When I gain 2 pounds more than I'm used to, I can't stand it. It's a constant reminder until I get rid of it. I look around me and see a lot of males with beer bellies. Are women OK with that now. Is that a sign of masculinity?
Also, I'm on-line trying to find a female playmate and I see a description full-figured. How is that different from obese?
When only a husband or a wife goes to seed, how does that affect the others desire for sex? I hear about women being ashamed of their weight and are no longer interested. How about men? In short, don't partners have a responsibility to maintain their sex appeal when they are committed to monogamy?
2 lbs. seems like a tight range, but to each their own.
I waver between 170-175.....my best weight is 165....i feel my best, lightest on my feet. But I never seem to get there.
My goal now is to never grow out of my 32" inseam. Right now they are tight. SO I must be at my upper limit. This coming week will see my calorie intake adjusted.
Addendum: Gotta say.. This really hit home later in the day, as I was preserving some digital photos of my daughters, and was able to see some they’d taken of my former longtime wife, their mother. She’d begun to let herself go.. Wondered why I was no longer eager… Became a spiraling dilemma, the less she got, the more she bitched, the less attractive she was, so the less she got
Then, via facebook, I got a look at my last formal lover, after the divorce above.. My dog ... looks like she’s gained a hundred pounds! Eventually figured out I’d dodged a bullet, now, it seems I’d dodged a cannon ball! Unreal, and ..hideous beyond description…
I’ve never been fat, but one of two sisters proved ‘we’ have that capability. No, for all the shit you’ve predictably garnered with your honest assessment and concern here, you hit on a very important aspect of a long term R/S.
With 80% of American middle-aged men obese or overweight (60% of women), I have given up finding a fit man my age with a healthy diet and lifestyle. Who still loves hiking.
"You can whip me into shape!" overweight men enthuse. What an offer.
"Hire a trainer," I reply. "You would resent me if I nagged. Only you can motivate yourself to exercise and eat right."
I figure if a man has not eaten healthy food nor exercised regularly for 40 years, he's not going to start now.
Welp, you've screwed the lid off of that can of worms. As someone who has been body shamed by chain smoking, beer drinking, morbidly obese people, I'll tell ya danny, I no longer take pleasure in watching people slowly kill themselves and be miserable in the body they choose, where the only things that work are their bellies to fill, mouths to chew the cud and their assholes to shit it out.
From your photo, it appears you've been around long enough to be able to tell the difference between "full-figured" and "obese". Yes - there is a difference. Though considering your obsession over two pounds, a whole lot of people may appear "obese" in your eyes ?
As far as who responds to what changes that may occur in their mates, and how they react, or not, varies so much between the people involved.
Sounds like perhaps you've led a very sheltered life based more on trivial values in others.
2lbs doesn't even add up to a proper shit. If you lose your mind over something so terribly trivial, you may have bigger problems than a struggle to find a visually perfect mate. People find all different body types attractive. I prefer a man with some meat on his bones, and not too hard bodied. Both thin/bony and too hard bodied isn't all that giving in moments of extreme passion.
I really hate to be the one to break this to you but men don't get to control women's bodies anymore. Further, you alone are responsible for your own sexuality. Most of us grew out of body shaming others as adolescents, what happened to you? (rhetorical)
By the way, you forgot to include your age in your bio.
Very much feel the same.. But talk too much reality around here and you’ll eventually step on everyone’s toes There should be a planet for us
I can get a fruit, or this particular year, a ‘garden belley’ this time of year, keeping my homegrown tomatoes, squash or sweet peppers from ‘going to waste.’ But nothing a couple days working in that garden won’t burn off. And yes, those guys looking as if they’ve swallowed a watermelon, waddling around in ‘long shorts.’ wow...
No, the nation’s let itself go.. Both mentally, and physically