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Hello fellow followers,,my beloved dog died a couple of weeks ago,my grief is still overwhelming,,my world has become very different,,no need to get out of bed,,not eat,,or do anything ,I lost my best friend that meant everything to me,as I live on my own ,,,yes I am on dating sites but no action on that ,so I am doing something so wrong ,,I would love a parnter ,as I have been so lonely for a while now ,,I think since I list my dog ,I realise how alone I am ,,yes I could join groups ,,etc but nothing fires my belly ,,I am not sure I should be sharing this ,but it's good to see my feelings in print ,,thanks for reading this far ,,

Ellen 4 May 30
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(((((Hugs)))))

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There are others that need you badly. They will save you as you save them. Go to the shelter.

Shelter Dogs know they've been saved,give your new Dog the same care of your recently lost one.

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Based on all the lovely comments here there's obviously a lot of great people here. Let me add my 2 cents: I am in a similar place and understand your loneliness and despair. It can get better. It's definitely not a straight and easy path. But I believe it's worth it. I truly hope your future becomes more enjoyable. With you in the struggle. Peace

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved companion. ?

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I am so sorry for your loss. I know how raw & alone you must feel. My dog, Puck, died the Thursday before Mother's day. He was almost 17 & went everywhere I went on my off time.

I do okay, then something happens, a thought or a sympathy card or I run across a toy & the grief bites so hard & fresh all over again.

I am trying to make the best of it. I donated all his spare leashes, collars, toys, food, bandanas & his brand new bed to the local no kill shelter. Of course I kept his favorite toys, collar & such. I donate a bag of food every paycheck since I am no where near ready for a new companion animal. I'm also considering volunteering, but not yet.

Take your time. Grieve. Slowly it will get better but there is no point in rushing. Check with your vet & see if there is a pet loss support group in your area. We have one here & the folks there are great.

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Ellen -- I'm so very sorry for your loss. I absolutely believe that we love animals as much as people -- at least some of us do. The dog who rescued me nine years ago is now on his way out so I think I understand your pain a bit. I would suggest you let yourself experience the pain and be very, very kind to yourself for a while. Let your heart heal for a bit before making decisions or plans.
On another note, do not assume that lack of action on dating sites means you are doing something wrong. Instead, it may be a sign you are doing things right

Look up The Rainbow Bridge, a Norfolk Legend. It will give you some peace at a time like this. I understand your pain and think you are a passionate and caring dog owner. I am on 2 dating sites for a couple of months with no luck apart from scammers but I keep going knowing there is someone out there for me otherwise I am content on my own

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You've touched something there Ellen. I really feel for you. My old mate, Dooley (see pic) has been with me for over 18 years.
He is not well. The end is very, very near.
Find writing this heart wrenching. Especially since your post is a reflection of me.

Hi ,yes it's not easy ,,I am so sorry for your day is to come ,,,I don't think your ever prepared to say good bye ,,I will be there for you if you need a friend to walk through the grief ,as I know too well it's lonely on your own when the day comes to say goodbye ,

@Ellen Thank you Ellen. May need to PM you soon.

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So sorry for your loss

gater Level 7 May 30, 2018
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Almost four years since I lost my beagle hiking buddy and I'm still not ready for another dog. I have a feral cat that is very slowly learning how to be a pet. He was in desperate straights and doomed if I hadn't intervened otherwise, I wouldn't have a pet.

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I truly understand, I have always cherished my dogs more than I care to say! I have had two that walked by my side for twenty years each both were very hard loses. One that I went all the way back to Missouri to retrieve and bring to our new home in Florida! (He had to make one last call on his girl friends just as we were leaving) The other was my sons companion all through school and chased his truck through town crying like a baby, when he was leaving for college. But you just have to lock away those wonderful memory's, breath a deep sigh and be thankful that you got to share the good times with them, life is short and has to continue on. You had the privilege to share your walk through life's curves with a trusted and loving friend! (That's special that's something not everyone gets to do.)

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Hello Ellen. I am dreadfully sorry for you at what must be a difficult time. To loose anyone or anything which you have built up a relationship with is tough. I do hope you are feeling a small bit better each day.

I think I getting better ,but just when you least expect it ,it washes over me ,,and I can't control it ,,thank you for your kind words it does help ,,,

I think I getting better ,but just when you least expect it ,it washes over me ,,and I can't control it ,,thank you for your kind words it does help ,,,

@Ellen, it is said that time is a great healer. Maybe take each day as it comes. When you notice any thoughts surfacing that affect you negatively try and view them from a positive manner. Remember the good times you shared with your pet and think how lucky you were to have had that shared experience?

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