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Is there anything sexier than deep conversation?

ElusiveMoby 7 Feb 2
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Some people are aroused by intelligent conversation...

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Other than sex itself, no. That's exactly why I married my now ex-wife. She was the first woman that I was physically attracted to that I could spend a whole night having deep conversations with, and still be satisfied. Of course, I was only 25, and the range of women I was meeting was limited. Still, we were married for 35 years.

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we could discuss it

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Naked deep conversation?

Post coital deep conversation would be marvelous! In the haze of bliss, guards would be down and true feelings exposed. 😊

@Barnie2years Where can I sign up?

@ElusiveMoby if I could find someone like that I would guard her better than Coke guards its secret formula! 😁 Actually at this point the only thing I have to talk to is my dog. Thankfully I have this site and Facebook where I can let my thoughts run free!

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getting the two interpretations of “deep” to match up is the trick

skado Level 9 Feb 2, 2020

Ambiguous words are a delight!

@ElusiveMoby
and oops not always intentional but yeah

@skado It was intentional😍

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It has the potential for more intimacy than sex.

Deb57 Level 8 Feb 4, 2020

And less damage... I bond.. I have hurt so much and so long from broken bonds that I would rather open veins and just bleed out than bond and lose that bond and see my soul walking away with another.. It never hurt when I was young, and I was an Adonis. No human being can get that close to another and not grow together with them... People say: Hook Up, or entertainment sex, and that,, like prostitution is a form of violence people do injury to others and themselves with..
WE need love.. We are dioecious.. We are incomplete, and loneliness is the psychological disease of our age.. I will never pretend it is on a lark, a small and meaningless thing.. I would have to find some one close, as she is, intellectually and emotionally before I would even consider sexual intimacy.. There are better ways to die than with a broken heart.. If some one wants to hurt me it will not be me making it easy for them.. No one can give others power in my life like I could and will not..

Being heard and cherishing kissed talking lips, expressive hand gestures HELD and body language spooning is a complete sexy high greater than athletic cowboy sex

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It certainly can be, when you "get" each other, and there's a mutual spark waiting to ignite - but it's not a given.

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It depends on how you define deep conversation. As an adult child of an alcoholic, I reflexively joke to avoid feeling vulnerable.

But I love witty banter and intelligent conversations.

With online dating, my heart sinks when I meet shy, tongue-tied men. It's boring to provide all of the conversational topics and humor. I barely get to the door with the glaze forming over my eyes.

I hand over my vulnerability like a voodoo doll to a lover--a bad habit I can't seem to break.

Even though I consider myself an introvert and often can think of quick comebacks I can banter with those I feel I can trust.
When growing up in Texass there were no hugs or I love you's. Instead the usual hit in the arm and giving the compliment, "you dummy." Here, I have a very close friend and we do this type of talk all the time and it comes amazingly easy. Actually, people have said they often ask us to volunteer together as we provide so much entertainment. At an annual lighting arrangement gig at our community center we volunteer for, one person said we should do a show together (physically we are very much like Laurel and Hardy). He said yeah, and we should call it the Jack and Nick show. I said yes and, as usual, I will get top billing. He realized his mistake and tried to take it back. Too bad, too late.

@ToolGuy I enjoy this medium as it allows me as long as I need to make a comeback.

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I agree with someone you are physically attracted to. Sometimes an intelligent conversation with an acquaintance can result in a new friend. Last night I decided last minute to join my Music Lovers Meetup Group at a club called Frog Alley in Schenectady, NY because I was 5 minutes away at my friend Bob's house with our Edutainment Group discussing misinformation and disinformation in social media. Do you realize we spend an average of 10 hours a day on all social media??? Well anyways, I got to the club before other members of the group and saw a familiar face-a guy from my singles meetup who was at the club by himself. Lawrence is a very nice guy, and I've talked to him briefly, but we got in a good conversation about politics, our backgrounds in DOE and NY Energy Dept and felt a kinship. It wasn't sexually stimulating because he's not my physical type. He's shorter than me, but a nice intelligent guy that I can have a political conversation with.

Thank you for that comment.

I must agree. An initial spark coupled by intelligent conversation, especially if he was a literary background, intoxicates me.

I find endless prattle, however, tiresome.

I do appreciate friends who can discuss issues, politics, literature, and the like as kindred spirits.

