Well just wanted to talk to yall for a minute. The woman I've been going with for the last 1.5 years has decided that she wants to break up. The reason being she is a Baptist and goes to church, while I'm an atheist she thought she could get me back in church but I have no desire to go to church and I'm not searching for god .
Just wanted to thank everyone for their thoughts and advice. It's very much appreciated.
What a convenient excuse to end a relationship that no longer works for her!
Women, sadly, often think they can change men, whether it is an alcohol or violence problem, or whether it is beliefs. It takes a long time for them to learn, often with sad consequences. The best thing for you to do is walk away and hope for better luck next time.
So what`s the problem? You've had a lucky escape. She's wasted your time, but onwards and upwards - don't waste any more on her.
Be grateful this came to light now. The push to convert is most likely only one thing she wants to change, and bring your age change is not likely to happen. I found a deist and we match up well. Will have been together 25 years next month without one push on my religious views.
You can't change crazy. On edit. That is why I am grateful for this place. I am not entirely certain I want to get into a relationship again. But I know, for a certainty, I do not want to even date a religious crazy. I was a trial member of another Atheist site but it was fairly expensive for the premium services, which was the only way you could really communicate.
Maybe she should have thought of that 1.5 years ago.
Kind of what I was thinking
Sorry, guy. But you can't change anyone, they can only change themselves, & even then, you can't force yourself or another to 'believe'. This was bound to be a problem, unfortunately. It sounds trite & flippant to say so, but, really, this is probably for the best. Now you are free to find someone that matches you better. Best of luck!
You will eventually find a woman who shares your same world views.
I can't see this working...UNLESS, this person is sitting on the fence about her religion! If she is steeped in that religion, she will be tormented by your atheism. She may 'work,' on you to change and you may never go in that direction and it will tear you apart, trying to love someone and accommodate some Idealogy...your own and the person you love! Over time, this is bound to tear you all apart! You must choose, but oil and water want mix and wishing it so...will never work!
I spent 6 years in a marriage to learn that fundamental differences rarely form a solid foundation for a relationship. It hurts to give up or lose something enjoyable and familiar, but I have to believe that we are opening ourselves to the opportunity for greater fulfillment and realization of our true selves in the future.
If it's a deal breaker for her she should've saved you the time. Sorry man.
Sorry about that, but good riddance, she obviously doesn't respect your non belief
I've dated Baptist s and they are relentless, brain washed, I think. I find not only the belief system incredible but also the attitude. I know I will not date one again.