Agnostic.com

53 13

Well just wanted to talk to yall for a minute. The woman I've been going with for the last 1.5 years has decided that she wants to break up. The reason being she is a Baptist and goes to church, while I'm an atheist she thought she could get me back in church but I have no desire to go to church and I'm not searching for god .

bradholland10 5 Apr 23

Post a comment Reply Add Photo

Enjoy being online again!

Welcome to the community of good people who base their values on evidence and appreciate civil discourse - the social network you will enjoy.

Create your free account

53 comments

Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.

0

It's for the best. It might not seem like it now- but it will in time.

0

I'm getting divorced over basically the same thing. We were married almost 4 years. She said in the beginning that what I believed(or didn't) did not matter. I guess feelings change. Although it's still fresh and hurts, I wish het all the best.

0

Just wanted to thank everyone for their thoughts and advice. It's very much appreciated.

1

What a convenient excuse to end a relationship that no longer works for her!

2

Women, sadly, often think they can change men, whether it is an alcohol or violence problem, or whether it is beliefs. It takes a long time for them to learn, often with sad consequences. The best thing for you to do is walk away and hope for better luck next time.

2

I am sorry you are hurting, but I don't think it will ever work out if her goal is to change you. It's a shame it has taken her this long to realize how strong your opinion about this is.

1

So what`s the problem? You've had a lucky escape. She's wasted your time, but onwards and upwards - don't waste any more on her.

2

I feel like it’s wrong to say”you’re better off “ but that’s how I see it. If she wanted to change it probably wasn’t going to stop with church going.

Essie Level 6 Apr 24, 2018
4

Sorry Brad. I was dense enough to go down that road with the same results as yours. But at least I did get some good sinful and shameful sex out of the relationship, not to mention one great cat that outlived the relationship by 16 years.

2

That sucks. I'm sorry that happened to you.

3

Be grateful this came to light now. The push to convert is most likely only one thing she wants to change, and bring your age change is not likely to happen. I found a deist and we match up well. Will have been together 25 years next month without one push on my religious views.

5

When I was younger I thought I could change men too. I learned a hard lesson you can't . Anyway start over for the better.

3

You can't change crazy. On edit. That is why I am grateful for this place. I am not entirely certain I want to get into a relationship again. But I know, for a certainty, I do not want to even date a religious crazy. I was a trial member of another Atheist site but it was fairly expensive for the premium services, which was the only way you could really communicate.

6

Maybe she should have thought of that 1.5 years ago.

Kind of what I was thinking

3

I'm sorry about that loss.

3

That sucks. I'm so sorry.

7

Sorry, guy. But you can't change anyone, they can only change themselves, & even then, you can't force yourself or another to 'believe'. This was bound to be a problem, unfortunately. It sounds trite & flippant to say so, but, really, this is probably for the best. Now you are free to find someone that matches you better. Best of luck!

6

You will eventually find a woman who shares your same world views.

6

I can't see this working...UNLESS, this person is sitting on the fence about her religion! If she is steeped in that religion, she will be tormented by your atheism. She may 'work,' on you to change and you may never go in that direction and it will tear you apart, trying to love someone and accommodate some Idealogy...your own and the person you love! Over time, this is bound to tear you all apart! You must choose, but oil and water want mix and wishing it so...will never work!

6

Sorry to hear bro. Her loss. If that's the reason she gave you then she would of realised that from the start. Sounds like she wanted to see if you'd change for her. Good on you for staying true to yourself.

5

I spent 6 years in a marriage to learn that fundamental differences rarely form a solid foundation for a relationship. It hurts to give up or lose something enjoyable and familiar, but I have to believe that we are opening ourselves to the opportunity for greater fulfillment and realization of our true selves in the future.

Susu Level 2 Apr 24, 2018
5

she didn't understand at all then.

5

If it's a deal breaker for her she should've saved you the time. Sorry man.

6

Sorry about that, but good riddance, she obviously doesn't respect your non belief

4

I'm sorry about your situation. Was she trying to "witness" to you more over the past few months? Did you see this coming?

Write Comment
You can include a link to this post in your posts and comments by including the text q:64983
Agnostic does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any content. Read full disclaimer.