Six months on the site. Looking Back
How the site has evolved since last year!
So I ask myself why I joined and what it is doing for me. So, this is how I see it:
My atheism -- not agnosticism because I don't call myself an agnostic -- is very important to me, at least until the world outgrows religion and the term will no longer be relevant, though that's not going to happen in my lifetime. I wanted to do here what I cannot do easily in normal life: interact with fellow atheists, yes about the issue of religious non belief, as well as other subjects.
Those who complain here about discussions about religion and atheism on this site strike me as odd. Like if someone joined a cat club and then complained about people talking about their cats! I've interacted with a lot of interesting people here since last December. Read about their stories and challenges. Would love to meet some face to face. Learned about how their views are similar or maybe dissimilar to mine.
There have been a few annoying agnostics complaining about atheism, unconvincingly; a few right wing nut jobs, well I meet them in life too; the odd new age pseudo religionist being 'spiritual', the occasional real religionist who seem as jittery here as a terrorist at an FBI lunch, and some, for the life of me I don't know why they are here, except maybe to get laid, as the saying goes. Well, I've learnt to take the rough with the smooth, avoid going down rabbit holes with those with whom it is better to agree to disagree with rather prolong the misery of ongoing battle.
All in all it has been fascinating, and me, not a social media person at all usually. And best of all, I know there are a lot of people out there like me, maybe not exactly on everything but close enough. Before this site I knew that, but now here I experience it. That means a lot.
So, for you six month-ers or longer, how's it working out for you?
Since I also belong to the December class I should only say Dave 63 Larry 66 here ya took the words out of my mouth while I do use CAPS differently as our Atheism is ALWAYS relevant. ....magical thinking is a source of creativity AND MUST BE BOUND BY CRITICAL THINKING outside the arts. ...the word Agnostic means as Huxley first invented the bogus 3rd possibility WE CANNOT KNOW IF ALLEGED gawds might exist somewhere ???? bullshit. ...we Atheists are correct and believers are deluded...the entirety of faith is impossible and irrational. ...it's time we Atheists take full credit for arts, science and technology. ....no prEyer ever created anything proved anything or invented anything....we Atheists must define our true spirits of harmony in nature and exclude the past or present miracle claims that cannot be tested
Hi there, I liked your post a lot. I identify with what you have said . I think there are such a variety of eclectic members with differing views and differing motives for membership.
Most are good people like yourself who feel non-believers can plug in to the network to meet to share experiences and discuss issues surrounding their conclusions and how they arrived at them etc
From there..friendships can be formed with those that you have most in common with and some that you don't..but that's no bad thing.
I have learned a lot too about many aspects of religion and Atheism that if anything has reinforced my opinion about how dangerous and destructive religion is. I also learned that Athiesm is populated by such a diverse group of people who sometimes have nothing more in common than their Athiesm.
I have also met a considerable amount of people that make me want to be a better person..they inspire...
The great thing is you are free to talk and discuss any topic, which is great too. I liked your comment about cats..you are quite right..I do think with the amount of cat owning members here..the site could easily be an Agnostic/Athiest/Cat site. ??
Anyway I enjoyed your post.
I had to have a look, 6 months for me.
I agree with your post, thank you for it, but better, for how well it reads.
What I get from the site keeps changing, I was over regular on-line dating sites, too many fake people.
On here I realised the chances of finding someone local was unlikely so changed to community only.
I have met (virtually) many decent and real people and also wish it was possible to meet them face to face.
I value our discussions highly.
I am also atheist rather than agnostic, it does get hard seeing many topics repeated over and over, but I was doing the same thing when I joined. I could discuss cats all day fine.
Speaking of which I have fed the dogs and it is past Kat's dinner time so I best find her and attend to that.
I think we will be going a while longer on tis site.
I have been on here for over five months now. I almost at Level 8, so I believe I can comment since I have dedicated so much time on this site.
I saw an advertisement for agnostic as a dating site (on Facebook) for like-minded people and I was intrigued because the other dating sites I used were not working out for me. It is a dating site, but I discovered so much more. I found a community of people that I have a lot in common with. I am an agnostic. I don't think that will ever change. I don't agree with everyone about everything and I don’t think I ever will. However, we are all free thinkers on this site and anti-religion (for the most part).
I have virtually met many nice ladies on here as well as men. When the site created the groups, for me, it opened up a whole new sense of community. People love to discuss similar interests and the creation of the groups certainly assisted with that. For example, when I created my Music Fans group, I didn't know how well it would be received, but many people have joined and they are posting YouTube videos of the music they love. There have been many discussions about songs posted and that is great to see.
It is a dating site, but for me, the strongest thing about this site, and why people keep coming back, is a strong sense of community. It's obvious to me that this is what people want the most.
