being called a "militant atheist."

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I think u said what u needed to to end it. I hate trying to argue with Christians because they don't use reason and logic if they did they would question more of that none sense in the bible

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I think your friend needs to believe in a higher power. The fact that you care about her despite that shows you have already accepted the terms.

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I am sometimes enraged by idiots, for example stupid drivers that require me to slam on My brakes to avoid an accident they were precipitating. I wish I had a huge lighted sign that says "I am not your mother!" Keep one of them in your head, pop it up as needed! You're Welcome!

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Since this is someone you care about, giving that brief, benign response was a good way to preserve the relationship that you value. Yes, she may have walked away thinking you had accepted some influence, but that's really not about you.

Believers have constructed their identity and value around the pablum they receive, with points for spreading it to anyone else. They are typically unable to process the concept of alternate ideas having any validity, something I love in the atheist/agnostic community.

I like to think that some (family members of mine) may ponder the lack of conflict and argument, realizing how good it feels to not be confronted with that aggression they are accustomed to.

Well done, I say, for not engaging in that nonsense!

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“I don’t need blessings.”

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You don’t, you just choose to not offend or be mean to this person.

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The fact is, most time an atheist should just keep off some argument in public, mostly in the midst of those that can’t process beyond dogmatism chains.

That is not a fact it is an opinion.
I had a strong support network of people who helped me transition of of theism and in to reality, I am grateful for that and attempt to emulate their efforts to help me break the very chains you advocate leaving in place.

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No, belief in god does not make you naturally condescending.

I respectfully disagree, and I was raised in a very Christian environment, Christians are not only condescending to non Christians but to other "Misbelieving" Christians and to "less holy" members of their own denominations.
Even the "best" of them still consider (or are expected to consider) all "others" Hell worthy.

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I take it as a nice thing to say. I had a guy pull up next to me and ask for directions a week back. I gave him the directions and he pointed at me and said "God bless you." He was saying it sincerely. I just said "Thanks man, right back at you." I don't believe at all but I saw his "god bless" as his religious way of saying "good luck with everything and thanks for the help."

Now, if you try to proselytize or vigorously sell me on your religion, I find THAT super insulting.

I realize this is different from your situation. This is just an experience I had.

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Because you are the sane one..

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Yes, belief makes you condescending.

Consider: by their view, they are saved, protected, from "the big bad", you're not, so already they're special and better off than you.

But they also generally believe that a being vast enough to create an entire universe nevertheless has the time and the interest to have a direct, personal relationship with the believer,to actually care about the believer's life and doings and their well-being.

If one actually believes such a vast and powerful being pays that much attention to them, one's ego must be comparably vast - meaning the rest of us are, in effect, no more than bugs.

You can't be that massively egotistical and not be condescending; at most you can try to hide it a bit so you don't get poked in the nose too often.

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