If you start picking and choosing friends for your lover, that's controlling and ultimately self defeating. If you can't handle it, maybe you should confront your own insecurity and sense of self worth instead of wallowing in pointless jealousy. Just imo.

I have never had a breakup that resulted in being friends. I find it hard to imagine being emotionally removed from a romantic partner that I could be around them and there not be unsettled issues. I find the concept completely alien to my own life.

I've remained friends with every woman I've slept with. The only thing which would cause me to break things off with an ex completely is abuse or other criminal behavior, and I've never been with a woman who is prone to that type of behavior.

It totally depends on the individual ex. I have one, who had to get drunk, in order to discuss how he felt about anything...we no longer communicate. I have others who I hope I will always be in touch with, as they have morphed into feeling like members of my extended family. I will always wish them well and want to know how their lives are going. That being said, I no longer live near any of them, so these are easy, long-distance relationships.

Depends on why they got divorced, kids involved, extended families involvement with one another

After all, she’s dead.

I've had a few bad encounters with the " friendly ex's" that's a no go for me. Same for single moms. I'm not raising someone else's kid and dealing with the drama from having an ex around.

I don't wish my ex any ill; I hope she's happy in her new relationship and finds success in her own endeavors and she hopes I'm happy in mine. When we do talk, it's pleasant conversation and we're far enough away from the divorce that we can speak of the old times and remember when things were good.

But I'm not far enough away from it that I'll forget the bad times and why we split. Don't want any more of that. So my preference is that she and I keep our distance from one another.

As for my partner, I'm at an age where many of the women I'm attracted to have children, so it's better when they get along with their ex husbands enough to amicably share child care responsibilities. That makes having actual dates possible. I also think that if my partner spends a whole lot of time ruminating about or being angry towards her ex, that is likely to be my fate with her one day too, which I don't particularly want.

So I would really prefer my partner have a similar attitude about her ex as I have towards mine: amicable, but socially separated.

My ex underwent several brain surgeries that totally altered her personality, to the point that we know longer have anything in common. It would not bother me if someone was friends with her but, the changes she underwent are so alien to how she was before I doubt I could even be attracted to someone who could put up with them.

Friends, fine.
Best friends? Y'all ought to remarry.

My ex was best man at my wedding.

Doesn't bother me, but personally, I've never managed to stay close to an ex. If fact I can think of two of them who'd probably belt me in the face with a shovel if they saw me first... Hell hath no fury, etc... ?

My ex-wife and I are still the best of friends. I wouldn't hold that against anyone else. In fact, it's a good thing. (She can still irritate me, though. Just saying.)

No vote. But if money is a Bind in a Capitalist Society that it is this one I live in. She receives half of my military pension every month so.... that is close in my book.

I'm still close to a few of my exes. We know that we don't work as a couple, but we keep the friendship going because we have a bond and common interests.

My ex still calls me at least once a week and really doesn't have much to say. We hadn't any children so that isn't a reason for contact. No alimony, no investments together nothing, fini. Asks me sometimes if I need food? I'm retired with SS and a Union pension, sometimes I sit around wondering what useless item to buy every month. ???

Still very friendly with my ex. Will remain so. If the ex was bad news and someone remained close to them? Would make me question whether I should be seeing this person.

She's dead, how close do you want her to be ?

I still talk to my ex-gf. I enjoy hanging with her, but our reglious views are so different that we couldn't make a relationship work out.

My ex (still married actually, after twenty years apart) lives about 100 meters away. A very, very 'mixed blessing'.

I couldn't say. Typically my exes leave, stay in touch for a month or two, then vanish.

My ex and I are still close. We have separate lives now, but when we meet we chat and laugh. The pressure of sustaining a failing marriage is now removed, and 16 months on now we are still very good friends - we would do anything for each other. We just can't be together. After a 27 year relationship, that is hard. But at least we have retained the friendship that we started out with.