I just looked at your profile, you are young and have stated that you had some issues with your ex wife regarding religion. Do not get mixed up in that again. Really, this will go downhill fast.

Time to cut the umbilical cord to this woman. If she's using third-party language to distance herself from you, she's saying it won't work but lacks the courage to spell it out with her own feelings and thoughts.

If I said to someone who was interested in me that I was worried he didn't ride a motorcycle as I do, then I'm saying he isn't my type and I don't see a future unless he gets a bike. That's what she's saying to you.

Thank her for her time and feeling of connection, and say you understand she needs a bible thumper and then look elsewhere.

This is not only a question of religion... But also character. If she is trying to get you to convert... Move along. No good can come of this.

I've never been in your situation, but there's a theme in your post of her repeatedly bringing this up, judging you, and suggesting that it might be a deal breaker for her. I think, if I were in your position, I'd have a direct conversation and let her know that I don't appreciate what she's doing. I'm fine with her having her beliefs, but she needs to be fine that I don't share in them and the lack of evidence means I never will. If she cannot accept that, she needs to end our relationship now. Otherwise, I don't want to hear about this again. I'm not going to be berated and worn down into belief.

I think it is possible for some agnostics/atheists to be in relationships with some believers. But, I hate to say, if she is someone who takes the Bible literally, at least as she has been taught to interpret it, I fear it might be an insurmountable problem.

If this is already causing tension, I don't see it getting better. And, if she continues on, it might be because she thinks she will be able to change/convert you; and-- unless you think that is a possibility, and are okay with it, I would seriously consider moving on--better some hurt now than a lot more later.

Let us see, you are in the USA and she is in UK to start off. Do you really think that anything can come off it, you already "squabbling" or she is trying to convince you about religion. Say good buy to her immediately. Look for someone close by. What are you thinking.

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She is saying this because any conversion is 1. A feather in her cap and 2. She wishes to control you...not the respect a Good relationship needs! Run!

If she believes the Bible frowns on associating with non believers it is best to end it now. LDR is hard all around. That just makes it worse.

One of my dearest friends is the daughter of a minister. That girl can run circles around anyone when it comes to what's in the Bible. She is so far from judgy, it isn't even funny. We've been friends for about 15 years, and she knows my views. She loves me anyway... and doesn't (has NEVER) try to convert me. I have another dear friend who is Jewish, and her husband is Christian. They celebrate both Hanukkah and Christmas, and their adorable, very precocious, daughter is being taught both belief systems. They have one of the most solid relationships I've ever seen.

Then there is my ex-husband. Emphasis on EX. He knew my views when we started dating. He didn't seem to have a problem with them. At least not at the time. He even promised to never try to convert me. Then about 6 months after we got married, he joined The Promisekeepers. My life became Hell after that. We would fight all the time because he started trying to convert me, he literally beat me in the head with a Bible, he took this "Woman, attend me!" attitude. I put up with it because I'd had it deeply instilled in me never to fight back (you know, "Violence never solves anything"?), and to make your marriage work. Yeah... I got out of there real quick the night after he put a gun to my head and said he would be doing God's work by killing me. I swear, I never saw it coming when we were dating... but I was a vastly different person back then. There were probably a lot of red flags, but I simply missed them.

Believe me, I'm not that girl anymore. And yes, that is an extreme example.

I will tell you, though, I've never seen a romantic relationship work between a religious person and an atheist/agnostic.

Maybe it can work. After all, the most important thing in any relationship is mutual respect. But if she's carrying on about being "unequally yoked" at this point in the relationship, that's a big, red flag right there. It shows a lack of respect for your beliefs (or lack, thereof).

I am an atheist and my wife is a devout Catholic. We knew that about each other when we married. We have been married for 24 years. The key is that we accept each other's right to believe as we choose, and that we treat each other with caring, dignity, and respect.

I know this may hurt.... but can you walk away? I see nothing good here.

Long distance relationships do not work, add the religious factor and I would say, forget it and look for someone near in all aspects of thevword.

My babies daddy is Catholic but not an active, church going, Catholic... His family is a whole different story... They know I'm atheist but accept me nonetheless... We don't speak about religion per mutual agreement things are going great...

" I have said Atheist in the past only because I am so furious about the recent and current hypocrisy in our day to day climate, "

• That's interesting.

"At first there was not much talk about religion..even the simple fact that she was a Christian and I was not --
Recently she started going on about what the bible says about not associating with non believers."

• It sounds to me like she has grown tired of waiting for you to bend to her faith and is now - subtly, of course - offering an ultimatum.
  Every relationship I know of with Christians and non-believers have either failed or been very strained when it becomes clear the non-believer is not converting. It's a toxic tribalism.

You have a nice granny.
One acquaintance of mine married a former Christian. No real problem there, except the grooms parents were fanatics. Whenever they had the children over for as visit, it was obvious afterwards they had told the children something that frightened them. Once they even took the children to their church for another baptism ceremony without telling the parents.

that is a can of worms to which the lid has been lost.

You do not have to respect her opinion, nor the opinion of anyone else. If you are standing up for what you believe in, I at least support you. Will it end your relationship? Who knows, maybe, but don't cave, please. You deserve someone who can love you despite your belief system.

One of my best friends and his wife are Xians. He's been my buddy for 30 years and his wife for 12, They love me and even trust me with their kids and no one judges anyone. So it can be done as long as both parties keep religion in its place.

My first thought is that she’s too rigid in her beliefs and that you’re opening yourself up to a lot of heartache. A relationship of any value is give and take. Better continue talking. Don’t be rash in any commitments

I would run like crazy. It does appear even by the buybull that you two are unequally joked.

I have been in a relationship with someone who was religious but I ended it early on. This person tended to think they were superior because of it and I don't like being preached to. But I have a good friend who is religious and it never comes up. I think it depends on whether or not they respect you and your beliefs.

If you remain an atheist, she will be done with you.
She is obliged, ultimately to convert or avoid you.

Can you respect someone who believes blindly?

If you really are an atheist, why would you want to be with her?

So she’s not Christian then? How often did he teach to treat others as brothers, the Good Samaritan story was very telling. He went way out of the norm, Jewish at that time.
My Gran was a non practicing Christian and Grandad was Atheist, they got on because they respected each other. Without that I don’t think you’re in for a good relationship.