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Do you believe in ex lovers getting back together ?

By EmeraldJewel
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Truly depends on if they've both grown and overcome their challenges. Unless one was a cheating abusive psycho

LadyAlyxandrea Level 8 June 13, 2018
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As long as it's not me and one of mine...no problem.

Condor5 Level 8 June 14, 2018
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It can happen. The issue(s) that caused the breakup needs to be completely resolved though.

dani2382 Level 5 June 14, 2018
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I tried it with my first love...and too late, realized the good sense in breaking up all those years ago. I’d like to think it can happen, but it hasn’t for me.

CarolinaGirl60 Level 7 June 13, 2018
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Currently wishing it could be, but not betting the farm on it...

lcmdws Level 4 June 17, 2018
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No. I married my husband twice. Shouldve killed him the first time.😊

J-MaisOui Level 5 June 15, 2018
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smile002.gif lol!

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Nope. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!

Knd502 Level 7 June 14, 2018
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Yes..better the devil you know..πŸ˜‚
I haven't done it exactly..as in returned to reprising a relationship with an ex.
However on two ex girlfriends..it seemed almost impossible to extricate ourselves completely because sexually speaking we found it difficult not to have sexual relations even though we were no longer together..its silly but..the love of body didn't die with the end of the love of mind or direction.

Hitchens Level 7 June 14, 2018
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I have done this with a few people in my life. Sometimes it was just a matter of needing a break. But with one, we went on to have a relationship that lasted nine more years. And it wasn’t horrible. With another I got back together with him and we stayed together another 4 years. No regrets. There’ve been a few online relationships where I’ve gotten back together with somebody, again no regrets. I’m a firm believer in the fact that I have a special place in my heart for all my exes. I will always have love for that person. I don’t rule out anything.

CM1965 Level 7 June 14, 2018
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I think if you break up once, there is no need to get back together. Because, really why break-up in the first place.

MoniB Level 5 June 13, 2018
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My parents will celebrate 64 years of marriage this year.
They’ve broken up, been with other people, and gotten back together a handful of times in that period.

I’m not sure what you mean by β€œbelieve” in this context.
It happens.

AMGT Level 8 June 13, 2018
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Generally there is a reason an ex is an ex. However, I have seen some cases where reunited exes made it work. Could be that immaturity got in the way the first time around.

itsmedammit Level 6 June 14, 2018
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Why visit the past and expect a different future?

Wonderer9746 Level 3 June 14, 2018
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When I was 19 I went down to New Orleans with my cousin and a friend to check out Paul Prudhomme's Louisiana Kitchen as a budding young chef in the making. While enjoying a very underage drunk, I heard a regular down there sing one of his best that I think sums up my opinion on the matter pretty well... "Baby if I went back to you, it'd be like cookin' in 'Old Grease'. Lol
But honestly, while it may be comfortable, whatever separated you in the first place will always be there and you just cannot turh back the clock. Unfortunately.

DerekFuiten Level 4 June 14, 2018
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Sure.

I'll do you one better: how about having a "stand-by" that you go back to whenever you're not involved in a "real" relationship? Ya know, like a permanent on-call FWB?

It's all good, as long as it's done in good faith, full knowledge, mutual consent and reciprocity, good judgment, integrity, total honesty (with self and others), etc. That's my MO for all things, pretty much.

stinkeye_a Level 7 June 14, 2018
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I recall reading a statistic once, to the effect that one in four divorced couples will either remarry each other or live together again. I know several couples who have done this and have been much happier the second time around. Of course, they didn't break up over violence or cheating ~ in each case it was over one partner wanting children and the other one not wanting children. In my lifetime, I have had relationships that have waned and then reignited and then waned again, reignited. This can go on for years ~ we remain friends no matter what. Again, there was never any ugliness ~ more a sense that we're restless and ready to move on. I'm still in touch, regularly, with lovers from forty years ago. Some even send me gifts on my birthday and/or Christmas. I'd say 'no' if the relationship had been abusive in any way. For the quality of men I've been fortunate to have in my life ~ I'm usually happy to have another go 'round.

Spudnut Level 6 June 14, 2018
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Relationships are like a gallon of milk. If you pour a glass & it tastes sour, you don't put the jug back in the fridge & think, "this will be so much better 3 months from now." You broke up for a reason. Let that sleeping dog stay asleep.

SallyInStitches Level 7 June 13, 2018
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Usually relationships end for a reason. So no. I don't think it's a good idea.

jjhagen Level 6 June 13, 2018
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I don't NOT believe in it. It can happen, just depends on the circumstances of those involved.

IAMGROOT Level 7 June 13, 2018
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Why not? Some of the most lasting marriages that I’ve seen are the same ones that repeatedly broke up and reformed. Of course, there’s the added value of drama.

Gatovicolo Level 7 June 13, 2018
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Do people really change? Somehow I doubt it, we evolve but our core personality is there by the time we reach early adulthood most of what we are is fixed. So whatever didn't work before still won't work if we give it a second chance. Sometimes we just want the familiar even though we know it isn't good for us.

Surfpirate Level 8 June 13, 2018
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Most of the time its a bad idea! Those are my feelings on it, usually there is a reason why it didn't work the first time

ScienceBill72 Level 7 June 13, 2018
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If both of you feel like it was wrong to separate or if you miss each other, then by all meas, but if you are only returning to each other because of familiarity, do not. Familiarity brings the problems back, while actually missing them can help you realize where you were wrong and try to fix the flaws you previously had.

cweigle Level 5 June 17, 2018
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Yes! If there were a way to rate this answer 5 stars I would.

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Possibly. Imagine you had a chance meeting with your boyfriend/girlfriend from when you were 18, 25 years or more since you last saw one another... you'd both have changed a lot since then, but maybe you both still have those characteristics that made you attracted to each other. Who knows - it might work out.

Jnei Level 8 June 17, 2018
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Depends upon the strength of the initial relationship and the causes that led to its breakdown. Statistically I suspect such reunions are rare.

rcandlish Level 5 June 14, 2018
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