The beliefs of and how children will grow up to look at others and accept differences is taught at home. My local grandkids attended a Pride Parade today, and though they do not necessarily understand the issues, they will not grow up to be biased or prejudiced against people of color or sexual orientation. After all, my five year old granddaughter already informed me that some kids have two dads, and that is ok by her.
Children are taught prejudice directly or indirectly. It's just that simple.
However, if parents do not counteract the effects of a biased society, the "indirect" part comes into play.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.My father was racist, biased, impatient, mean spirited. He might still be I don't know. A few things I didn't learn from him was the dislike of others because of culture or color. I walk through dangerous neighborhoods in the middle of the night and feel safe because they know that I love them and consider them family. I really do love my extended family!
BOBdammit
Level 6
Oct 15, 2022
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A problem has arisen in my work team. There is a young lesbian in the team now and she is pretty open being so.
Within the team and for our service user there are no issues. We've had a gay guy in team before. As part of our socialisation of service users we like to open them to being open - there is a greater percentage of LGBTX in the autistic population. My service user is quite clearly straight, but we educate him to accepting that love between consenting adults is normal regardless of gender/sex.
The problem is a change in manager. She does not want any acceptance of non-heterosexuality in the workplace as this would be 'un-professional'.
For myself, I love to see how society has changed over my lifetime. When I was born, homosexuality in England was punishable by incarceration in a place full of similar men...(WTF) Then, bit by bit it was no longer illegal to be gay, although to be a practicing homosexual was. Then the age of consent came in at 21, then dropped to 18 and finally in line with Scotland equalising with heterosexual consent at 16.
Later still, same sex marriage.
Sofabeast
Level 7
Oct 10, 2022
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However, many children grow up, live in a supportive society and reject the crap from their childhood. How many of us escaped the religion that was forced down our throats!?
JackPedigo
Level 9
Oct 9, 2022
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Prejudice is and will continue to be an ongoing threat to society. As long as people desperately cling to the twisted morals of ignorant leaders, this will hold the entire planet hostage. Politics is divisive, Religion is divisive, Economics is divisive...our entire system has been designed to separate, subjugate and silence those who are not "chosen by God". Religion is the largest slavemaster in the entire History of Man. And we wonder why prejudice continues? Slaves were bought and sold by "good Christians"...what did they use for justification...and still do BTW(I actually heard an ignorant POS utter this BS not too long ago)..."ITS IN THE BIBLE". Then to cover their racist ASSES...they convert the slaves TO CHRISTIANITY...pretty slick. Society is a DUMPSTER FIRE and it is going to take a MAJOR shakeup to fix it. I don't have a solution but I do try to make sense out of this. I raised my kids right. I help where I can but society is headed for a reckoning.
phoenixone1
Level 8
Oct 9, 2022
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To me, people are just people. Some are nice and some are not. Male, female, sexual orientation, color, or ethnic background have no effect on whether a person is nice or not. If there is any judging to be done then it should be one on one.
Betty
Level 8
Oct 8, 2022
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@Gwendolyn2018 We are on the same page. My mom was the most open-minded person I knew growing up. Mom was born in 1915 and managed not to be influenced by closed-minded family and friends. I was lucky growing up with her as an example.
@Gwendolyn2018 When I was a young teen, my mom babysat two young Muslim boys. The parents had a hard time finding childcare in our town until they found my mum.
@Gwendolyn2018 It was also the early 70's in a french town.
@Gwendolyn2018 It amazes and saddens me how intolerable some groups of people are. Religion often promotes and encourages their parishioners either directly or indirectly to act and many of the acts on the behalf of Religion is violent.
In the late 60's and early 70's it was common to hear about beatings of homosexuals. It was a scary time for these young men.
@Gwendolyn2018 Fear is a powerful motivator.
@Gwendolyn2018 Of course there is nothing to fear from the LBGT+ community or women for that matter. There will always be opportunists who use "Fear" and "Differences" to gain a following to achieve power and control and eventually wealth. It is in our history, presence, and will be in our future. We are stuck with this human condition.
@Gwendolyn2018 A sad truth. 
I think you are 100 percent correct on this. Part of our problems come about because others do not want to learn or drop their bias. I remember when I was as ignorant and stubborn as any MAGA out there today and my belief system on everything was extreme right. I was horrible and too stupid to know it. I remember everything so well that I never want to be in that frame of mind ever again. Another thing on a personal level is to ask yourself if something you are not into is hurting you. Most likely it is not, so simply forget it. We have no thought police or lifestyle police, nor do we ever need them. Bias is one thing. Crime is another.
DenoPenno
Level 9
Oct 8, 2022
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@Gwendolyn2018 The Army made a big change in me on racism. It was still there but being in the Army forced me to examine it. I was hardly ever around black people until then. In 2004 I went to Kenya and married my now ex-wife. She was my "forever love" and as usual I was good for my traditional 12 years.
It's a different world than I grew up in. I was exposed to racism and violence but not homosexuality. When I was in 8th grade, a kid shot our shop teacher to death, so we weren't sheltered. There weren't any kids we knew about being raised by two dads. Nobody talked about it. It would have been scandalous. It's better that things are more open and people don't have to pretend they're not who they are.
barjoe
Level 9
Oct 8, 2022
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@Gwendolyn2018 It wasn't that they were "mean" to "the blacks" it was the vitriolic hated in their hearts. My parents weren't racist but my neighborhood was and still is when it comes to old school lifers. The younger, new people are quite liberal and tolerant. The old people are still yelling at clouds.
@Gwendolyn2018 That pile of shit probably claimed to be a man of faith.
That's the plan, plan's don't always work. Think with this issue it's best to act around kids as if it's no big deal, nothing unusual. Difference does not equate bad. Difference just means different.
Heard stories about preacher's daughters?
My friend is a very alternative type. Dreadlocks, always camping out at festivals and even organises one with a budget of $40,000. Very enterprising woman, smart, good friend. Her daughter grew up camping and going to festivals, running around barefoot and getting her face painted. Guess how she rebelled?
She became a Mormon at 16. Woke up to herself after 4 years but still. Cracked me up at the time.
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Oct 8, 2022
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