with a partner? It's been 2,561-62 days now. I have a relationship with "Hanna". She's always been there by my side for my entire life. Testosterone packed it's bags and left some time ago and a reasonable facsimile isn't allowed. My urologist told me that or orgasm twice a week was good keeping the prostate from swelling so I follow his instructions. He even told me to get a girlfriend. I told him I was an atheist and he said with a sad face, "oh". What a dilemma eh? I don't really miss it bt it wold be nice to do again with someone that I'm emotionally conneted to.

No Vote... I don't get poll by strangers on my personal habits or history. Society tells me shit about what I do, how I do it, when I do it.

8 hours ago. Happens every day. One of the perks of being a hippie. I feel sorry for those of you who have been sexless for months or years. The fault lies within yourself. You are the ones making the decision to be celibate. You need to open your mind and feel what the universe is offering you. Become one with the earth and surround yourself with the energy that courses through you at every moment of your existence on this plane. Learn to love all that you see and rejoice in the
fact that you are a part of it all.

Ummm, what year is this? It's been awhile... that's all I'm saying.

This is not what I consider normal, but due to lack of a partner, it has been a long time. When I was married, I would have had sex 4 days or more a week if my wife had been agreeable. Now, at 66, I would be happy to cuddle, and let sex happen when we were ready. I sure do miss it! ?

1998. I'm 74.

You are asking questions I have asked myself over and over: why are there so-called societal norms at all regarding something that is nobody's goddamn business but your own?

This is one area where "the media" is exploitative and intrusive, imho, and like you, I think they are setting standards and making pronouncements about something they should keep their fucking prying noses the hell out of. The only caveat there is, they wouldn't dig into it if people didn't want to hear it, would they?

I have never been one to discuss my sex life with others, no locker room banter, and that kind of nonsense, and I don't want to feel that I'm "inadequate" in some way because I'm not banging someone on a regular and consistent basis; that's complete and utter bullshit.

As far as I can tell from your post, you seem to have a pretty insightful, and incisive, outlook on the matter; another area where it appears society has gone sideways. Or, maybe I'm just a cranky old geezer, I dunno.

And, jfyi, it's been about 4-5 years; I can barely recall.

I'm still a virgin!!

Of tattooing!! Lmao
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It's depressing when I think about it. And I'm basically horny all the time - kinda sucks...

What does sex have to do with atheism unless you were fucked by your clergynaut as a child? After seeing some of these responses and comments I wonder if any of you get out and socialize?

Having had a 38 year long monogamous marriage (36 legal) I have had the spectrum. Multiple times a day, years apart. There is no "should be" or not.

I last had October last year, a few weeks before my wife passed away

I am well over 50 and it does seem the opportunities are less available than the ability and desire. I find this very frustrating. I don't like feeling like a dirty old man when a young girl walks by. I have been in relationships where I was often "sated" ..... I now feel it is a shame how much I didn't appreciate that now that I am no longer in a relationship.

Satisfying relationships (on an emotional/companionship) level seem ever harder to find as well. It seems I've become less flexible in my habits as have most potential partners. Seeking medication to lower libido may be an option I should consider. It makes little sense to be rutting around like a horny animal seeking a mating opportunity. I find it demeaning and most women my age do not appreciate it anyway.

I almost voted virgin. I feel like I'm starting over.

I have recently read about a 30-day 'test'. If you have a partner (which I don't at the moment) you should have 30 days of sex in a row. I've never tried this, but can see the benefits as well as how difficult it might be. Anyone want to be a test bunny with me?

sex is certainly overrated, yet the physical closeness, excitement & affection i remember accompanying it would be a thing of beauty after a cold spell of 12 years - but then, i'm well past 50, hormones in the basement, & i find the idea of crashing into a libidinous man between daunting & jocular.

As a born again virgin I am waiting for the rapture. Then I might do myself. Deviant enough?

Got testosterone? = horny
Got estrogen? = not so much
simple

I find I don't really care who's doing what when ... except me, and whomever .