I am on a dating site and I contacted a gentleman and we spoke on the phone last night. We have a few things in common but I fear not enough. On my profile I state I am not religious, I didn’t think to look about this on his profile, but he did say he had his masters. So I asked what did he have his master in..... he said in divinity. He was an Anglican minister. I was gobsmacked to say the least. I told him I was an atheist and promised him I wouldn’t try and convert him. He said he wouldn’t try and convert me as well. He is no long a minister and we are both photographers and he makes documentaries. Not about religion. He said he’d call me on Thursday and arrange for us to meet for coffee. Should I keep an open mind or not. My gut is screaming run!! He is a socializer and I am a loner.
Yes. Or. No. With an explanation.
Practice makes perfect!
LOL!
If you meet up?
You can see if your gut and feeling served you well or not?
Go. You don’t have to marry him. You don’t have to see him again. You don’t have to stay longer than your coffee is hot.
Shutting yourself off to new experiences based on nothing more than this is limiting.
If all you do is practice your conversational skills, it’s worth it.
My opinion, anyway.
I am one who says DON"T.........reality is religion is a form of insanity, and unless you are a psychiatrist or therapist, your coffee will be heated and reheated, or left to turn cold, since they will NEVER, NEVER shut up, trying to convince you, that god loves you, Jesus died for you...and in a scary way LASSIE will come rescue you...
Don't go for coffee unless he tells you that he no longer believes. The religious ones think that they are destined to convert you. There is something in their bible that tells them to witness. I could be wrong, but I have been single for many years. It's heartbreaking when you fall for them and just when you think that you have found the one for you, he starts in on you about your politics and how being gay is against God's rules. How abortion is murder and then wants you to be submissive because that is what is taught in the bible. It's just against the odds to succeed in a relationship when your core beliefs are so very different.
Ordinarily I'd say there's not much downside to meeting. But never doubt a screaming gut, ever.
Frankly I'm of two minds about his Masters of Divinity. On the one hand there is nothing quite like studying the Bible to make a person an Atheist and that may explain why he is a photographer. On the other hand there is something about sex with the deeply religious, the guilt, the sin, the repressed thoughts, it's all a recipe for a potentially seriously wild ride - assuming you find him attractive and would be willing to settle for a short fling.
Either way you have nothing to lose by spend some time over dinner or a coffee, you're only meeting him not marrying him.
Well, there are good Christians, and there are bad Christians. This actually sounds promising.
Interestingly enough, some of the more tolerant Christians I know are the ones who have studied the religion extensively. They don't fall back on knee-jerk reactions. This guy sounds pretty mellow.
It's worth a chat. He may be a believer, but he may not be "religious" about it if you get my meaning. At the very least, you may have a friend you can talk with who understands your atheism as well as the weirdness of the religious.