This is a rant about A frustrating situation that has arisen. And from it ive learned that ill never date a theist again.
I reconnected with an old high school crush. I was lonely and still coping in the after math of my divorce so being around someone i was close too was comforting.
Well...we became more that friends. We were happy. Until she told her folks about my athiesm. Then they pressured her to leave me. In fact in hind sight...im certain they even orchestrated the events that soon followed.
She went on about us being unequally yoked or betraying her god after seeing her parents. But alone...just us...there was none of that. But something seemed odd.
For one she kept mentioning kids. Wanting one....even took it upon herself to buy baby clothes for "just in case".
I was not ready for more children. I was quite content to never father another child again. My daughters from my previous marriage were plenty. But she begged...pleaded for a home a family.
She had me convinced we would always be together.
We found out she was pregnant. And soon she left. Cutting all communication within a few short weeks. Her father handled things between us. I gave back what stuff she had left at my place.
I was cut out. The babies first heart beat....i didnt even get called when the child was born. I feel used and frustrated because my questions go unanswered.
When the news was broke to her side of the family their reactions were less than supportive.
My family has doubts if its even mine. There were some red flags i caught i perhaps shouldnt have ignored. She still had Tinder on her phone and ex boyfriends would call her. Its not a slam dunk she cheated on me scenario but Im unsure how to proceed.
In the days leading up to what i would call our break up she became increasingly focused on my lack of belief. And seemingly upset i didnt want any religion forced on the child. I fear the worse if its mine.
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Long story short: I once dated a woman who was cheating on her husband with me. Once we were an item, she left him. Afterwards she started dropping big hints that she and her kid were now going to be my responsibility. I wasn't thinking marriage so I balked. Shortly thereafter she started cheating on me with an ex-boyfriend she had reconnected with and I was dumped. They got married -- just what she wanted.
My point; women be scheming so watch out.
Sgt_Spanky
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Nov 5, 2019
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Oh yes, we’re definitely all that way 
@Marcie1974 Did I say all of you? It's just a general idea to be aware of. It goes for men as well.
You will find that others always want to focus on her cheating whether she did or not. They just cannot let that go. Idiots will try to convince you she might have even been sneaking out at night while you both are supposed to be sleeping. "Unequally joked" (sic) is something that religion will put upon you and this and her parents intervention is why she was always upset at your lack of belief. Certainly they do not want the child raised as atheist. This is why you were cut off. Things like this happen all the time, sadly.
DenoPenno
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Nov 5, 2019
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i am not sure what the laws are state by state regarding paternity but on one of the court shows recently the judge said that a man has six months to take a paternity test and declare or deny paternity. i may be remembering it out of context, because the guy in question had declared paternity without a test, paid child support for a couple of years and then found out the kid wasn't his. totally different situation and i don't even know what state that was. but it gave me the idea that you could do some research and find out, regarding your state(s), and perhaps ask for such a test, and if the kid IS yours, then you may find you have some rights regarding that child. i don't think you would have a say religionwise, but you might be able to insist on contact. i am not going to suggest asking for custody out of hand, and even today it is difficult for a father to win custody. ir might not even be warranted and you might not even want that. but you should get your story told and find out what your rights are, and then decide which of them you wish to try to exercise.
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genessa
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Nov 5, 2019
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In other words: Find a good lawyer?
@twill well, maybe! but he can research the things i said without a lawyer and then if he wanta to proceed with any of those options that turn out to be available to him, yes, then he will need a lawyer. he doesn't have to waste his money to have one do what he can do for free with google!
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