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Is dating, long-terming, or marrying out of the question for you with a religious person or persons? Is it to wide of a fundamental chasm to bridge, or is being non-religious not hat far up on your list of priorities?

SteveGee 4 Dec 27
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No. My wife of many years is a devout Catholic. We simply agree that each has the right to his/her own beliefs and there are no conversion attempts from either side. Other than religion, we share many values and beliefs.

Interesting. Do you simply avoid the topic? Or are there discussions ?

@SteveGee Rarely. She never asks about my absence of religious belief. We might discuss ideas from a program on religion on PBS os something like that.

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For me it’s not. I’m happy to let people think what they will and meet in the middle somewhere. The religious, on the other hand, are nowhere near as accommodating.

And therein lies the rub...!!!

Fait accompli

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No one religious for me please.

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I wouldn't have enough in common. I tried a live-in relationship with someone who once studied for the priesthood. They need to be liberal politically as well.

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Absolutely too far of a compatibility difference for me. I tend to pity those indoctrinated from childhood and am flabbergasted by any adult who would voluntarily choose such a delusion. Friendship is a possibility, but the respect needed to underpine anything romantic would simply not be there.

Zster Level 8 Dec 27, 2017

Why can’t I be that concise, and accurate 😉

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It depends on how important their religiosity is to them and how it impacts their beliefs about relationships, civil rights, etc. I can be alright dating a believer- unless he's judgy and always trying to convert or shame me or others.

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I am still willing to try with someone who takes a somewhat metaphorical view of their religious paradigm and recognized the social symbolism for what it is--cultural values. There are a lot of "progressive Christians" who just totally re-interpret the religion they were socialized into to be something more respectful and socially responsible. But I'm leery. I have met a fair number of people who identify as Christian, who really don't practice it but just haven't felt a strong enough revulsion to officially abandon the paradigm. But I find out quickly how they feel by their reactions to my rather vocal criticisms of it. If they're offended by my opinions, that pretty much ends it.

It's all metaphorical anyway, don't you think?

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Opposites do attract but from experience I know it does not end well. If both are not on the extreme side of their convictions it might work.

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Oh hell no! Everybody’s different, but I could never be with no religious person. I’m sure they couldn’t be with an atheist, either. It’s too much an annoying hassle.

Right, it goes both ways...! Never thought of that. Do you suppose there are Believers having the same discussion on one of their pages...!!??

@twshield alright!

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