Why does it seem that some people go out of their way to be unpleasant? I've often upset a someone by being a little thoughtless or insensitive, I'm a long way from perfect and it's upset me to think I've hurt or upset someone, being cruel, unpleasant or rude has never been my motivation. I don't understand anyone who's like that all the time?
If people believe they are in pain living their life, then they will give pain back. That's the way I see it. They come off as people that were never asked to be born but then will do nothing about it to end it. And they live like a hamster on a wheel and never get off. Just watch the movie Misery. ...
I know a lot of assholes. They're all over CO Springs.
It seems the hotspots or real estate bubbles attract them; I hadn’t realized how ..assholeish the Portland (OR) suburbs had become until escaping them ~
@Varn CO Springs is a super religious city as well. I do work with an asshole agnostic. He's only mean to me. He's everyone else's friend. Except his hearing is shitty because he blames us and yells for another Asian worker and I to enunciate. I've known English my whole life. I just can't say some words perfectly without slightly slurring due to my cleft palate. Which I'm always made fun of for.
@Sarahroo29 I’ve daughters considering Colorado, not sure where, yet.. I envision highly competitive and aggressive ‘newcomers’ creating a pressure cooker atmosphere. I think we’ve all some trait that gives us insight by how we’re initially treated by a stranger, including bosses and coworkers - telling far more about them than us ~
@Varn At least I'm not the co-worker asking my managers to go home early or to go get a drink. Or to party with them. I know my boundaries.
The old see saw effect, I feel good when I put someone else down. Short sighted and self serving.
Some people get pleasure from causing displeasure. Others do the opposite.
I thinkit is more work to be mean
I think you are on to something. The bullies I have met put incredible amounts of time, work and resources into causing pain. They spend weeks, months or even years planning to cause misery. I think in the long run, the bullies are worse off than the people they abuse. But, oh, do they love to hurt people.