Why does it seem that some people go out of their way to be unpleasant? I've often upset a someone by being a little thoughtless or insensitive, I'm a long way from perfect and it's upset me to think I've hurt or upset someone, being cruel, unpleasant or rude has never been my motivation. I don't understand anyone who's like that all the time?
Agreed. I always wonder what about their life is so bad that they have to be mean to others seemingly for the sake of being mean. I've had people tell me I'm too nice and I think the world could use a little more of that. Doesn't seem like a bad thing to me.
some are angry because they have sought to find happiness outside of themselves and, of course, that did not turn out well. They want to blame the world for their misery and they only feel a sense of satisfaction when they can bring others down to their level. don't take it personally. the negative comments are a reflection of themselves, nothing to do with you,
I thinkit is more work to be mean
I think you are on to something. The bullies I have met put incredible amounts of time, work and resources into causing pain. They spend weeks, months or even years planning to cause misery. I think in the long run, the bullies are worse off than the people they abuse. But, oh, do they love to hurt people.
Because some people are miserable....
I agree. Happy people want others to be happy. Miserable people enjoy spreading their misery. The old saying "Misery loves company." It must be awful to live inside the mind of a bully. I kind of doubt if they respect themselves - why else would they try so hard to make enemies?
I don’t get it either. I figure it doesn’t cost me anything to be a nice and pleasant person. It’s got to be draining always being unhappy and making others unhappy as well
Bingo @Marcie1974! An old college professor of mine had that very saying “it doesn’t take much effort to be nice. “.