I put this up as a response in another topic, but I thought it deserved a post of its own. Corporal punishment of children, what are your views? This is my experience.
When I was a boy in school they had corporal punishment where they used a cane. I lived in a small country town when I was eleven and got caned by a teacher. That night I secretly dressed, ran across town to where I knew the teacher lived and I put a brick through his window. Every time I was subject to corporal punishment as a child I got revenge, someway, somehow. I even said to my father one day, when I was about 7, someday I'll be big enough to hit you back. I paid the price for that comment, but that day came and I still remember that day, 55 years later, with satisfaction, horror and grief for the young man I became. This is my greatest argument against corporal punishment: children don't forget, they will get you back and even if they don't, you have irrevocably changed that child's identity and their idea of fairness and managing conflict. It took me 20 years more before I was able to let go of the violence I was trained into and before that day came, I deeply regret that I hurt a lot of people. I have since raised a child of my own. Not once did I hit or yell at her, but it did require some creativity to develop effective discipline.
@Cyklone , surely you exaggerate.
Was the young man you became really so awful that you remember him with horror and grief?
Or does guilt for how you got even with your father compel you say that?
My father was occasionally violent. He paid dearly to send five kids to Catholic schools and before he died he knew all of us had thrown his religion away. IMO, revenge can be very sweet.
Before deciding on whether or not it's appropriate within families, perhaps we should begin with institutionalized corporal punishment? There remain a significant number of states where corporal punishment is permitted in the schools.
Take a look at the map. It should come as no surprise that many of the same states that were the last to integrate the schools, fought against interracial marriage until overridden by the Supreme Court and opposed gay marriage, continue to permit corporal punishment. When will these people ever learn?
Corporal punishment sends the wrong message. If punishment is to be meted out, violence should never be involved.
We see how often police misuse their guns with terrible consequences. Too many members of the general population would abuse the chance to wield corporal punishment.
My father was a fundamentalist Christian in Alabama that beat me severely, now he's dead, next!
(He died from colon cancer in 2001, sadly I didn't kill him.)
I hope it hurt him more than every other pain in his life.
I never hit my two daughters, they grew up fine.
Parents have a right to spank a child. They also are subject to criminal liability for child abuse. I think beyond spanking a small child for their own safety, parents would be advised to not hit their kids. Corporal punishment in school? I was subjected to it, but I think that needs to be left up to parents, who shouldn't do it either.