@ElusiveMoby me too.

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I've had many deep conversations with women. Not just conversations, series' of conversations. Some go on for months. Sadly, that's as far as it goes. If only there was a way to break through the invisible barrier at the edge of the galaxy.

What happens after the months? They have such things as cars, planes, and trains.

I met a man on this site one year ago. I hopped on a plane to meet him. It wasn't a love connection but I'm glad I took the chance.

I'm talking about LOCAL women, with whom I meet regularly in person. The barrier at the edge of the galaxy is the conceptual barrier that prevents them from having any romantic interest in me. The barrier is invisible and impenetrable.

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Sounds like one can one use "Want to talk' as a pickup line?

Want to talk?

@ElusiveMoby I'd find time for it.
I like public talks over the Internet. What topic would you have us discuss in depth?

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Sex is definitely sexier than talking

I'm hesitant to agree with your statement. I'll contend that great conversation leads to intensely satisfying sex.

@ElusiveMoby if only that were true. Conversation is what I do with women while they're waiting for some other guy to show up.

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Very few things are sexier. For me.

I'll add a slice of cheesecake and a fresh brewed cup of coffee to the conversation. Just saying.

Perfect.

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Oh, if only.

I try to have several intelligent words a day on standby if you need a dose.

@ElusiveMoby thanks. I use lots of intelligent words and it only appears to turn women off.

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Only when you find one who can actually converse in kind!!!

It's rare. It's so rare.

And when you find it only then do you remember how hungry you've been for it.

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Had a relationship with deep conversation possible during sex. Obviously the sex was rather tame at the time, spooning with penetration, while we discussed all kinds of things.
I miss that so much 😭

Orly Level 5 Feb 10, 2020
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I don't think so. And you can do it hour after hour!

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Sex is a form of communication; but so is violence; and in some respects they mirror each other, as in the way people use fck for both violence and sex... But sex is one element of a complete love relationship; and the complexity of it all has too often been way over my head..
Sex as a thing alone seems easy and it is immeasurably complex, but relationships considered apart from sex are incredibly dynamic, and I may be intelligent, but a simple life has its charms... If you can't step in the same river twice, you cannot be the same person stepping in another river again..
In my worst best failure in my life, in love, my wife was never a determined quantity.. She would change from day to day, and month to month, and in between our 30 years I lost my trust of her, her strength and reliability, and she never from the start had trust of me or of men.. That was her truth, her philosophy, that you cannot trust men, and the only reliable relationship with men is one where she leads, we follow, and we submit to her will..
People who are really good and natural in relationships are like asteroids which push and pull on each other, but never dominate, and never expect stasis.. Most of men are like myself and want some fixed star, some firm foundation, the form, rather than the dynamics of a relationship, and it is impossible to have a team where there is no set rules..
Shakespeare said that if two people ride a horse, some one has to sit in front.. I wanted the goal.. I didn't care if my wife sat in front, and she was strong where I was weak.. But if I had to make an issue, or disagree, or not always go along with her plan, then it was taken as treason.. She needed to control.. I need control.. I may be intelligent, but my intelligence is a wild horse not worth anything out of control.. She needed to win every battle.. I never thought of it as a battle, but as question of how to best achieve what was my goal, and what I thought should be our goal of raising our children no matter what the form our relationship.. We did not make a good team, but we succeeded because I consciously submitted my will to hers.. She didn't think we were a team at all.. We were a fairly effective team because I cooperated with her, and if she wanted to be the brains, I wanted to win the game and went along..

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Hmmm, my first response is a lot depends on what you consider sexy. I say this mostly because there a so many factors that determine what is "sexy" to each of us. For some descriptions of the act of sex are arousing while others find the same words vulgar and disgusting. With others the tone, timbre, and tempo of someones speech patterns can achieve states of excitement that rival physical contact or be utterly repelled by them. The trick is to find people who are as into the type and length of conversation as you are. Sadly that can be has challenging as using any other criteria in finding someone that resonates with you.

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It's definitely up there

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Yes deep conversation is intimate but a specific loving request heard by a man seen from a woman gesturing and sparking eyes is the apex of sexiness ..... if I spoke in poems sang in harmony and combed your hair with my fingers would that eclipse the passions of thoughtful reparte' ?

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Possibly, but I'm still looking.

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