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I'm feeling a wee bit melancholy this evening. Okay, let's be honest, I'm feeling sorry for myself. My ex has moved on, and after almost two years, I still miss him, and what we had. I've been trying to be, if not a friend, at least friendly toward him. So.....all this being said, I'm listening to Fado music (Amalia Rodrigues is my favorite! Picked up one of her CDs while in Portugal a few years ago). It always makes me feel worse when I'm feeling sad. Yes, I'm a glutton for punishment! My question tonight is: what is your "go to" music when feeling down. The music you chose can either make you feel better, or like me, make you want to open a vein! Do tell, as misery loves company, my friends! 😉

AzVixen52 7 May 5
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Stop being or trying to be friends with him. It makes it worst. Start caring about yourself and put your energy in things that you love.

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Music doesn't do it for me
a super hot bath, scent and salts
bright light in my face and I sleep
ok I am weird

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Listening to upbeat, happy music doesn't get me to happy, but oddly torch songs do. They let me wallow just enough, make me feel understood and that somehow my burden is shared. At the very least they remind me that someone always has it worse. And voila! Not sure it works for everyone, but it's my fastest way to happy (or content, or at peace...)

Sirens of Song: Classic Torch Singers [g.co]

Makes sense to me!!

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You are not alone. I listen Sting's Desert Rose and John Mayer's Gravity and Edge of Desire, Evanescence, Lana Del Rey, when I feel the same way. And the one and only "The Division Bell".

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I like " The Division Bell " by Pink Floyd.

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I'm sorry you are feeling this way. It has to suck. I try to put on music that makes me feel better but in moments I think about my nephew who was shot and killed I play Mumford and Sons, one of his favorite bands and just bawl like a baby.

Wallowing in pain and sadness isn't always a bad thing. We move on, but sometimes it feels right. Sorry about your nephew, and thanks for GETTING IT.

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Oy vey. This song makes me sad when I'm happy! Good choice, though. Thanks.

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My go-to song to raise my mood immediately is the Doobie Brothers ~ What A fool Believes (1979)

Even better..Hugh Masekela - Grazing in the Grass

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I listen to Ricardo Arjona or Eros Ramazzoti. Sometimes Air Supply, Toto, Little River Band, Journey, Boston, etc. Classic rock does ot for me.
It's sad when the one you love, does not love you anymore.

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This one right here. I got you, girl.

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If I am feeling downl I usually go for uplifting music

As do I, but it depends on how I WANT to feel. I'm a glutton for punishment at times.

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Nothing cures the blues like the blues.

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When something ends, what we miss is what we thought it was; seldom what it actually was or the other person would still be connected.

To cheer up or just to start the day and get the 'blood moving' I love to listen to the Jeffersons Theme' 'Movin' on Up'.

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I know how you feel. I kicked my ex out 5 years ago. I've not had one relationship since (although I tried like hell to be slutty - just didn't work for me). I like Any Winehouse, kd lang, Edith Piaf...

Live music always does it for me Rand B or rock and roll.

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I also love music which opens a vein. Eagles “Wasted Time,” Jackson Browne really makes me weep. Late For The Sky, Fountain Of Sorrow, Sky Blue And Black, I’m Alive, Here Comes Those Tears Again (though now I hear it as my ex talking to me because her pain prevents any contact). All and more are great. Linkin Park’s A Thousand Suns works out the anger, especially Burning In The Skies, but that might be more of a male’s song. In fact, they might all be. I’m a male and our perspective is probably different.

Nothing wrong with different perspectives!

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Pandora... “The Way It Ought To Be”. “The Puppini Sisters”. “Pink Martini”. Mostly up tempo... music cures cancer... religion, and a whole host of temporary illnesses.
Good luck.

Tomas Level 7 May 6, 2018
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I have quite a few different go-to bands for different moods I'm in. Alice in Chains is one of those bands that makes me feel better when I'm down. Their songs are usually dark and depressing, but the fact that they so easily express the troubles and frustrations one often has trouble describing can be rather comforting.

I had the Jar of Flies CD years ago .Layne Staley had an amazing voice.
Rotten Apple is one of my favorite songs....haunting, and creepily beautiful.

@AzVixen52
They're still going strong. They've had two great albums after Layne's death, and have just announced an upcoming third. Going to see them in September.

@Beefcake I'm a purist; I prefer Layne. My listening stopped when he died.

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The b-52's. I can't be sad long when I listen to them. And I will not feed a sad mood.whats the point in that. Usually if I feel like being sad is the emotion I have and need at the time I just don't listen to music or watch tv or computer at all. But sometimes I will play my violin but I try to play loud and strong which helps the mood pass. Sometimes being sad or missing something that's been lost is just what we need to deal with. I hope you will find new love. Please just keep trying and never give up.

You are sweet; thank you!

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Reggae tends to really hit the spot for me if I'm feeling down.

smox Level 4 May 5, 2018

"Waiting in vain" is one of my favorites

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Morrissey, he's so over the top that you have to laugh at yourself 🙂

That "charming man" always does it for me too.

Ugh !

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When sad always go to old time country western music like “He Stopped Loving Her Today”. Pile on the sadness. Trying to be happy in those moments is futile so lean in to the pain.

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I always turn to the blues.....this one in particular.

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First, go make new memories. My experience with the situation you describe is that you are suffering because of the distance between what is happening and your conditioned mind from before. Go do cool stuff pronto and this will pass.

Anders Osbourne has done some work that helped me through some stuff. Peter Gabriel, of course... If it gets too bad, zappa did a great song about broken hearts. I just have to stay away from Pink Floyd because, while I love that band, I'm convinced that it would make me suicidal to hear too much of it.

Hang in there!

Trust me, I haven't been listening to this music for two years straight....just last night. Thanks for the tip. 🙂

Sometimes we don’t want to get over it right away. We want to reflect, feel, allow ourselves some grief, learn whatever might be new to learn from what went wrong, and then move on. In those times the music takes us on a journey that feels comforting.

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There's a song from Marilyn Manson's new album called "Blood Honey." that describes how my wife treated me perfectly. One of the main line lyrics goes "You only say that you want me when I'm upside down." A lot of Manson songs dealing with fucked up relationships actually resonate with me in fact. "Just A Car Crash Away" "If I was Your Vampire" "Third Day of a Seven Day Binge" to name a few.

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Awwww, that is shitty. So sorry to hear that.

I am deeply into Radiohead - which does not get the party started, believe me.

Marissa Nadler has done a great cover of No Surprises:

I had a break up; now I have a new girlfriend. These things do pass. Surprisingly.

Thanks, and yes they do.

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