I think it's better to be honest and get a 'hell no' than to pretend to be something you're not. One of the many problems with conventional dating dates is that you never know if someone is who and what they say they are, Agnostic.com seems to have reduced that

Lmao I've thought the same thing! It is nice to know you can be honest! If/when I do get people interested, I wonder if they've really read some of my comments.

Having a guy be like, "Hell no," after being exposed to your honesty, is far better than wasting precious time pretending. Only way to go, imo.

"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." ~ Kurt Cobain

Yeah we all need that acceptance.

Being honest about who you are. Hell, even being aware of who you are is huge. That's got to happen for an honest relationship can happen.

I’d date you. Why not? You’re attractive, funny, intelligent...

Haha! Same. I legit can't believe anyone would hit on me after reading the shit I post here.

I think we're all in that same boat to a degree.

If you can't be honest then what else is there? Lying and bs that's what's there.

hmmm, pretty much given up dating sites, almost given up dating, or the idea of it.
I am honest on them, but probably more open here because it is (or I am) anonymous.

I'm a don't ask if you don't really want to know kind of person. I'm that way in person and online. I guess if that's going to make somebody say "hell, no!" that's their problem and I probably wouldn't put up with them anyway.

If he was so easily deterred, he is no loss.

I have been told I was "too honest for my own good". Mos tpeopel do want to hear little white lies that makes them feel better.

I think honest peopel need to acknowledge and respect differences in any partners they might get or have.

you woudl think tht peopel woudl wnat an honest partner, but it really doesnt' seem to be so.

On the bright side honest peopel are generally content beign single if peoel cant' accept them for who they are, and we are generally already happy and dont' need someoen else to "complete" us because we are already complete. Havign a partner will only enhance our alredy happy lives, and we don't 'need someoen else in order to feel happy.

I'm brutally honest anyway. At least people here still message me and talk to me instead of blocking me.

A lie has to last forever. don't be anyone but you. people will know exactly what they're getting.

As a great philosophical group once said:

There's only one thing that I know how to do well
And I've often been told that you only can do
What you know how to do well
And that's be you,
Be what you're like,
Be like yourself,
And so I'm having a wonderful time
But I'd rather be whistling in the dark

I just wasted two months only to find that the person was hiding that she was a control freak. Best to be completely honest and open.

Never edit yourself here. If someone likes me then they have to take me warts and all. I'm not above changing but get to know the whole me before you run away. After that, you are free to run away.

I love this site for that, transparency, honesty is the key anyway. People get to read and write here much more than say on Match.stupidcom...here you can actually interact, opening freely and see (kind of) how people act in a crowd, once again 'kind of', not like in person, but better than those private messages imo anyway.

Honest is good... till the end of times.

you got to be yourself. if you candy coated it, it would be deceptive towards others and that could cause problems if there was someone who you might meet. i always believe honesty is the best policy. sorry for the cliche.

True. This is the first dating forum I've been on in years, and the first one when I was aware of my gender variables..i.e. my being being partially transmale, androgyne, demisexual, etc.

For that reason, I now don't know my sexual orientation. Before, cis hetero is what I thought I was, and all I dated. Now, I don't know who to like, or the rules.
Being demisexual, I can't depend on sexual attraction to give me cues.