My 89 year old mother is a strict Catholic and has known for several years that I do not believe in anything supernatural. Today as we visited she showed me a souvenir photo of John Paul II from her visit to the Vatican on April 1, 2005. She and my sister were among the last visitors to see him alive as he waved from a balcony. He died the next day.
I acknowledged that it was a special trip for them. Then I felt I had to interject that I was disappointed that he had supported (now ex-) Cardinal McCarrick and failed to address sexual abuse by him and others.
We talked about how terrible it is when people in a position of power hurt people.
I know she accepts me for who I am, however I'm sure she prays for me.
I love my mom
Can you be yourself with your immediate family?
She's 89, nothing you say will change what she believes but it can hurt her. My mum's 93 and the same. I just accept her for who she is, prayers and beliefs, and I don't try to change her although like you I do point out the realities of religious abuses at times. Not to change her beliefs but to give her perspective. She told me today that she saw one of the yank televangelists going on about trump and she thought he was possessed by a demon
If we cannot be 'ourselves', as in who we truly are to any others, it means to me we are in some measure still not ourselves to ourselves either. Isn't it a comfort to genuinely respect others' differences when they return respect for yours? I cherish it because it is so rare.
I always have been truthful to my immediate family. I had some great aunts that I never discussed religion with but I don't think they were very religious anyway.
I've always felt it was important to respect other people's feelings on religion and never tried to change their beliefs. It's always about doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.
My family are all non-religious with the exception of my one sister who goes to a "religion lite" church.She does not push it.The social aspects of that church are quite nice, I volunteer in the kitchen for their community meal. It is pleasant except for the jeezusy part. So to answer you ,yes everyone can be themselves.
Yes it's easy as out of 7 kids all raised Catholic 6 are now atheists.Parents long gone (my mother simply followed my dad and after he died she became who she was, an agnostic). One sister can't make up her mind as she keeps switching religions (now a 7th day Adventist) but is easy to talk to. She does push her religion of the day but we just ignore her. My dad never really forced religion on us but did send us to parochial school.
This was weighing on me heavily today.
Since I left our church, my family has treated me more respectfully overall. But they also stopped inviting me to family functions for a while. They've begun including me again the past couple years but I'm not sure I trust them.
Emotional abuse was the norm in my home during my childhood but we treated other people respectfully. I don't know if my family has changed or if they are just treating me like an outsider because I'm no longer a member of their church.
Either way, the answer is no, I can't really be myself around them. To a certain extent, I'm able to be more myself than ever before but I can't speak openly about my beliefs. Hell, just drinking coffee breaks my mom's heart.