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A question for the guys: What qualities most impress you in a woman?

kathy21 4 Apr 12
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Open Minded Honesty. Doesn't hold back or is not afraid to talk about anything.

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Honesty and intelligence

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Self confidence mixed with humility

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I’m most impressed by women who are comfortable being themselves, regardless of the audience.

Marz Level 7 Apr 12, 2018
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I love a smart woman.

What if she's smarter than you? What if she's a genius? Just curious.

@hemingwaykitten My wife was smarter than me. It's a challenge, something to work toward. And it gives you a lot to think about.

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Empathy, Intelligence, Humour, Curiosity

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I'd be lieing if I said that looking across the room and being visually pleased isn't at least a wee bit important. I will, however, state that I've discovered that visually pleasing isn't nearly as important as what happens after the ice is broken, no matter how it is broken.

Meaning that coworkers, wait staff, etc, have the ice naturally broken and you might find yourself attracted to someone you'd otherwise NOT be attractede to because their personality comes through in a way you simply can't ignore.

So, for me? A strong woman. A woman who is reasonably intelligent (that doesn't have to mean a degree, just a willingness to learn things and to teach others what she's learned), so, patience and wisdom are good qualities.

But, no matter her strengths and weaknesses, it's how she puts them together and uses them. That ability can surmount all of the rest quickly. 🙂

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Blindness.

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Intelligence, compassion, and good morals

Gohan Level 7 Apr 12, 2018
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Intelligence and sense of humor.
Pretty/beautiful is great and all, but the few times i've tried dating someone who wasn't intellectual ish, at least in one or two areas, have ended reeeal quick.

I've actually been incredibly fortunate. I caught up with an old friend (20+ years) that i'd always had a crush on... but always thought she was out of my league. Never had the courage to ask her out.

Out of nowhere, she sees a Facebook post from me about where i'm going out and where my band is playing for the weekend. She messages me the Friday before Saint Patrick's Day. We have a couple drinks and talk. As she's getting ready to leave, i kinda casually tell her to message me if she'd like to grab dinner some time. The next night, she shows up at the gig i was playing. We've been together since. Weird how things just fall in to place sometimes 🙂

She's 3 inches taller than i am, beautiful, incredibly caring, same tastes in books and movies, she's a phenomenal singer, and she has this snarky, sharp sense of humor.

I'm incredibly happy.

I'm happy for you!

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Self-assurance tempered with modesty, intelligence, sense of humor. There are probably others, but this is a good start.

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Honesty

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I will be very direct. I have found the most difficult thing to find in a woman is the ability for true intimacy. I am not talking about sex, true intimacy. They have shield their hearts because of past hurt and it has resulted in an inability for intimacy. Even if you get past the guards, once they feel true intimacy they recoil in fear. It is very sad because they deny happiness, to themselves, in this way. Your the ability to truly open their hearts to allow love in is the most impressive quality.

Just remember that true intimacy takes some time and lots of trust.

HippyChick58 is right, you know. How soon in a relationship do you expect "true intimacy" to arrive? The timeline on her end depends on how many men have abused her trust.

Thank you for these comments. But these comments are all based on the assumption that time brings people together. I do not believe that is what matters. I have waited for years for true intimacy to come forth. Many times it does not, in the rare occasion it happens on the first meeting. Any good counselor will tell you that time is not the key but progress. If there is a continuous progression, even if very gradual, toward it then it might be worth waiting for but there needs to be progress from the start. Otherwise it is like waiting on an alcoholic to get sober. AwarenessNow, you are so right it takes vulnerability, so I say submit to the universe from the start. But not many follow through.

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Confidence, self respect and empathy. Those are all important to being seld assured and those qualities create a character that is easy to respect

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I'll know when I meet her.

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Intelligence, integrity, and independance. I like spending time with women that have their own way, their own mind, and can teach me things.

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Rationality. Independence. The ability to talk about issues that bother them in a relationship with their partner. An open mind (when it comes to music or movies/tv shows). And wanting to spend time home instead of always going out.

Oh, and if the relationship gets that far, someone who is awesome in bed.

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Brains and balls (figurative).

@sarahjustme doesn't flow as well.

What if she's smarter than you? What if she's a genius? I find most men don't handle that consequence well at all. Curious what you think.

@hemingwaykitten I've met my match before, and I enjoy it.

It'll sound egotistical, but I rarely do, so it's a treat when I can wax on long philosophical rants and actually be challenged and made to reconsider or defend something more deeply than I expected.

I was madly in love with a foreign national in grad school for just that reason.

She spoke more languages than me, she could run arguments more cleanly than I on a first pass, she fenced with me (figuratively and sabre, epee and foil) it was a lot of fun.

I was the better rider though. ?

I miss it.
And my ego can handle it.

@WileEQuixote Excellent...you give me hope for the future. Thanks!

@hemingwaykitten welcome and good luck!

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Honesty
Compassion
Independence
Rationality
Intelligence
Free spirit
Adventurous
Integrity
Open minded
Insightful

KDzo Level 4 Apr 12, 2018
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Shared interests, intelligence, sense of humor, confidence, introspection, among others.

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Eyes and personality which I guess are interconnected. You know the eyes are the window to the soul. Sexuality is of importance too but that requires getting to know the personality.

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Uniqueness

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Emotional Strength and Balance, Sense of Humor, Smarts, Compassion and Integrity.

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Honesty, openness, and a good heart.

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Intelligence, self confidence and sense of humor. The physical aspects are a nice touch.

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