I really enjoyed reading your well thought out post and the comments on here. Thanks!
Mine was a slow beginning here. There were times I wondered why I joined...but have since become very fond of enough people to keep me here.
Being that I joined due to the appeal of maybe finding a companion with the religious aspect out of the way was disappointed at first over all the religious discussion, then I calmed down over it. People truly still, unfortunately, need an outlet because some have been SEVERELY affected by religious damage and need the sounding board.
I usually don't click on those threads but once in awhile.. It's a needed facet for many and I don't begrudge them it for a hot minute.
Overall for the time being I'm quite content here.
I enjoy this site it's filled with a diverse group of people that I sometimes agree with and at other times not. If a subject is interesting and I have a thought, idea, or suggestion then I will comment. If everyone here had the same feelings, thoughts, ideas, and similar experiences I would find it boring.
I have been here since November and so far so good.
Nicely stated. I joined at the end of January, but still feel like an old-timer, watching it grow up! And that brings with it the terrible two's, teenage angst, and some who throw firebombs at people they don't agree with. Just like real life, as you said. I spend more time here now than on FB, which is how I found this site. As for the atheist/agnostic divide (and yes, it appears there is a much bigger divide than I would have thought), my answer will always be "why can't we all just get along?"
This site has brought me friends I will treasure for a long time to come. To know I can come here and vent, and mostly be supported. Just like real life.
I realised that the algorithms which match people don't really work.
All in all, it's a good site I think. But I am slightly suspicious about it. This site costs money to run and is funded solely by anonymous donors. I'd like to know who they are and why they're doing it.
I, probably like many others here, often feel like I don't belong "out there" in the world at large. That goes away here, for me. The judgement is absent, and I don't have to think about getting into useless arguments about stuff I've made up my mind on. At 68 yrs old, I'm not out to revolutionize society, but I will speak my mind if solicited.
I have probably blocked more members than anyone else on here because I just don't want to bother with what I consider their nonsense. I've, no doubt, been blocked too. As previously stated, I'm not out to change people's minds, they can believe what they want to believe, and unless or until it interferes with my life, carry on.
I was on this site close to the origination. I made some statements-probably didn't explain myself well enough what I meant st the time- and was attacked for it, so I quit. I'm glad I came back. Things seem to be less contentious and a bit more tolerant, generally. My approach, and my method of expressing myself also changed, for the better, I think.
Anyway, glad you're here. Very thoughtful post, thanks.
P.S. sorry for so many "I's", not sure yet how to avoid that.
Since I have joined there has been a definitive positive evolution of the site itself. I have had the pleasure of meeting like minded intelligent and articulate members. It has been a cathartic positive experience. It was exactly what I needed. I went through a giant tramatic situation in my life in 2017. It has been a helpful, positive place. Thanks to all of my "new" friends here.
Just a follow up comment about how interesting the replies have been here. It's quite moving how some have noted how the site has helped them through personal challenges and struggles in various ways. It's a sanctuary for me too. I hope @Admin are pleased and even proud of that fact. They started the site for motivations known to them (I'll use the plural, but I'm not sure if that's right) and now can see how important it is for so many in various ways. If this site suddenly disappeared without trace a lot of people would suddenly find an empty void in their day and life, including me. May the site only get bigger and better, but never lose its uniqueness for people like us. And I know there are a lot more like us out there. We just need to connect more. Thanks to all.
I’ve only been here since April of this year, but I enjoy coming to this website and reading people’s posts. I feel I can answer truthfully without people harassing me about being an atheist or saying “I’ll pray for you.”
Also I love that one of the hashtags for this post is cats. Hahaha
I'm very new to this site. I have not yet posted anything, just navigating the lay of the land ? Thank you for sharing your experience it was very enlightening. In my daily life ,due to my work, I'm constantly talking with people. Mostly I have very little in common with these people. As a one time young agnostic and now atheist, due to a life of critical thinking and acknowledgement of science, I am so pleased to find a place to interact and talk with like minded people.
Wow. I'm a spiritual agnostic so much of what you say attacks me. Doesn't sound very accepting or tolerant, to me.
Also, I also object to so many here going on endlessly complaining about religious people. I came here to avoid the subject of religion entirely.
Surely there is something more interesting to talk about than ranting against some myth.
I like to read people's biographies and their thoughts on atheism/agnosticism etc.
There is a vast range of experiences and thoughts on this site, even if mostly limited (in my experience) to non-religious, science-informed, left-leaning people.
My wife is a non-religious Muslim (possibly moving towards atheism). One of the uses of this site for me is to learn about experiences of (most-particularly, women) atheists who have come away from a religious background so I can speak with her sympathetically.