I believe a quality and successful long-term romantic relationship is built upon a strong foundation of friendship. Without that, it doesn’t have much to stand on through the ups and downs long-term. I don’t want to date anyone who doesn’t share that belief and isn't willing to make the time/effort/energy to co-create that delicious and valuable dynamic. 
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Agree-if you don't share common interests and become friends better success.
sassygirl3869
Level 9
May 26, 2018
2
Exactly, both would need to be willing to make the effort.
Wildgreens
Level 8
May 26, 2018
3
Cool....
Yes, friendship is important but for men we have to be careful not to fall into the “friend’s zone”. The kiss of death for a romantic relationship.
LibrePenseur
Level 7
May 26, 2018
1
I read an article recently about some scientists who tried to objectively measure what makes successful romantic couples successful. Their conclusion was it was the partners who treated each other with the most kindness.
One more reason why I'm a big proponent of kindness.
JeezumsCripes
Level 5
May 26, 2018
7
Although I totally agree on that, I always seem to make incredibly poor choices! I often end up with someone who turns out to be incredibly greedy, arrogant and unkind. But in the first few months they come across as charming, nice, interesting then everything gradually changes to the point where I cannot bear their huge sense of entitlement. I may be doing something wrong?
@AdriaBack I sort of think we all make a lot of relationship mistakes. I know I have. If I had to pick the one area where I've made the hugest mistakes, it would be in relationships.
The biggest thing I've learned is someone has to prove to me over time that they are a person I forge a healthy relationship with. And if they aren't where I need them to be at the outset, they probably aren't going to get there.
Similar to you, I've also faced the disappointment of meeting people who seemed cool at the beginning, but revealed their true selves over time.
Yes,listen,let her say her piece,then make suggestions,show compassion,tenderness,not all sharp edges.
@AdriaBack We all can have bad patterns of behavior and one of the hardest things you may ever do in your life is figuring out that undesirable part of yourself and doing something about it. These guys (gals? ) you keep ending up with probably give off some kind of vibe that you aren't even conscious of and yet some unhealthy part of you is attracted to that selfishness and entitlement. I am speaking from my own and the experience of others I've known. This includes something I am going through right now so I definitely am not putting myself forward as paragon of emotional health. I've decided to take a step back and re-learn what I thought I'd already figured out. I hope you are able to figure out what's going on and maybe be able to work on yourself. Peace.
@Stacey48 one thing I can never understand is why people can't reveal who they are from the beginning of a relationship. You are going to find out who they really are sooner or later anyway. Why waste someone else's time and ultimately your time when the outcome of being dishonest is going to lead to a breakup...
Friendship is necessary but what kind of friendship? Meaning that I can be friends with someone but to be in a relationship we'll have to be more so on the same trajectory. I have friends that are waaaaay different from me and that would never work. So while friendship is necessary, it has to be more than that. For me, anyway.
farmboy2017
Level 7
May 26, 2018
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